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My Mom Just Passed Away

My mom passed away recently on may 17, 2010 from an aggressive type of brain cancer called glioblastoma multiforme. I ask God everynight why He made her suffer?

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My dear Irene, God did not make your mother suffer. Sickness is a part of life, so do not blame God for your mother's illness. We live in a wicked and fallen and cruel world, and some of us succumb under the onslaughts sooner than others do. I pray that you will see God's mercy in your life, and come to understand that if your mother was a Christian than she is now eternally free from her suffering and enjoying the presence of Holy God. Lord Jesus, help Irene to go through this valley of suffering and help her to understand that there is another life after this one. Comfort her Lord and be with her through this time. Draw her close up to you Papa, and let her experience your awesome love. In Jesus I pray here. Amen.
---Eloy on 7/9/11


I feel for you, god did the same thing to me. everyday i ask why my mum? out off all the people in the world, but i guess he only takes away the good ones
---Pansy on 7/8/11


You loose your Mom and your best friend is gone I have been so alone my heart is broken and my husband has found this site to find a cheater. If you mess with a married man hes a cheater duh
---Lisa_Mentzer-Smith on 5/14/11


To all who have lost their Mother,as we approach Mother's Day!Celebrate her life. Remember the good times, remember the laughter, remember the smiles, remember the smell of her favorite perfume, remember the life lessons that she taught you, remember the stories she told of when you were a child.Stop dwelling on the negative and the healing will come.Both of my parents died in my arms. I do not allow myself to dwell on what coulda, shoulda been! I think of how the Lord did not allow them to suffer and how wonderful to know, they are in their glorified bodies walking and talking, hand in hand with the God who created them in the first place. Grieve, cry---then let it go!!! Be encouraged.
---Joey on 5/5/11


My mom passed away recently on may 17, 2010......I ask God everynight why He made her suffer?----Blog Question

My Mom suffered too with a uterine cancer for years. One of the most GOD fearing woman you could meet. i thanked GOD for releasing her from this life.
Perhaps she paid because of my "un-GODly behaviour. Twice. Don't know. She brought me here though...however far along i am. (Some would say not far. Ha.) But, i'm still traveling.
Comes to mind that GOD's own son suffered. And while many recognize it few ask for the "rest of the story".
It's done, your Mom must have been a blessing to you. Hang with what you got, you'll know someday. Don't forget ole Job. He was wondering too.
---Trav on 5/3/11




Gene---Condolences on the loss of your mother. With all her many painful and chronic conditions, I know it is a relief to no longer see her suffer.
No one is ready to lose their mother...no matter how old or how ill she was or how "prepared" we thought we were! Your memories of her will become doubly precious when you recall them now.

Even though you cannot know about you mother's faith, this is the time to make sure of yours. Nobody is guaranteed a tomorrow. God knows everything. He knows about your doubts. Ask Him to reveal Himself to you. Read the Bible (New Testament), beginning with the book of John and ask God to show you what is the truth.
---Donna66 on 5/2/11


Death can be a friend, dear one. We fear death because we do not understand it. But we die (sort of)everytime we take a nap, go to sleep and so forth. We are not conscious of anything around us. I think death is similar to those experiences. Your mom was very ill. Her pain and suffering is over. This need to be your focus and then, and only then, will you understand that God was merciful to your mother. This may take some time for you to understand. I lost a 24 year old son recently. I speak from experience. God loves you and your mom very much. She is at peace.Please believe that.
---Robyn on 5/1/11


My mom just passed away last month. She spent the last ten years with health problems,diabetic, double bypass, breast cancer, then alzhiemers, and finaly died after a heart atack and stroke and she had religion, I ca'nt say that I do. I have way too many doughts to say I believe. But I truely hope she was rite in her beliefs.
---Gene on 4/28/11


Donna, ignore remarks from stupid people who have not been in your shoes. When my husband passed away, I was too numb to cry. My world has crashed and I was in shock. I always liked the song. "walk a mile in my shoes". Every person has their own shoes and they are not like anyone else's.
---shira3877 on 12/20/10


The Seg, I read your post and they are wonderful to read. There is no power above God. No one dies against God's will. When we are born and when we will die is in the hands of God. Not in anyone's hands. What we have control over is the quality of how we live that life. You can live carrying a bottle of oxigen because you smoke too much, are without one. But no one can cheat death. It will come when we are called. People die because of the curse God put on man for sinning. How we die no one knows, but that we will, is a sure thing. Job says,
"seeing that his days are determined, And the number of his months is with thee, And thou has appointed bounds that he cannot pass" Job 14:5.
---Mark_V. on 12/20/10




