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Wife To Correct Pastor

I once attended a spiritual growth seminar where the MALE speaker, Evangelist, Pastor, etc. said something that was definitely contrary to the Bible. His wife was there too. Shouldn't she have "stood up" and corrected him on the spot?

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This reminds me of the time that one pastor said that God or the Holy Spirit can be deceitful. Right!

I remember reading a scripture about taking someone to the side, and quietly correcting them.
---amand6348 on 6/15/10

Rob that is a good point about fire laws.You noticed I said I do not agree with the practice. I heard some say they do it to prevent just anyone from coming in the church during services who would harm the children. I wouldn't like any practice which hinders exercise of a persons rights to free will and choice. It does sound too much like a cult,or a rights choking government. I know one church is one well known denomination who has 1/2 billion members,so not a cult and not a practice used by most churches in that denomination. Perhaps they mean well those who do it but I think it is a misguided practice.
---Darlene_1 on 6/15/10

Probably not. She should pray first and then acted. Whatever God tells you to do. In my case, if I had been in that position knowing God as I do, He probably would've told me "to wait"
---catherine on 6/11/10

question to vague, what exactly did he say?
---francis on 6/11/10

"There are benefits to single people living together. Whoever you live with, they can help you grow spiritually."

Hmmm. That environment can be just right for single people to get involved in the sin of fornication too. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 6:18 to "Flee Fornication ..."

Several people thought that the speaker's comment was contrary to what the Bible says. I wasn't the only one. Only "married" people should live together.

I know that that isn't what many people follow today, but the Bible hasn't changed since it was written. Putting yourself into a tempting environment isn't good.
---Sag on 6/11/10

Sag, I was 3 years old in the Lord in 1986 when I told my Pastor that God was leading me to leave and join another church. He preached against me for 45 minutes and said, "This sister in the Lord is betraying us church, she's leaving us and throwing us away, yaddy, yaddy, yaddy." I stayed and listened to it, but remember I was a baby christian.

His wife did NOT correct him and when I walked up to him at the end, I said, "I forgive you Pastor." He said, Praise the Lord, did you get my message?" I said, I certainly did and I still forgive you. This is the Pastor I was referring to whom God closed down his church. To this day this man is STILL in rebellion to God's word and trying to control people.
---Donna5535 on 6/11/10

question to vague, what exactly did he say?
---francis on 6/11/10

KarenD -- Raising your hand during the teaching and asking for scripture...unless it is a time the speaker has asked for questions...would be out of order. It's not up to you to provide instant correction to any speaker with whom you disagree.
Pray that you, or someone else, will get a chance to question him about the matter at an appropriate time.
---Donna66 on 6/10/10

The problem with waiting to talk to the speaker privately is that many people in the audience may not realize he is speaking falsely. By calling him on it they could become aware of the problem. Perhaps someone could have raised their hand and asked that the speaker give them the scriptures for what he was teaching.
---KarenD on 6/10/10

No, a person should wait until they are in private then speak to the man. Maybe what he said, he actually believes. But the wife or anyone should not speak to him about this unless in private.
---Rebecca_D on 6/10/10

No she should not have "corrected" him until she could speak to him in private.
(And who knows, she might have agreed with him!) In fact, I think anyone who disrupts a service could justifiably be escorted out by those in charge. However, they have NO right to detain you. That is illegal.

Anybody should be allowed to leave for ANY reason and without explanation.

If someone is preaching what you consider false doctrine you may either leave, or stay and try to determine the source of his error. Either is OK. But if you want to confront him, you should make an appointment to speak to him. If you aren't comfortable with this, pray for him and "shake the dust of the place off your feet"
---Donna66 on 6/9/10

Darlene, for a place to lock their doors is illegal unless they are plenty of well marked and illuminated fire exits.

This church locked it's doors not to keep out people who may be running late, but to prevent the people who were there from leaving.

