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Is It Normal To Hate Husband

Is it normal to hate your husband so much that sometimes you wish he wouldn't come home?

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 ---Julia on 3/18/10
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yes,but we shouldn't hate,we need to forgive others what they had done to us
---Bill_Branche on 4/20/15


Yes, it's totally normal. We all just hide it in front of others.
---Ru on 3/14/15


//My best moment is when my wife's away and the kids are with me. Our favorite moment is when she is asleep or at work. //
---Sin on 10/9/14

been there. feel your pain.
---aka on 10/9/14


My best moment is when my wife's away and the kids are with me. Our favorite moment is when she is asleep or at work. But of hating your husband, read TITUS 2:3-4, "Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children." We are to love our enemies and love our spouse. May be this is why there is marriage.
---Sin on 10/9/14


Peter "though you may mean God knows there is nothing better to do?" yes, if that wording pleases you more I'll go along with that. I will also add that I don't believe that God is happy when he sees a man beating his wife to pulp or sleeping with different women every night and returning to his wife only when he feels like doing so, then expecting her to accommodate 'his needs' on those occasions.

I truly believe that God wants better lives for many women than many are getting. I don't believe that, because He hates divorce, these women are meant to suffer in this way until one of them dies.
---Rita_H on 8/25/14




Rita H: 'There MUST be occasions when God (happily) gets a person out of a marriage'

Which happily do you mean? I do not think God is happy about that - though you may mean God knows there is nothing better to do?

But someone 'getting out of a marriage' is not good
---Peter on 8/24/14


To hate is horrendously negative and not a feeling we should have about anyone, HOWEVER, I do believe that it is possible to lose the love once felt for a spouse.

Not all marriage break-ups are 50/50 blame situations. One might cheat on the other in secret and the other spouse be in total shock when that is discovered or one might be cruel beyond belief.

To wish the marriage to end is different from absolutely hating the person. There MUST be occasions when God (happily) gets a person out of a marriage.
---Rita_H on 8/22/14


Hello,Cluny all respect is right.If you get married going "on feelings!" You in for a short road but, lots of trouble.
marriage is an act of your will, bound by an oath, it not like you won the lottery, committment, God had a strict purpose in mind.Since Adam & , His mate Eve, it all changed.You got to get the word to work in both persons, God expects faithfullness, temprance longsuffering, patience, love, mercy, forgiveness, respect alot goes in not just feelings....
---Elena_9555 on 8/21/14


One cannot be a Godly person and "hate" someone. The times I hated another person I just hurt myself. My god is a god of love.
---leon_jones on 8/21/14


It is not normal to hate anyone. A person becomes bent/negative because of things he/she has gone through in life. This not an excuse for bad people.
Even God our Father seeks our repentance & turn-around when we were bad to Him.
Matthew 18:17 rather instructs that we treat the person as a heathen or publican (KJV) if all reconciliation moves recommended have failed (not hatred).
---Adetunji on 8/13/14




If it were natural to love your husband, you would not promise to do so at the wedding service.

Love is an act of the will, not a feeling.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 8/8/14


IS it ok to divorce because a spouse hates you and refuses to change.
---Kimmel on 8/7/14


To hate your husband is to hate yourself. You must find out what you hate about yourself that is making you hate your husband. Find the love within your heart to love who you are and then you will find a way to love you husband. Turn to GOD and ask him to lead you in this search to help you find the love that you have lost. Pray for all the answer by reading the Bible. I was always taught to just open the Bible to any page and start reading. GOD knows what you need to hear and he will guide you to the pages you should be reading today. Try it, it will work!! Peace Love and Happiness to all!
---magster on 3/21/10


The word says what God hath joined together let not man put asunder.
Not what lust, money, internet dating services, or man has joined together.
If it is truly what God hath joined together the two will become one and not hate one another.Marriage is a type and shadow of Christ and his church.
---Frank on 3/19/10


What is the cause or purpose of your chosen hatred?
---Eloy on 3/20/10


Narcissists (control freaks) cause FEAR in their victims and TRAIN/condition them to ACCEPT ABUSE by DEMORALIZING THEM so they can no longer think straight about "IS THIS NORMAL...?".

