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Godly Man Rule Over Wife

How does a Godly man rule over his wife? Or this even to be so? Scriptures please.

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A Godly man is to rule over his wife by ruling over himself with the word of God. He is to then take the word of God and wash his wife down with it. That is what Adam was supposed to do in the Garden, lead by example to the word of God. So its not really the man ruling, but God ruling through the man.And if the wife is not obedient to her husband when he is Godly and honouring the Word, then she is rebelling. Rebellion is as witchcraft and if she continues to disobey the word of God, thats because she is not a true believer. Husbands sacrafice yourselves for your wives as Christ did for the Church. Be a man and that a man of God. Don't be afraid to take your authority in Christ Jesus.
---Tiffany on 5/20/10


Andy: While God may have written Genesis, and had the scripture say that the husband was to have dominion over the wife, as in a slave relationship, it seems that differs a bit from Ephesians where he tells husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the Church and gave Himself up for her. Any man demanding my subjection is going to find himself out the door, if he ever gets in in the first place. I am subject to nobody but Christ. My former husband never demanded my subjection. He always included me in every decision. The times I thought my submission was a mistake turned out for my own good, as when I went to college and majored in education. I am now self-supporting. Would not have been had I not completed that teaching degree.
---Trish9863 on 5/19/10


Genesis 3:16, Rule in the original means make to hav) dominion, reign, , have power.
NOT VOLUNTARY An image of the slavery mankind came under.

1 corinthians 14: 34 be under obediance is to submit your self unto.
VOLUNTARY, an image of the servanthood the church has (or should have) towards Christ.

there is a day and night differnce between the curse of the original sin.
and the law of a household. but in practise not much difference is seen, it is i the heart and in the inner marital relation. I'm a man, my wife is under obediance, yet i do almost nothing without her agreeing upon it first.
---Andy3996 on 5/18/10


Hello, Ibrahim_Adamu

You have to give some background to answer your question.

Where are you from?

I believe in God that gave His Only begotten Son, Christ (Savior) Jesus, who shed His Blood to save all mankind by His Death and Resurrection?

What do you believe?
---aka_joseph on 5/14/10


I young boy i about to mary iwant to know if i married my wife how can my house will be in peace, people will be learning from us
---Ibrahim_Adamu on 5/14/10




Is there really a scripture that says a man is to "rule over" his wife.? A LEADER is followed willingly because he has earned respect.
---Donna66 on 5/4/10

Genesis 3:16
Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception, in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children, and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
Your last sentence says it pretty much. We submit/follow Christ...(shepherd)...but, he is a ruler as well. Would we want to usurp his position? Could we do it better? If a husband is chosen well...can you do better or does his strength combined with yours bring better fruit? Is a man alone a completion....is a woman? Is height better than width?
---Trav on 5/4/10


Is there really a scripture that says a man is to "rule over" his wife.?

There is this: Eph 5:22-24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it,

It's a semantic thing, I know...but Monarchs RULE and, and their subjects are not "asked" to submit.
A LEADER is followed willingly because he has earned respect.
---Donna66 on 5/4/10


Funny responses...lol. I'd like to add someting.

There is this very anointed Godly man in his 70's now...back in the 1980's he would come to the United States to see his friend Hester and hold meetings for us because we'd beg him to. If you heard his teachings, he taught from the Power of the Holy Spirit, not from his intellect.

My point is this: When we'd have breaks from the meetings, he'd come to the dining hall and help us fold laundry that we'd take out of the dryer. I was like, "you don't have to do that." He smiled at me and kept on doing it. I would never expect a man like that to do anything like that...but he did and it melted my heart. So that's my two cents. It melts hearts when men do things for women.
---Donna5535 on 5/3/10


Hi, I agree with you Donna, I'd just like to add that someone half as godly as Jesus would also be glad to share the dishes! :)
---Mary on 4/30/10

He would....but, one would loathe to expect it or to ask knowing in their heart that at their very humblest moment, one should wash his feet with their hair.
---Trav on 5/2/10


Hi, I agree with you Donna, I'd just like to add that someone half as godly as Jesus would also be glad to share the dishes! :)
---Mary on 4/30/10




My serious answer is: If a man treats his wife like Christ loves the church, that woman will melt in his hands, will submit to Him very nicely.---Donna5535 on 4/26/10

You may be a fine Gem Donna.

Prvbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

12She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

13She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

14She is like the merchants' ships, she bringeth her food from afar.
Etc,
etc,
etc,
---Trav on 4/30/10


I truly hope you will receive this message. And by the way, I must not get out of God's timing. God wants me to be a powerful preacher. Amen. Good day.
---catherine on 4/22/10

GOD did not tell you this. He would be breaking his own word, and won't do that either.
catherine...told catherine this. You will be a legend in your own mind....especially since you do not use any scripture to back anything you have said...preached. Your heat is sincere and your love/enthusiasm of GOD...your logic not found in scripture is faulty and weakens your testimoney.
---Trav on 4/27/10


"How does a Godly woman submit to her husband? Or this even to be so? Scriptures please."
---Eloy on 4/23/10

Eloy, my answer is: VERY CAREFULLY...lol.

My serious answer is: If a man treats his wife like Christ loves the church, that woman will melt in his hands, will submit to Him very nicely.

If Jesus were my husband, and He is figuratively "I am the vine and my father is the husbandman," "For your maker is your Husband, the Lord of Hosts is his name," then I would have no problem doing the dishes for Jesus, doing His laundry, doing all the chores if He loves me like Jesus does now. Cabesh? That means understand? in Italian.
---Donna5535 on 4/26/10


1Pe 3:5-6 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
-Here 'hypakouo' is translated 'obeyed' as well as elsewhere.(Col 3:20)
Tts 2:4-5 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, [To be] discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
-Here 'hypotasso' is translated 'obedient', same is translated 'submit' or 'subject' elsewhere such as above.(Col 3:18)
---MIchael on 4/25/10


Trish9863 (from an old comment of mine): you are right, the word used in Col 3 is submit, not obey (I got obey from 3:20, but that is for children not wives).

Thanks for your help in finding my error
---Peter on 4/25/10


Children of the Father:
(correction of my earlier post)
Love This answer from a babe in Christ!
Kayla posted:
///My definition of a godly man is one who believes in walking in Christ likeness by the power of the Holy Spirit.

A Godly man/woman understands that if Christ's love is going to abide in us, we must keep His commandments.

Jesus says,
Jhn 15:10 If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love, even as I have kept my Father's commandments, and abide in his love.///

Way to go Kayla!
---Paul9594 on 4/23/10


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KarenD>>>"People, all people, should mind their own business."---catherine on 4/22/10

If this is how you feel, why do you post on these blogs? Don't you think it is important that we share ways that the Lord is using us to reach a lost and dying world. By the way, I don't believe in the "God is love" gospel either. The Christian churches have forgotten the Old Testament entirely in many cases and are not teaching what Jesus taught either.
---KarenD on 4/23/10


Let us turn the question around to the husbands point of view, for I think this will better reveal the obvious answer: "How does a Godly woman submit to her husband? Or this even to be so? Scriptures please."
---Eloy on 4/23/10


My definition of a godly man is one who believes in walking in Christ likeness by the power of the Holy Spirit.

A Godly man/woman understands that if Christ's love is going to abide in us, we must keep His commandments.

Jesus says,
Jhn 15:10 If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love, even as I have kept my Father's commandments, and abide in his love.
---Paul9594 on 4/22/10


Mat 5:44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you,
1Cor 4:12 And labour, working with our own hands: being reviled, we bless, being persecuted, we suffer it:
Pro 12:4 A virtuous woman [is] a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed [is] as rottenness in his bones.
Pro 31:30 Favour [is] deceitful, and beauty [is] vain: [but] a woman [that] feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Mat 22:30 For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven.
---MIchael on 4/22/10


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Peter: I see no scripture that says the wife is to obey the husband. She is to submit, but then, in another verse, all are to submit to each other. I see that as different from obeying.

No husband should rule over his wife. That is not of God. That is not in scripture. Love is the command the husband has for the wife, not rule.
---Trish9863 on 4/22/10


We must remember that Gen 3:16 is balanced (not necessarily cancelled, but balanced) by the passage in Eph 5:25 (only for husbands) and Col 3 (for both). Here there must be a balance. THe wife is told to obey - but ONLY as the husband loves the wife. The two cannot be separated!
---peter3594 on 4/22/10


KarenD>>>People, all people, should mind their own business. So, lets just all obey the living God. God has Hs plans for my life. And so far I have yet to have an easy job. [been saved nearly 10 years]. I do not go around preaching that God loves everyone, and I am not called to preach the good news. I am called....by God to preach hell and God's judgments. That's it. However, a calling such as mine takes preparation, a lot of it. Because noone wants to hear about hell and God's judgment. None-the-less, I have been called and chosen to preach it. I truly hope you will receive this message. And by the way, I must not get out of God's timing. God wants me to be a powerful preacher. Amen. Good day.
---catherine on 4/22/10


catherine...What tasks? I'd like to know how the Lord is using you.
---KarenD on 4/21/10


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God gives me very difficult tasks.
---catherine on 4/21/10


catherine...Would you please tell us what it is that you are doing for the Lord now that you are not attending church?
---KarenD on 4/21/10


A GODLY man doesn't RULE....he loves her like Christ loves the church and she reponds to him through that love.

