Wife Seeking Divorce
My wife has left me and is seeking a divorce. God has been silent this entire time, I think I hear his voice and then I hear a contradictory statement. Or is he talking to me through the legal system since that is all I see? Do I give up?
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---Greer on 8/6/10
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//I think I hear his voice and then I hear a contradictory statement.//
Has God been silent or is the noise between your heart and your head too loud to hear HIM?
Maybe, the noise from the world drowning out God.
---aka on 8/26/10|
Yes! What you have to do is>>>Ask God again. There should be some kind of peace in your doings. You shall live and learn.
---catherine on 8/26/10|
Maybe the contradictory voice is GOD saying what you don't want to hear so you label it contradictory. He may be working through the legal system. HE can use any circumstance for HIS purpose, glory and our ultimate benefit. So, NO do not give up continue to seek HIM. Read the first chapter of James it talks about being in adverse situations and counting it all joy because it builds perserverance which when completed leads to maturity. You are in a very difficult situation but its not for GOD. You can't change her only GOD can. Start looking within and asking GOD what HE may want to change in you. You have no control over your wife's actions and that is hard but your purpose is to live a GODLY Christian life inspite of your circumstances.
---Frank on 8/26/10|
Greer, God has not been silent to you concerning this matter. It is just that you have been picking up the wrone "phone."
The Bible has your answers. You must seek and study scripture to get your answer. Try that and you will see.
---Elder on 8/24/10|
Shawn, sorry I had to barge in on this blog, but I think you have me confused with someone else.
I do NOT believe God tempts man to sin. There are others here who suggest such a thing and believe He did hurled us into sin so that He could save a few and bring glory to His name. I was probably being sarcastic. I have to learn to use my (/sarcasm) marks from now on :D
---JackB on 8/24/10|
Please go back to God and ask. We have that channel of prayer opened to us all the time. Until you are sure of what God is telling you on a particular issue, you can still ask and confirm. No answer can mean WAIT, so do not be stressed. Also if God do not want you to take any action on an issue at a particular time, you may not hear an answer from HIM on that issue.
---Adetunji on 8/17/10|
Greer, knowing really nothing about your situation, I can't comment. But God be with you and may you find peace.
---ger.toshav on 8/8/10|
-- Greer :
Brother, Share with your wife your Hopes of not defrauding & leaving one the other, except it be with each others consent for a time that you may give yourselves to fasting & prayer, and then come together again on this matter of your marriage, so that Satan can't tempt either one of you for the incontinency of your Belief.
... and if she still wishes to leave & /or seek a divorce then let her, b/c if the unbelieving depart, let them depart. You as a Brother are not under bondage in such cases : b/c God hath called us to Peace. Cor.7:5,15
---Shawn.M.T on 8/8/10|
Greer, I experienced similar. We don't know your circumstances but, if it's typical of marriage breakdowns then the problem appears to be your wife's hardness of heart Matt19:8.
Augie is right, counsellors are big mistake. They have reputation of causing much damage. God is our only counsellor Isaiah9:6. Trust Him. He's not silent as might seem. Pray for your wife forgive her. Search scriptures for God's counsel.
Avoid those who are like Job's 3 friends in Old Testament. They will judge you and say you brought this all upon yourself. It is easy to forget that satan is source of these trials Christians go through. Read Job and Eph6. Recognise where the real battle is. Cast all your cares upon God, He cares for you 1Peter 5:7-11
---Haz27 on 8/7/10|
I've been through your situation.
My wife left me after a church counselor told her that my long work hours were making her depressed and lonely. Really? Today's economy requires "flexibility", not divorce court.
Anyway, I believe that the fact that my ex-wife sought counseling from a church was a big mistake. I'm not sure about why I was never asked to attend, and just left in the dark about our marriage. Very un-Christian.
There isn't much you can do legally. