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Husband Who Cheated Online

Should I stay with my husband who cheated online? I forgave him but I still feel confused. By the way its an old crush from High School and they found each other in Facebook!

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 ---Carol on 5/21/10
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Marriage is a lifetime committment between two people, however temptation comes to all at some point, how they handle it is the important thing. God is on your side, because you are legally married to this man. Take this before the Lord in prayer, asking God to break up this unholy union. Also ask God what you can do to spice up your marriage so that your husbands attention can return to you where it belongs. Go into overdrive to win him back, don't allow your marriage to become a statistic. Fight back, with Christ at your side, and win. God bless.
---Gayla on 7/4/10


You state you forgave him, but is he aware of this? If he is, but still won't stop meeting on line, than you need to find a Christian Marriage Counselor, (on who is qualified in this area.) He may not be taking you seriously because he may not think he is doing anything wrong. Approach him from the point of view that it bothers you, and that you want him to stop because you don't like it. If he doesn't stop because you don't like it, you may have a serious problem.
---wivv on 5/22/10


JackB, the original poster has not made it clear what she meant by "cheated online."

There are some people who have posted similar complaints when all that happened was a mere innocent on-line conversation.
---Cluny on 5/22/10


Marriage is a committment between two people who have taken vows before the Lord. The vows shouldn't be taken lightly. I believe that maybe you and your husband should talk to a Christian Marriage Counselor to help with the unresolved emotions that you are feeling at this time. Furthermore, the counselor will be able to give some insight on helping to resolve the problems that's not being talk about, and causing you to be confused about everything. I feel you should pray about it, before making any hasty decision on the situation, because I believe there is "Hope" for your marriage. Don't Give Up!!! By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established. Proverbs 24:3
---Kimbe7395 on 5/22/10


would guess that by cheating online , they probably engaged in sexual talk in a chatbox and prolly sent innapropriate pictures of themselves to one another.

I would definately consider that cheating as well. They may not have touched, but the lust was there and we all know what Christ said.
---JackB on 5/22/10

And you would be wrong.
Christ is not saying the thinking of it is doing it.
He is saying that it begins with a thought.
So that our thoughts should not be on sin.

Compare this to what the bible says in James, and you will see that although sin starts with lust, it is only when lust manifest that sin is commited.
The thing has to be more than just thought about, it has to happen.
---francis on 5/22/10




I would guess that by cheating online , they probably engaged in sexual talk in a chatbox and prolly sent innapropriate pictures of themselves to one another.

I would definately consider that cheating as well. They may not have touched, but the lust was there and we all know what Christ said.
---JackB on 5/22/10


Are you saying that merely renewing an old acquaintance is the same as cheating?

Think clearly, lady. Whom did you your husband actually marry: you or his old friend?
---Cluny on 5/21/10


Only if he's sorry and takes steps to prove his sincerity
---charlie on 5/21/10


Carol, I see nothing wrong in any way with your husband communicating with old friends on Facebook.

I do so myself, I also communicate with remaining members of my High School graduation class as I have been unable to attend the last three reunions of my class of 47 years ago.

You post impress me as being totally "Me" centered and exceptionally immature.

My advice to you is to Grow Up, there is more to your husband's life then just you.
---Friendly_Blogger on 5/21/10


stop the madness

You cannot cheat online, you may be TEMPTED but that is as far as it can go.

James 1:14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.

James 1:15 Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.

Online LUST cannotbe conceived
So stop the madness, he was tempted, he may have even been very interested in another, but he did not cheat or commit adultery.
---francis on 5/21/10




Carol, I pray God gives you supernatural wisdom to handle this. I know how much it hurt's but like I tell everyone, it is easier when you bear in mind that we must learn first to become the bride of Christ, & He will never disappoint you.
---fay on 5/21/10


Well I believe that as his wife you have a right to ask that he not speak to her on facebook and maybe that he stay off of facebook since apparently that is part of his weakness.

What did Abram do when Sara expressed her jealousy of Hagar? He sent Hagar away.

If he doesnt do the same, kick him to the curb.

Fornication is an acceptable reason according to God to divorce somewhere and he is obviously lusting in his heart for her, which means he is just as guilty as if he has already done it according to what Jesus said.
---JackB on 5/21/10


I keep saying that Facebook is the devil's playground, that's why I'm not signed up on it.

Forgiving him is the beginning of the process. Suggest to him that you want to go to marriage counselling, not just a regular counsellor, but one that specializes in marriage. If he doesn't want to go, then you go to one.

If I were you, I'd be praying really hard for God to heal the hurt you feel from what he did to you. That's why you feel confused, you don't understand why he would do that to you. Spend lots of time with God, crying out to Him, asking God to heal you and ask God "Lord, what should I do?" (((((huggss))) I know this must be hard for you and I'm sorry for your pain.
---Donna5535 on 5/21/10


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