I remember when my mom died of Lung cancer that had metastisized to her liver and oh how I cried. I angrily asked God the same question you did. I fell asleep that night with wet tears still running down my face. I had a dream that night and God told me that he didn't make her suffer. He told me with a golden smile on his face that he took her home in order to take her suffering away! When I woke up I wiped the dried tears from my face and smiled.
---Art_Sheppard on 12/19/10


Hey friend. My mom died on May 17th, 2010 also. After a heart attack, we found that she had 3 clogged major heart arteries, diabetes, liver failure, and COPD. I just had our fourth child on April 17th, 2010 and I struggle with the fact that Mom didn't get to meet her. Friends say that I am still the same person but I can't fathom how I would be. I so feel like part of me is missing. Mom was on the ventilator for 2 weeks prior to her death. She saw me but couldn't speak to me though I had been away for 2 years miles away. But with the signs of the times I am grateful that Mom has escaped the tribulation. I'm sorry your Mom also had to suffer my friend. But God has mercy to save, and we both will have to trust that our Moms are suffering no more.
---Precious on 7/6/10


My step dad died december 14th 2009 of cancer. It started in his lungs and since it was small cell, it moved rapidly through his body.

Way before the end, I prayed "Lord, if it is your will, please save him . If it is not your will then SAVE him so I can see him again on the other side."

Well, since he past, God didn't see fit to save him in his flesh.
But God did answer my prayers. He SAVED him in his spirit. I know from that, my dad is with God so I will get to see him again.
My dad for a long time was mad at God. But now, I see God used that cancer to fix their relationship and answer my prayer.
God's ways are not our ways God saw fit to bring dad back how GOD wanted.
---miche3754 on 7/1/10


I have gotten very angry at God, because, I could not understand sufferings. I hated it, so much. Of course, it did no good. Believers has an edge that unbelievers do not have that is the "living God' who will always bring us through. Now, unbelievers has an "inapt" ability which helps them, in this life, I know, because, I asked God about this. When it comes to loved ones sufferings, it can be challenging, too. I have asked God about a certain person, and the answer is, he isn't. Even-tho he has a wicked mind. Thank God he is not suffering, not yet, anyways.
---catherine on 7/1/10


\\I heard some critical comments at the funeral because I wasn't crying. But I had done that a long time before, in private. \\

People react to the death of a parent in different way.

Before Mother died, I had to give her up to God. The grieving I did was mostly at that time and just before I had to put her in a nursing home a month before she died, because I could no longer give the care she needed.

And when my Father died, my grieving was physical: panic attacks, extreme attacks of gout, and the like.
---Cluny on 7/1/10


cluny --Ah, yes, Kubler-Ross stages of grief.
I took charge of my mothers care the last months of her life and went through those stages before she died. My brothers, however were pretty oblivious during her illness. They felt she was well cared for so didn't pay much attention until her death was imminent.
I heard some critical comments at the funeral because I wasn't crying. But I had done that a long time before, in private. I didn't really expect that they would understand.
---Donna66 on 6/22/10


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My mom passed away in 2001. She had a collapsed lung and COPD. She knew she was dying but she was ready. She wanted to see her kids and grandkids before she died. Have u ever heard that gospel song handfull of weeds by, Sheri Easter? That song touches me so much and now my daughter brings me a handfull of weeds, thinking they r flowers. I remember mom laughing and I asked her why she laughing, she said "I ran my race and and I'm out running the devil and he can't keep up". We may think they r suffering, but God takes the sting out of death. My mom died peacefully.
---Rebecca_D on 6/21/10


\\Haven't you seen or heard the following:
Patient: I'm dying, you know
Family member: Oh, don't be silly! You're too mean to die, ha ha! or..."You can't die!
You have to be here for your grandaughter's wedding next year!"

The dying person often ends up protecting his family from a truth that is too painful, not for him, but for THEM\\

It's like the law firm: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance.

Fortunately, I was able to go through all of them before my mother passed away.

