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Husband Comes Back Abortion

Husband left a year ago now I'm pregnant with another mans baby. He wants me back if I abort. What do you guys think?

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Mary: It seems you have ended up in a big mess......

While I do not want to say too much, I think it is not a good idea to abort just because your former husband says he will return to you

After all, if he left you once, he may always do the same again

While the baby will always be your baby, whatever else your former husband does

Anyway, if he left you, it is up t oh im to accept the consequences

I feel very sad about your situation, Mary
---peter3594 on 7/4/10


\\. "Actual Life" begins only after a baby is fully born and can independently breathe the breath of life as stated in Gen 2:7. \\

That's not what the Bible teaches in Luke 1 about the Visitation.
---Cluny on 6/30/10


mary, it would appear there are two mary's here both using a lower case (m). The other mary I remember is 58 years old, who's husband also left her. Then I believe she said he died.

mary, praise God the day you scheduled for an abortion was the wrong date scheduled. Between then and now, it appears you now believe abortion is wrong.

May I ask what responsibility the father is taking? Did he know what your husband asked, and did he go along with it?

I am sorry for your situation. I also know the Lord WILL see you through. He's brought you this far and won't leave you or forsake you.
---kathr4453 on 6/10/10


Mary,
Your baby is a gift from God. If your husband loved you and wanted to be a husband to you then he would take you as well as your child. How can you throw away your child for a man who has walked away from you once already and could ask you to do such a thing? You are a child of God and you deserve a man of God who will be the head of your home and truly love you.
---Julie on 6/10/10


Mary, Jesus loves you with an everlasting love. He knows ALL about you & still loves you so much that he has every hair on your head numbered. It is my opinion that you reached out for advice because you didn't want to abort. Please don't ever give up on God, again. He's the one we need the most. Jesus is the friend that sticks closer than a brother. He is always on your side. He will never give up on you. "Be still and know that I Am God" Ps 46:10 Just make the decision to trust Him.
---fay on 6/9/10




listen please listen carefully I not asking people is it okay. I know its wrong, I just ask what do you think. This is in response to kathy.I have been talking to my pastor and he started me fastin and reading alot of scriptures. He has been quite honest with me. Even though my husband left i should of remain faithful in my relationship with god. Instead I got tired of doing things the godly way and wanted to live worldly. I should of known that I cant do things my own way. I like to thank everyone on here for the prayers and friendly advice. Honestly i must say A man that leaves me and come back and have conditions as those I don't need him. Thankyou fay so much for your concern and prayer..
---mary on 6/9/10


mary, Are you divorced and re-married to this other man having his baby? Or were you just living with this other man while still marrried to your husband?

Are you the same mary who said Christians living together w/out marriage is not a sin, who ranted and railed at me for saying it is?

Hummm, I don't want to condemn here, however, look at the consequences of any intimate relationship out of marriage whether you live together or not.

mary, your question here is EVIL to the core. You're asking Christians to condone your SIN and adding to it by what, giving an opinion about MURDER! Get real!
---kathr4453 on 6/9/10


Tommy, what a good answer you gave to Friendly blogger" He should change his name. Many here do so many times. Scripture is clear concerning the unborn. To God he is already a person, and no one has the right to kill it. The unborn cannot defend himself/herself. Has no one to speak on his behalf. It is the same thing as if drowning your child who cannot defend himself, or leaving him in a car with the windows close on a hot day, to go play bingo or the slots.
---MarkV. on 6/9/10


mary, are you ok?
---fay on 6/8/10


No,don't do that, I think you will regret it later in life for taking the life of your little one.
---Tony on 6/5/10




Ask your Heavenly Father, all souls belong to Him-He is Master and Lord over our life.

Behold, all sous are Mine,as the soul of the father,so also the soul fo the son is Mine: the soul that sinneth, it shal die.Ez18:4

Praise him for His him for His mercy and Grace.
Repentance into remission-
Bless you during this time-rely on His strenght and wisdom.
---char on 6/4/10


Mary-- You say you used to hear from God when you had a decision to make. Now you say "Its like every time I get up the nerve something happens. Don't you think He might be speaking to you now in a different way?
---Donna66 on 6/4/10


//I went yesterday to get the procedure done. they told me I didn't have an appointment. They had me down for the wrong day. //

Our opinions do not matter, but don't you think God has spoken?
---aka.joseph on 6/4/10


Father,lift Mary out of that pit of despair so she can hear clearly. We command fear leave now, in the name of Jesus, We ask that you fill her w/so much love she can not contain it. Lord, we ask you to rain down on Mary with new found hope & strength. Lord we ask you speak the oracles of God & fill her with your forgiveness & set in her mind,firmly plant, the knowledge that her sins have been cast into Your sea of everlasting forgetfulness to be remembered no more. Your love is w/out end & your mercy endureth forever. We love you Jesus & we praise you the only one worthy of praise.We thank you that you continually watch over your word to perform it for you said anything we ask believing we shall receive.
---fay on 6/4/10


Mary,

I've helped a few women avoid the mistake you're contemplating. When women don't go through with it, they are always glad in the end(though it may take a while). Women who abort regret it for the rest of their lives. When it dawns on them what they have actually done, they frequently need counseling. There is NO relief afterwards.