God doesn't RULE over us, He leads and guides us......He isn't pushy and doesn't force himself on us and MAKE us do things. He leads, He guides, He counsels, He comforts, etc., Amen?
---Donna5535 on 4/21/10


Yes, it is. God took me out of the church because of false teachings. And I spent four years on the front-line away from my home, while in the line of duty Satan afflicted me. I cannot walk or run like I use too. The devil's people also were responsible for this. Men who held power in their hands. However, God said that I can still preach. He also said that Satan tried to put me in a wheelchair but that He would not let him.[Job] I am no coward. Trust me when God tells me to go, I go. When He tells me to stay I stay. What would you have me to do, anyways? I have my plate pretty full, right now.
---catherine on 4/21/10


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catherine...Is this the same God that told you to get out of church and isolate yourself in your home?
---KarenD on 4/20/10


Peter,

You are correct. We do have a different use of a similar term. I believe a man should always lead and never rule. If a man is wise, he will lead not only by his authority but by example and servitude.
---aka_joseph on 4/20/10


No such thing Kayla as a Godly man ruling over his wife. If you are confused about Genesis 3:16 God was stating the fleshly consequence of sin in the Garden, not a commandment of behavior.
God promised to increase her (Eve) pain and sorrow as the result of their sin. the portion of 3:16 concerning Eve's desire and Man ruling over her is a foretelling of mankinds behavior as the result of Adamic sin.
---larry on 4/20/10


Well, God tells me that it "should be mutual",He has already spoken to me about this, now.... Mutual, it also, helps to study: Mutual respect. There is only one ruler, GOD. aka JESUS CHRIST. I don't want no man ruling me, and he will not rule me. Thank you.
---catherine on 4/20/10


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This is a broad subject matter. You may have to look throughout the entire bible to find the proper use of this.

Maybe we should use the term rule over his HOUSE, rather than rule over WIFE.

There are some scriptures in numbers, some in proverbs, and some in NT.

But in general the male has the last say in matters where God has left it to him. Example what car, what house, how much. He does have to be considerate of how this will affect his house and his wife.

In some cases, he is given veto power over vows made by some of the people in his house.
---francis on 4/20/10


Aka_Joseph: I think here we have a different meaning of 'rules'.

I take it to mean that the husband may [on VERY rare occasions, when discussion does not lead to mutually agreeable solution] have to tell the wife to do something she does not want to do, in the same way as a parent may have to, but that all this is done in love, not out of a desire of power.

For the desire of the husband for power is evil, for he is setting himself up as a ruler without his submission to God
---peter3594 on 4/20/10


A Godly man never rules his wife, he covers her just a Jesus covers the man and God covers Jesus. 1Co 11:3

Gal 5:13 For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty, only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.
---aka_joseph on 4/19/10


My definition of a godly man is one who believes in walking in Christ likeness by the power of the Holy Spirit.

A Godly man/woman understands that if Christ's love is going to abide in us, we must keep His commandments.

Jesus says,
Jhn 15:10 If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love, even as I have kept my Father's commandments, and abide in his love.
---kayla4 on 4/19/10


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Kayla4, the husband's "rule" over his wife was declared under the curse. Having been freed from the curse, the husband is instructed to love her, and take charge of his household as leader, guardian, and protecter. It is for the wife to respect him enough to willingly submit herself to his leadership.
"Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. If any be blameless, [he] is the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of [being] riotous or unruly, he must 'rule'-manage- his own household well, keeping his children submissive and respectful in every way. [Husbands] take heed to yourselves, and let none be unfaithful to the wife of his youth." Gen 3:16>Eph 5:25,22>Tts 2:5,1:6>3:12>Mal 2:15
---joseph on 4/20/10


Ephesians 5 is probably the best, though there are others [1 Corinthians 13 describes love, which husbands must have]. It is possible that the husband has the final word [as, when there is a disagreement, on of the two must have the final word, if they are to remain together]. BUT the final word must be done in love [as in 1 Cor 13]. AND - if the husband makes a wrong decision, and the wife has to follow, then he must accept he was wrong
---peter3594 on 4/20/10


Kayla4, what is your definition of a Godly Man?
---Rob on 4/19/10


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