To keep people from leaving on their own free will is just one of the attributes of cults.
---Rob on 6/9/10

1 Tim 1:16 Paul being our pattern, withstood Peter to his face, because he was to be blamed,and it wasn't a private rebuke Gal. 2:11-14
---michael_e on 6/9/10

No,no one should correct the person speaking,no even a wife. Besides if he believes what he preached more than likely she does too. If any visiting preacher preaches anything contrary to what the Bible says it is the church Pastor and Deacons who should call him on it,if he's pastor then it's the Deacons.. If he isn't from that church he should never be allowed to preach there again. Rob,I've heard of some churches in this area who lock their doors as soon as it is church starting time. I don't approve of doing that it may cause someone who is late to stop going all together.
---Darlene_1 on 6/9/10


Out of respect for the speaker, I stayed until the end of his message. However, I have not attended any additional seminars of his.

I'm sure that other people have had experiences like mine. Brochures, and comments from others, are so "positive" that you just can't wait to hear speaker so-and-so. Once there, you might be in for a surprise. I was. Oh well, live-and-learn.
---Sag on 6/8/10

No Sag, she shouldn't have. But I have a question for you: Why didn't YOU leave since you knew he was teaching something contrary to the bible? You weren't attached to him in any way, shape or form, right? So why didn't you leave? She showed her husband respect by staying.

I've had to get up and leave a church once because the Pastor was going off the deep end. Two weeks later, someone called to tell me, "God closed Pastor Blank's church down." I felt relieved, but not happy about it.
---Donna5535 on 6/8/10

Deq, I have a friend who visited a church with his family.

The preacher was giving a message full of false teaching, so he got up the leave with his family. He was not allowed to leave and all of the doors were locked (which is against the fire code) so no one could leave.

He literaly had to call the police one his cell phone and tell them he and his family were being held hostage.
---Rob on 6/8/10

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"Shouldn't she have "stood up" and corrected him on the spot?" No.
---josef on 6/8/10

Once upon a time I heard a supposed wandering prophet named Ralph Short who said that Jesus couldn't perform any miracles after His Resurrection because He didn't have a physical body, and the Holy Ghost needs a physical body to manifest through.

And people were eating this garbage with a SPOON!

I pointed out to him afterwards how he was false--that Jesus DID have a physical body, and he replied, "I've never noticed that before."

Is it necessary to point out the other errors he made here?
---Cluny on 6/7/10

karenD, I agree with you on this subject. However, as in most any church, that happens many times every Saturday or Sunday.
Try correcting a "pastor" in private, and you'll probably get a defensive response.
---Rod4Him on 6/7/10


I've learned that people in the audience was supposed to "stay in their seats" and "be quiet" unless, and until, the Pastor says otherwise.

As you mentioned, I have seen some people get asked to leave because their talking is "disturbing" the meeting, "squelching the Holy Spirit", etc.

I once got up and left a meeting after I fell asleep and the person next to be shook me awake. My snoring was bothering others. Anyway, the Evangelist started yelling at me for "leaving without his permission". It was definitely time for me to leave, and I did. Quickly too!
---Sag on 6/7/10

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Anyone in the audience who heard him should have corrected him immediately. Of course, you would have probably been escorted out of the meeting. Why didn't you say something?
---KarenD on 6/7/10

If they are associated with the Word of Faith Movement the wife will not correct her husband because they are in it mtogether as a "TAG TEAM".
---Rob on 6/7/10

the pastor can say next week about the correction if it is 'not right' for the wife to correct him.

not committing the same mistake again will not happen bec. everyweek the message is different
---mike on 6/7/10

I also do not think she should have on the spot, but later, as one, discuss and if in error I would hope to see the pastor apologize to the audience in whatever method fitting. Spouses are there to help each other, truth in love. I don't think on the spot correction would be the loving way.
Also, if it was a accidental error in which most people, like yourself would have caught anyway and you know what he meant, why not just forgive?
---micha9344 on 6/7/10

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I don't think she should not have. But hopfully she talk to him about it after, so that he would not repeat the same.
---a_friend on 6/7/10

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