Alan8566_of_uk: I use the word of God taken from Isaiah 49: 23 to encourage you, " ..., and thou shalt know that I am the Lord: for they shall not be ashamed that wait for me." God shall grant you your hearts desire in Jesus' name.
---Adetunji on 6/7/10|
Alan8566 of UK,you are more than welcome I am going to continue to pray and you will get the victory. Life would be so much easier if we knew what was around the next corner of it,but when we don't know we can stand with the help of God and his strength. May God give you the desires of your heart and his love wash you with faith to trust God's outcome. Often widows are searching for a man like their dead husband and that is never a wise thing to do,also they will pass up some good men looking for that carbon copy. No mortal man can compete with a memory. God Bless
---Darlene_1 on 6/4/10|
How does one know that God has sent us a mate?
It has PROPERTY OF GOD stamped on it's head.
God does not send us a mate we seek a mate.
Proverbs 20:6 Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price [is] far above rubies.
---FRANCIS on 6/4/10|
Adetunji ... Thank you!
I would appreciate prayer to let me KNOW God's will, and accept what He says.
Thanks Darlene for yout prayers about this ... !
---alan8566_of_uk on 6/4/10|
Alan8566_of_uk: The fact that she refused does not mean you did not hear from God. Since the world began people has been refusing God's messages with attendant bad consequences. God's recommendations are always perfect but sometimes not physically appealing to some human beings. Are you sure her refusal is final or she is pretending? The natural woman pretend, those with high level of faith will acknowledge without fear what God had hinted them or wait until God confirms to them. Even if her refusal is final, GOD has in stock for you another to replace her, please go back to HIM.
---Adetunji on 6/4/10|
If I was single,which I'm not,I would be looking for a date not a mate. When we are always searching for a mate it is easy to project our desire for a mate to every person we meet. If we can go about life in the fullness of our life with Christ,content in the state we find ourselves,as the Bible says to be,then as relationships develop through just dating,we may very well have God send us the person we are suspose to be with in marriage. Casting about in the world for a mate may well bring in the wrong catch because thats what we want,a mate,and we become overzealous putting each one in that spot. The very best marriages often are born fom the best friendships. Go about taking care of God's Kingdom,working for the Lord and he will repay.
---Darlene_1 on 6/3/10|
An English missionary named Frank Perry tells this story about his present wife.
Home from the mission field one Sunday morning while walking behind other members of his church his attention was drawn to a lady ahead of him. And a inner voice said to him "there goes your wife". Frank was married at this time to his first wife. The lady in question was married also. Yet three years later after both Frank and this lady had lost their spouses in death they were married and are still married to this day. The lady's first name is Olive.
---mima on 6/2/10|
I do believe that God can place a suitable person, the marrying time type person, in one's life. One day wham-mo there he or she is. Could be anyplace, anywhere, at any time. Yes!
---catherine on 6/1/10|
Penny, there really isn't a clear cut answer to this except a few scriptures do come to mind: Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. What constitutes a believer versus an unbeliever?
I met and married my husband in a Pentecostal church. We dated for a year and 4 months. He hid/masked his root of bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness he held towards people. He ended up beating me up and getting taken away from the police. Yet our Pastor said he was a good guy. I tell you that to say this...people will put on a front if they like you and want to marry you, so keep asking God, is he the one or should I wait for another? ONLY GOD can answer this question for you.
---Donna5535 on 6/1/10|
When i was a youth, i came to the Lord. whilst i was praying about a wife, God told me that i was going to meet her on my verry first mission trip, (an awareness, as words formed in the heart) i proclaimed once when someone asked me if i was going to stay a bachelor that i was marrying at age 27. On my first mission one of the Locals was designed to translate for the team(she was the only one that understood english). in the night God spoke to me again, "THIS IS YOUR WIFE" literally.i askzed herhand in marriage, and she said to me that God had shown it in a dream. i went home prepared for the marriage. we are now married for eleven years and i never doubted it is Gods desire.
---Andy3996 on 6/1/10|
A story about my parents. When my mother was a 12-year-old girl she was told the following by an old lady.
1. She would first see her future husband, shoeless, in a raincoat, riding a mule. Pulling a automobile.
2. All of the above took place exactly as it was described to her. This took place when she was 17 years old. Two years later when she was 19 years old she eloped with my father and went to Florida on a working honeymoon.
---mima on 6/1/10|
Adetunji ... Did it happen to you?
Please tell us how YOU knew?
On one occasion, I have been told, and have prayed, and known ... But she did not agree!! So obviously what I thought I had heard was not God.
So how vcan we KNOW that that what we hear is not just wishful thinking.
Some examples of how people have been told by God.
---alan8566_of_uk on 5/31/10|
alan8566_of_uk: God knows you completely. HE knows how HE will address you and you will be convinced. If God addresses u 1st time and u are not sure it is HIM who talked to you, you have to go back to HIM in prayer (bcos HE sees the confused and doubtful heart clearly) and ask HIM to confirm if the message u received is from HIM or not. You can go to God "n - mathematical times" until you are sure. But once you are sure, you do not go to God to ask the old question again. You may ask new questions about steps you can take to implement what God has told you etc.
---Adetunji on 5/31/10|
You must pray, even to pray & fast will help.
Things will let you know, it may not be bells & whistles or a marching band. I believe you can fleece for signs also.
---Lawrence on 5/31/10|
I am so blessed because I received what few people do,a dream about who I would marry. When I was 14 years old I visited my aunt and while there dreamed I would be engaged to a blondheaded man,but the dream showed next I would marry a darkheaded man. I also saw we would be riding horses and two things he would say to me. When I got home I met the blond boy/man and he kept saying we were engaged but I never said yes at 14,I just let him talk. At 16 I was visiting a friend in the country and her uncle came out and we went horseback riding and he said exactly what I had seen in the dream 2 years before. He was blackheaded,I married him and this year we have been together 55 years. I won't say God picked or sent him even with all that.
---Darlene_1 on 5/29/10|
Beware of wishful thinking
I would be interested to have actual eaxmple of God actually proving that this is the right mate. How did He do it?
---alan8566_of_uk on 5/29/10|
When you both can truthfully answer this question:
Will marrying this person bring both of us closer to God?
---Cluny on 5/29/10|