Furthermore, I guarantee you will grow to resent and despise the man who coaxed you into doing it when reality dawns on you.

I haven't seen the women I talked out of abortion again, but there's a 14yo and 7yo alive today because the mothers listened & trusted God in the most fearful times of there lives.
---Carmen on 6/3/10


Your heart is in a real mess!

You should think loooonng and hard about aborting an innocent life.

You're not capable of making a Godly decision, it's obvious when you speak about Getting IT done. Getting what done?

Taking a life you carelessly allowed to happen out of Sexual Lust, Your not just going to get your hair done!

Your murdering a life that did not ask to come into this world.

Think about SOMEONE ELSE OTHER THAN YOURSELF.

Go have your baby sort yourself out. Get some Christian Counselling and REPENT.

Turn completely around and accept Christ in your life trust in God read your bible and let go of the foolishness, God will do the rest.
---Carla on 6/3/10


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God hates the shed of innocent blood and woe unto you, to Abort and exect to be forgiven that is presumptuous sin.

The bible states that the consequences are bad if you hurt such little ones and That means unborn babies too.
Repent of the sin and come to Jesus he is a god full of forgiveness, and will forgive you right now if you ask him too, believe in him and accept his as your own personal saviour.

Why not give Jesus a chance to clean up your life. Jesus said he came for sinners not the righteous, give him a chance Please and trust him he said he will work it out.
---Carla on 6/3/10


I went yesterday to get the procedure done. they told me I didn't have an appointment. They had me down for the wrong day. I definitely need prayer. I use to hear god voice talking to me. Helping me with decisions. I never felt so lost and confused.Its like every time I get up the nerve something happens.
---mary on 6/3/10


Some insight will help too.
---mary on 6/3/10


mary, thomas is a little harsh but I have to agree with what he has said. Please just take it in love the way he meant it.
---fay on 6/3/10


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The law was given to convict us, not so that we can find loop holes to justify our behavior. The law now is to love God and love one another. God can do what he wants to an unborn baby, it is his creation and his right. We however do not have that right.
You have been letting your husband run all over you. If you let him come back it will prove to him that he can continue in that practice.
You make the rules and stop acting so needy.
Rule 1, He has to agree to Christian marriage concealing.
Rule 2, He has to agree to let you give birth baby.
If he will not meet your terms then he must not love you, but only wants the perks of marriage.
---Thomas on 6/3/10


So, Mary, you have heard many views. What have you decided?

Do you need prayer or advice?

What do you need?
---fay on 6/3/10


I am the orginal blogger. My husband left me because he wanted to get his life together. He told me to file for divorce in february then in march he told me he didn't want the divorce. He has left me several times.He has been unfaithful and so has I.
---mary on 6/2/10


Jer 1:5 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you, I appointed you a prophet to the nations."
Jer 1:6 Then I said, "Ah, Lord GOD! Behold, I do not know how to speak, for I am only a youth."
Jer 1:7 But the LORD said to me, "Do not say, 'I am only a youth', for to all to whom I send you, you shall go, and whatever I command you, you shall speak.

I would hate to be the 'doctor' who performed an abortion on a not yet born consecrated fetus.
---aka.joseph on 6/3/10


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Friendly Blogger, you would find peace if you would just let the Holy Spirit rule in your life. We're supposed to walk by faith not by sight.
Gen 2:7 was referring to how Adam was made, not the rest of us humans.
Job 3:11 "why did I not give up the ghost when I came out of the belly" implies he had the ghost(breath of life) IN the belly.
Ps 58:3 "the wicked are estranged(turn aside)from the womb: they go astray as soon as they are born, speaking lies." implies personality IN the womb.
Hosea 9:11 implies personality begins at conception.
Luk 1:41 says John leaped in his mothers womb when Mary walked in with Jesus in her womb implies awareness even in the womb.
---fay on 6/2/10


Fay, a formal definition of when Actual God sanctioned life begins is in given in Gen 2.7: from the Hebrew word that is used. The definition requires Independence, Movement and the capability to Breath Air through it's lungs

Until than is is just potential life from conception to actual birth. Only when the birth process is completed {vaginal delivery or cesarean section] does it meet the Biblical requirements of a living creature.

It would help you immensely to devote some time to original language text linguistics so that you actually know what the Bible says.
---Friendly_Blogger on 6/2/10


Rebecca, Ken

I don't know why the husband left. I will not speculate. What id o know is what the BIBLE says. That if the wife is defiles, which this wife is, having a hisband and being with another man, then the husband can call for a procedure with results in the lost of the baby while in the womb.

I too wrestle with Numbers5, but in the end, it is God who deems that the jealous husband has the right.