Unfortunately, Dad's death was sudden and unexpected.
---Cluny on 6/20/10


Irene, there's good news in the depth of your sorrow... you're normal. That's a perfectly normal response. Grieve & miss her- yes! absolutely!! It will get easier over time with the Lord's help. And then you can help someone else a little later endure & overcome all because you can relate to their sorrow. Keep trusting the Lord. & you will be victorious.
---Reba on 6/20/10


thnk u everyone for the words of encouragement...my mom was 65 when she passed..im 30.. she battled cancer for 5 months before she passed....i know it wasnt god who did this..but sometimes when things like this happen you lose faith...i just hurt so much inside seeing her be sick and now this....i so want to be with her right now...i need her desperately....she was my life, the only one that didnt hurt me or let me down...now i feel alone..i have 2 older sis, and older bro..but they werent as close to her so they dont understand..i feel like my world has ended
---Irene on 6/20/10


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Some of the words here are truly from God.
How do I know, how can I not know!
God bless you
Donna66 and Cluny, truly words of comfort.

My mother knew the day of her death.
She told us, well before she got sick. That day she died!
The doctors brought her back to life again. She was mad it this!

The next time we talked, she could no longer speak.
Funny, how we all knew what she was saying.
That night she died!
This is for you that believe, she knew the day of her death!

For those lasts years and tears. I will forever thank God!
Its going to be hard, keeping the faith!
God bless you
---TheSeg on 6/20/10


Cluny--Over the years, I've discovered what you say is true. And my experience has shown me also, that many times, family members are the last ones to accept a death. It's sad in a way, because the dying person could talk freely about death, and receive some needed comfort if his family would let him.

Haven't you seen or heard the following:
Patient: I'm dying, you know
Family member: Oh, don't be silly! You're too mean to die, ha ha! or..."You can't die!
You have to be here for your grandaughter's wedding next year!"

The dying person often ends up protecting his family from a truth that is too painful, not for him, but for THEM.
---Donna66 on 6/19/10


Something to think about in times of great and serious, especially terminal, illness. I was told this during Mother's sickness.

How many people, even Christians, does death take totally by surprise?

My mother, and yours, were given due notice that they were soon to meet God, and were granted time to prepare for this.

Think about it, all of you.
---Cluny on 6/19/10


Irene
I want to say Im sorry.
This is why, sometimes I think, I should just shut my mouth!

Just trust him with all your heart, and hell give you all of his.
Please forgive me!
God Keep you!
---TheSeg on 6/18/10


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Reba
Because you are not offended, God Bless you.
All you have to do is change all the blaming to thanking. So you see, I blame God for everything! Adam & Eve mess-up, right. I think so too!
Its just the where, I may feel differently about. Ending with who told you, you were naked. Now did God make them suffer or did they do it themselves?

Everything that happens here is from God, to teach us right and wrong. It doesnt happen because you were bad, it happen to you to teach us all. But this is hard to understand! The greater the suffering you can stand, the greater the love he has for you.

Now you tell me, why?
Think about his Son.
---TheSeg on 6/18/10


The Seg, I like the way you explained your points very much. Scripture is clear that
"In Him we live, and move, and have our being" Acts 17:28. The message was addressed not to the people in church, not to a company of saints who had reached an exalted plane of spirituality, but to the heathen audience, to those who worship the "undknown god" and who mocked the resurrection of the dead.
And again, "A man's heart deviseth his way, but the Lord directeth his steps" Prov. 16:9, And if the Lord directs the steps of man, is it not proof that he is been controlled or governed by God? My point is that God is in control, He has all the power. In Him we live and move and have our being.
---Mark_V. on 6/18/10


Dear Seg, I'm not offended. I believe God has ALL power in heaven & earth. But He has chosen to give His human creation a mind & will of their own to make choices- good or bad.Look what a mess Adam & Eve made of the perfect garden.God didn't force them to make that choice, they chose it. satan is the evil one to blame for heartache & misery. We should never blame God for the evil this sinful world brings. The best we can do is trust God to be with us through thick & thin. & help us to bring Him glory & honour no matter what life brings our way.
---Reba on 6/17/10


He didn't. he doesn't make anyone suffer of natural diseases. What he did was put her at rest when she died.
---candice on 6/17/10


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Reba
God blessed you!

You said:
Don't go blaming God for everything we don't have an answer for or don't understand.
I say then:
Don't go blaming God for all the bad things either, right!

Well then who, you, me the devil?
Please dont be offended. But, who has the power?
I just love it then people try to explain God to me.
You know when you wake up from a bad dream.
Do you blame God for it?
Maybe some do and some dont!