WE have the luxury of being able know right from wrong (because we have not been DEMORALIZED). Julia has been TERRORIZED, DEMORALIZED and TRAUMATIZED (Give Julia a break, Cluny). The last thing she needs to hear from compassionate Christians is that it's her fault...ever hear of a 'bedside manner'?

Unfortunately, narcissism is very common among husbands.
---more_excellent_way on 3/19/10


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\\No, it's not normal for a wife to hate her husband (and it doesn't mean at all that the wife is not "normal"/mentally stable). It means that the husband is a "sicko" and is UNGODLY.

***

You hate your husband because he is BAD/MEAN/UNGODLY. You are perfectly sane and mentally stable.
---more_excellent_way on 3/19/10\\

Of course, there's absolutely no way that the woman has a warped view of life in general and her husband in particular, now is there?
---Cluny on 3/19/10


No, it's not normal for a wife to hate her husband (and it doesn't mean at all that the wife is not "normal"/mentally stable). It means that the husband is a "sicko" and is UNGODLY.

A very large part of Christianity believes that a woman's children should be SPANKED....unhappy woman....So then, the husband extends the violence to the wife....AND THEN, Christianity asks WHY is there unhappiness amongst us....DUH!!!!

Christianity,....GET A CLUE!

"Submit" is wrong, "spank" is wrong.

Unhappiness....BAD.

You hate your husband because he is BAD/MEAN/UNGODLY. You are perfectly sane and mentally stable.
---more_excellent_way on 3/19/10


In last night's newspaper was an account of a woman who's husband was murdered, She said if you find the murderer I want to shake his hand. After 20 years of mental and physical abuse it's finally ended!
I wouldn't recomend it,but for some women it's a relief.
We do have a police force to deal with physically abusive men!
---1st_cliff on 3/19/10


\\Wives are to submit to their husbands as the head, and husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves his church.\\

When you think about it, it's the husbands that get shorted here.

I'd rather be loved than merely submitted to.
---Cluny on 3/19/10


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Julia, what is he doing to you that you HATE him so much?

I don't think I've ever used the word hate when my ex-husband was beating me up.

It's not normal Julia to HATe if you are a Christian. The love of Jesus controls us. We have the mind of Christ, amen?

What's wrong? Tell us what he's doing that you hate him.

eric, I got divorced because my Christian husband, whom I met in church was beating me up the last 8 months of our marriage.
He wanted noting to do with praying or doing spiritual things together. He watched demonic and evil shows like Scream, Scream II, all alien shows, etc., He was arrested for Domestic Violence. does that explain WHY I divorced him?
---Donna on 3/19/10


Divorce is not ALWAYS a sin! If a husband is cheating on the wife it's not a sin to dump his cheating butt!
---Mary on 3/19/10


Julia, I'll ask my wife tonight, if you want
---peter3594 on 3/19/10


I do not understand why a woman says its normal. Is it true hatred or just a feeling that I just don't want my husband to be around.Besides, Is he not the same husband you always yeran for and if he comes back later, won't you complain?
---Ernest_Musekiwa on 3/19/10


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Hate and anger are emotions. They are not abnormal. But to hate can be a sin. However, there is a reason why you hate him. Something he is doing triggers this. If you can't talk to him, see a counselor, preferably a christian one. Keep praying.
---eric on 3/19/10


Something is very wrong here if most of the women on this site are unhappy with their husbands. Where's the communication? The Christian love? Wives are to submit to their husbands as the head, and husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves his church.

Many on here are divorced. What's up with that? Divorce among christian couples are higher than in the general population. Something is very wrong here. I don't believe a divorced person should ever call themselves single. Doesn't make it less sinful. The world believes divorce is ok. But Christians should know better. Unless its fornication, its a sin before God. Calling yourself single is wrong too.
---eric on 3/19/10


a time to love and a time to hate, Ecclesiastes 3:8 NIV It's a time and season for everything under the Heaven, to go through in this world. Be Bless!!!
---Kimberly on 3/19/10


if you are being abused,probably not,but that being said ,its not a good thing to hate anyone,but its not abnormal.Though we all should practice forgiveness,and especially quickly,it really is better for us to forgive then to let hate fester in our hearts and minds.
---tom2 on 3/18/10


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Apparently on these blogs it is. I've heard from only ONE woman who is happy with her husband.
---Cluny on 3/19/10


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