Truth is, seperation from her husband did not give her any rights to be with another. It is adultery.
---francis on 6/2/10


Francis... being defiled is one thing, murder is quite another. The bottom line is the baby is a unique lifeform and the mother is but a host. Have the baby, give it up for adoption... but you don't compound one sin with another. If she has a husband that means she is still married and so the affair was adultery. Now you want to try to justify murder using Torah Francis? Talk about an age of torahlessness. (lawlessness)
Peace.
Ken
---Ken on 6/2/10


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"Friendly Blogger," I think you need to change your signature to UNFRIENDLY BLOGGER as there is nothing friendly in your "advice" here. The word "fetus" which doctors and many others use to differentiate between human beings and potential human beings is a trick, as fetus is merely the Latin word for unborn baby. In many passages in the Scriptures we are told that God "knows us before we are born" ref. Psalm 139. Many people in Scripture are said to have been known and called by God "from the womb," does that mean that God knows people only potentially when they are unborn?
---tommy3007 on 6/2/10


Friendly Blogger, how do you explain the pictures of a pregnancy surgery with baby in the womb holding the doctors finger?

Mary, pray for him but don't cave to that murder request. He left, if he can't accept the baby he can't accept you. You know that already or you wouldn't have asked in the first place.
---fay on 6/1/10


Let the little children come to Jesus. Don't let a man decide about this.

Rebekah had her twins who "struggled together within her" (Genesis 25:22), and she asked God what was going on. The LORD said,

"Two nations are in your womb," in Genesis 25:23.

Jesus did not consider them to be fetuses, but two "nations". So, abortion may be not only murder, but genocide.
---Bill_bila5659 on 6/1/10


Francis: This husband left for a reason, and I'd say that reason was another woman. He left for a year, and chances r he wasn't faithful.
---Rebecca_D on 6/1/10


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HHHMMM he may well be within his rights to have the child aborted.

Numbers 5:27 And when he hath made her to drink the water, then it shall come to pass, [that], if she be defiled, and have done trespass against her husband, that the water that causeth the curse shall enter into her, [and become] bitter, and her belly shall swell, and her thigh shall rot: and the woman shall be a curse among her people.

Numbers 5:28 And if the woman be not defiled, but be clean, then she shall be free, and shall conceive seed.

Numbers 5:29 This [is] the law of jealousies, when a wife goeth aside [to another] instead of her husband, and is defiled,

Numbers 5:31 Then shall the man be guiltless from iniquity
---francis on 6/1/10


The life inside is unique, it has unique DNA, therefore, ending it's life is murder. Lev 17:3-4 speaks about the useless killing of an ANIMAL and scriptures says it is "shedding blood" and something which carries the penalty of being "cut off from the people." (Israel) So if the shedding of innocent ANIMAL blood was serious enough to cause a man to be cut off from amoung his people, how much more will God look upon a human child?

With that said, if it were ME I would explain that to my husband and then at worst, have the baby and give it up for adoption... but I wouldn't kill it!
Peace.
Ken
---Ken on 6/1/10


mary, abortion is murder and God says, Thou shalt NOT kill.

Why did your husband leave a year ago and why are you even willing to consider murdering a baby inside your womb for a man who left you last year?

You would be committing murder if you aborted that baby and the wages of sin is death. Is that what you want? Aborting a baby is NOT the answer to your husband wanting you back - and WHY is he asking you to ABORT if he's a Christian? Is your husband a Christian? No becausehe wouldn't be asking you to MURDER an unborn baby. Don't go back to him mary, you're asking for trouble.
---Donna5535 on 6/1/10


Please do not listen to the advice to go to Planned Parenthood. They are into human sacrifice through infanticide to control the population so the word can "prosper". Do you think that they care for you at all after the baby is gone?

I think that if you are seriously wanting to reunite, you should let the other man have the option of keeping this child, and all three of you get as far away from each other as you can.

If he does not want the child, birth the child and give the baby up for adoption, and you three should get as far away from each other as possible.

If you want the child, either let the man whose father it is stay or keep it yourself, but get away from the man/men who say to abort.
---aka.joseph on 5/31/10


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I think that he's dumb and that he thinks you're dumb. Prove him wrong.
---amand6348 on 5/31/10


No I wouldn't get an abortion. It isn't the baby's fault. Your husband left u, not the other way around. I wouldn't take him back. Are u with your baby's daddy now?
---Rebecca_D on 5/30/10


Look up planned parenthood in your phone directory and make a counseling appointment they can tell you what your options are options. Your concerns at this point are strictly clinical. You need a physical assessment to see if any options are counter indicated.

Understand you are of static from other blogger on ChristiaNet so will try to tell you are a horrible for wanting to terminate the pregnancy. "Actual Life" begins only after a baby is fully born and can independently breathe the breath of life as stated in Gen 2:7. Until then is is just Potential Life, and Actual Life always takes precedence over Potential Life. You are Actual Life so your welfare always takes precedence over a fetus.
---Friendly_Blogger on 5/30/10


Is the man who abandoned you worth committing murder for?

That's the real question you're asking.

He left you once. Even if you commit human sacrifice for him, he'll leave you again, and you will simply remain the mother of a dead baby, with nothing to show for it.
---Cluny on 5/30/10


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