One more thing, do you fear God. Well, I do!
But, not in the way you think. I fear him because of the things he can do!
Not to me! To them that question his absolute authority over everything!
Trust!
---TheSeg on 6/17/10


The Seg, Just because God allows something to happen doesn't mean He causes it to happen. A lot of things we cause on ourselves from the bad choices we make, then like spoiled children we want to blame someone else for it. & if no one else fits, God is an easy target for our bad decisions. Don't go blaming God for everything we don't have an answer for or don't understand. We as God's children should be smarter than that.
---Reba on 6/17/10


Honey please do not blame God. You do not want to do this to yourself. God is all powerful and all-knowing. Trust HIm. We all begin our trip back to the grave from birth. This is just the way it is, Why? This is something we cannot explain,fully. When we learn this lesson in life... we begin to relax, stop blaming God. Everything that looks bad is not bad. Even death has a purpose and a reason. Trust God. Your mom is at peace and rest now. Be happy for her. You will be able to do so one day. Give yourself time to grieve and accept her death. Day by day you will begin to feel better. Time is a healer. Pray and let the scriptures minister to you,for your pain and loss.
I have been there. I know. Someone cares and are praying for you
---Robyn on 6/17/10


Feel for you, sorry!
Its hard to get your mind round God. Even you are suffering now!
Asking why he made her suffer so?
It makes people say things and doubt!

Sometimes I think I should, just shut my mouth!
There is a time to talk and a time not too. But I cant help it!

My mother also died of cancer! Things were bad too!
Should I be asking God, why?
Then why am I not asking, why his Son, had to suffer so.
But, we know why!

Some here have said God is not the one who is making them suffer.
Well then who!

These same people are saying someone else has power!
There is no other power! But that of God!
Amen!
---TheSeg on 6/17/10


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Irene, I too am sorry for your loss. My sister Passed away about 10 years ago & I still miss her terribly. She was born with Spina Bifida & she suffered a lot during her life of 28 years. But she loved the Lord & was grateful He allowed her to be born that way because it scared some of the family so much, not knowing what to do, that they turned to the Lord & was saved because of it. Becky(my sister) never complained, she had smiles through her tears & every one loved being around her. Sometimes when life causes us to suffer, God gives an extra dose of grace to carry us through it. Lean on Him during this time. TALK WITH HIM OFTEN. Tell Him exactly how you feel. You will get strength from spending time with Him.
---Reba on 6/17/10


My own mother died of cancer of the left maxillary sinus. By the time she died, the left side of her face, from the top of her eye socket to her upper lip, was a gaping hole. Not even a 4 x 4 pad would cover it.

I asked the same question (as I'm sure she did, too).

I learned eventually that I was asking the wrong question. You are too. God did not make either of them suffer.

I can assure you that your mother and my mother are both PERFECTLY healed. In the World to Come there is no cancer, and the physical effects of it will be erased at the General Resurrection.
---Cluny on 6/17/10


I'm so sorry Irene. I don't know how long you had with your mother, but I had 46 years with mine. When she moved to heaven I not only lost my mother but I lost my best friend. It was so difficult. I pray God fills you with joy unspeakable to replace the grief. I pray your mind & heart be filled with sweet, sweet memories. By now I'm sure she has met all her loved ones who have moved before her but most importantly she has seen Jesus face to face, which I can hardly wait to do! God Bless you Irene & give you Peace.
---fay on 6/17/10


I'm sorry for your loss, and my prayers are with you and your family.

Here are some scriptures to encourage you at this time:

The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart. Psalm 34:18

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you, and through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, nor shall the flame scorch you. Isaiah 43:2

The Lord has comforted His people, and will have mercy on His afflicted. Isaiah 49:13

God will wipe away every tear from their eyes, there shall be no more death ,nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away. Revelation 21:4
---Kimbe7395 on 6/17/10


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My prayers go out to you and your family in this time of need.
---JIM on 6/17/10


Irene, I am sooo very sorry to hear your mom passed away from brain cancer. ((((Hugging you)))))).

God doesn't make anyone suffer, the devil does. How long did she live after she was diagnosed?

The bible tells us about the devil, "he prowls about like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour."

My father was diagnosed with non-hodkins lymphoma and 4 weeks later he died, but he suffered for 6 months before he was diagnosed because he didn't think it was cancer, he thought he had a virus.

I'm sooooo sorry Irene, if you need to share your grief with us, please do so and we will be here to comfort you (((((big hug again)))). I'll be praying for you, okay? I feel so bad for you, I know it's hard. I'm so sorry.
---Donna5535 on 6/17/10


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