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How To Get Husband Back

How do I get my husband back when I am the one who left? I did not cheat but left him and I have regretted it ever since. He forgives me but does not want me back. We are both Christians and I pray and pray. Any advice other than pray?

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 ---Linda on 8/4/10
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Have you asked him why he doesn't want you back? Maybe he's not convinced you really want to come back, or maybe he not convinced you didn't cheat on him, or that you may just leave again. Another view would be if he cheated you after you left and doesn't want to admit it. Along with what I just stated above, you just can't beat prayer! Prayer may be your only avenue of persuit right now, but I'd try to have a private conversation with him once I've prayed about it.
---wivv on 9/15/10

At some point you may have to release him and stop yearning and desiring him and give your situation to GOD. Trust can be easily lost but very difficult to regain. Your husband may have serious trust issues with you. Have you ever confessed your sin to him, asked for his forgiveness and truly repented. Esau regreted the loss of his inheritance but never really repented. There is a difference. One is a matter of the heart the other a matter of the intellect. You may need to search your heart and determine what it is for you regret or repentance. Continue to pray for God to reconcile the two of you but it is now up to HIM and not your decision. Seek first the kingdom of GOD and HIS righteousness and all these things will be added unto you.
---Frank on 8/27/10

pl meet him and say you want to confes whatever he will ask you,and be honest and be transperant with him..remember this is the only one chance to get him back,say him if somebody realise himself what mistake done by him/her and if he/she want to rectify it,then other should give him/her a last chance any person..forgives is GOD.
---madhu on 8/14/10

Your own ways that made you leave could still have you doing other wrong things. So, a good investment is prayer that gets you changed into a person who is loving, humble, "without complaining and disputing" (Philippians 2:14-16), not controlling and dominating (1 Peter 5:3). So, what needs to be expected of you? versus what you are trying to get him to do.

I would say, never mind what he "saw in you" that got him to marry you, because maybe you managed to show him what you really are not.

Submit to God and discover how He has you becoming, including in His love's "incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." (In 1 Peter 3:4)
---Bill_bila5659 on 8/5/10

ge is a man. IF he wante dyou back he would have come after you.

The reason why he does not want you back is simple:
---FRANCIS on 8/5/10

firstly, i agree with friendly. it gives time for him to sort out what he needs to in order for a proper homecoming.

secondly, to assume it is a trust issue might be missing the mark. the guy might trust her but just simply does not want to live with her. let's face it...people are way out of control nowadays and people are not covering themselves properly. therefore, it makes it nearly impossible to live sometimes. it usually is about control.

my wife, who left also, wants to control everything. as difficult as it is raising three on my own, it is much harder to run a smooth household when she is here.

Gal 5:15 But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another.
---aka.joseph on 8/4/10

I dont know how to say this.
But, youre a woman.
And he is your husband!
And dont think for one second hes not a man!

A soft hand on the shoulder, with a how you doing.
Remember Joey from friends!
A familiar perfume!
You know, Gun Him Down!
Hes Your Husband!

I know a guy who has never married. He always walks with his bible.
Every time he meets a woman, its always with his left hand around the bible and that formal God Bless You.

I told him, what he should do is put the bible in the car. Put his left hand around the next woman wrist. And as he says God Bless You! Just squeeze his left hand a little.
---TheSeg on 8/4/10

Ask yourself what attracted you to him in the first place. Go back to that point and start over.
It may be he is denying you because it sounds more like a demand to come back.
How willing are you to do what it takes to win him back. Put all nagging and demands away and give him time and what he saw in you to begin with. You will get him this way along with prayer and faithfullness to him and the Lord.
---Elder on 8/5/10

Don't give up! Call him, send him little notes telling him how much you love and miss him!!!!

Don't give up would be my advice!!!!

The effective, fervernt prayer of the righteous availeth much - God can change his heart! Elijah prayed for rain and he got it!

People in the Old Testament asked God to lengthen the days of their lives and God answered yes and did it for them! God loves you Linda and will bend over backwards for you!! I'll be praying for you too!
---Donna5535 on 8/4/10

I'm not saying that your leaving him was a sin, but our wrong decisions, like our sins, frequently have unpleasant consequences.

Just why did you leave him? How long were you married before you abandoned him?

The REAL issue here is now you can get his trust back--not how you can get HIM back.

I think what you need to do is to ask the Lord to show you how you can regain your spiritual and emotional balance after your wrong decision. Otherwise, you won't be a fit wife for anyone.
---Cluny on 8/4/10

Stop asking him to take you back. as long as you keep asking or begging, he is not going to go back, because you have given him reason to think that you will be there waiting when he is ready to take you back..does that makes since? I hope it does and you can hear what I'm trying to say.
---a_friend on 8/4/10

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