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My wife goes to a different church. Is it wrong and Why? Where does the bible say its wrong?

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 ---Daniel on 4/28/10
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What if it's the case of where the husband is Catholic and the wife is pentecostal? I have a friend lost in this kind of case now, most Sundays she does not even go to church. Please advice.
---Berachah on 9/14/10


If you are both elderly parents and good Christians who cannot be easily deceived because your spouse is not close to you, it may be ok if you worship at different congregations for preference sake. But for youths in marriage it may be a clear sign of disagreement in the family which can give the devil room to separate the couples. I do not recommend separate congregations for child/adult couples.
---Adetunji on 5/31/10


This could be false because it assumes that there is only ONE denomination among many that teaches the truth. What if they are BOTH bad?
--obewan on 4/30/10

Yep, both can be teaching error, or one can be teaching error. But if they are teaching different things they both cannotbe right.

So yes only ONE amoung the many can be teaching the whole body of truth.

Many will have some truth, but because they each teach different things the many cannot all be teaching the whole truth.
---francis on 5/3/10


Both denominations cannot be teaching the truth if they are teaching different things.

Now if your wife is going to the same denomination at a different location, that is OK.
---francis on 4/28/10
This could be false because it assumes that there is only ONE denomination among many that teaches the truth. What if they are BOTH bad?

And, my mom remarried at age 80. She and her new husband did not want to give up all their social support networks at their respective separate churches, so the just stayed in separate chuches lest one of them died first and left no support network.
---obewan on 4/30/10


The word of God says that we are the Church,
churches/buildings are for fellowship...

We that have found salvation are now spiritual stones that make up the walls of the church, The Lord is both the foundation & cornerstone.

It's a personal relationship between you and God, Priest,Preachers ect. are not needed for ones salvation or for telling you what is what, read and learn of him yourself, do not rely on man to help you!

In fact, most preachers are blind, and when the blind lead the blind BOTH shall fall into the ditch/Hell...
YLBD
---YLBD on 4/30/10




Daniel: It is natural that it is not mentioned in the Bible. In those days (in the times when the Apostolic letters were written) each town had only one church

As a result, we can only make assumptions from other things mentioned in the Bible.

I do no think it is wrong, but I imagine that it would be better to go to the same church. Though, if when the two of you go together there are other problems (each of you does not like the style of the church the other spouse goes to) then it is a reasonable solution, unless the two of you could go try find a church that suits you both
---peter3594 on 4/30/10


My wife goes to a different church. Is it wrong and Why? Where does the bible say its wrong?


So who actually is the priest in the house?
---FRANCIS on 4/30/10


Thanks KarenD,

I'm not too aware of the Assembly of God practices. I just heard they were very strict and conservative in their believes. But other than that I really haven't check into it.
---John on 4/30/10


John...The Assembly of God does not teach that they are the only "true" church or that you have to attend that fellowship to be saved. They also do not teach that you must be baptized to be saved. In fact, my husband and I have on occasion counseled a husband or wife whose spouse does not want to attend our church to attend with their spouse as long as the other church was teaching Biblical truths. This is especially true of new Christians whose spouse will attend church with them, but not saved yet.
---KarenD on 4/29/10


John....The husband in my story is Church of Christ and the wife is Assembly of God. They have been married for many years.
---KarenD on 4/28/10

Yep! I was going to mention the Assembly of God.

I am an expert on the Church of Christ, and help deprogram many from this most sinister of cults. They literally claim to be the Orginal 1st century church and you are saved through their church only and by Baptism only (no spirit)and you can lose your salvation. You lose salvation by missing service.

It is a very subtle cult and very dangerous as it mimics very closely other Christian Churches. It took me many years to help the few people I could.

I can tell you alot about them, but 125ltd.

Good call KarenD!
---John on 4/28/10




The Father covers the Son,
The Son covers the man,
The man covers the wife.

If everybody stays covered properly, it all works to fulfill the two greatest commandments.

It is written that we are called to freedom and we should not use this as an occasion to the serve the flesh, but by love we SERVE each other.

HOWEVER, try staying covered by Jesus is next to impossible in ANY church (denominational or non-denom) nowadays, let alone two. Godspeed!
---aka_joseph on 4/28/10


I see no problem.

Most difference between denominations are minor by comparison with the shared Faith.

After, what does a different churhc govermnance make to salvation? Or the way in which we worship? Or even adult/infant baptism? Or understanding of predestination/freewill? Or day of worship? Or 144 hours/7 aeons?

There is even very little differen ce between trinitarians and most nons. It's more different shades of understanding.
---alan8566_of_uk on 4/28/10


John....The husband in my story is Church of Christ and the wife is Assembly of God. They have been married for many years.
---KarenD on 4/28/10


This question reminded me of a limp I was developing because of my sore ankle. I tried different shoes, different boots, different exercise, and anything else I could think of trying to find the problem.

So, I went to a doctor, and he said it was in my head. That didn't help. So, I went to another doctor. He said I had a bone spur and arthritis. He took care of the bone spur and pain killers help the arthritis when I can't take it any more.

All that to say, it sounds like you have a bigger problem than going to different churches. Going to different churches is the limp. What's the real issue?
---Rod4Him on 4/28/10


A couple have been doing this for years. They attend the churches in which they were raised. In fact, their entire marriage is a very separate arrangement. They "do their own thing" as the world says. Although they are financially secure, their marriage has never seemed comfortable when I have been around them. Neither of their two children are in church or saved. Sad!
---KarenD on 4/28/10


Daniel,

I have a hunch that one (or both) of these churches are a cult. Preaching something to the effect that if you do NOT attend that church you will go to hell etc. (i.e. Church of Christ etc. )

Am I right on this?
---John on 4/28/10


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This is so wrong.

Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

You do know that one of both of you are being deceived.

Both denominations cannot be teaching the truth if they are teaching different things.

Now if your wife is going to the same denomination at a different location, that is OK.
---francis on 4/28/10


When did this apparent difference in faith occur?

Before or after you were married?
---Cluny on 4/28/10


Nothing is wrong with it, though better to go to the same church.However if both believes in God then that is your common ground. I go to church & my husband doesn't because he works on Sundays, & even if he was off Sundays he'd not go with me ,but where he wants to go.We have different interests when it comes to worship, but we both have God in the center of our life.
---candice on 4/28/10


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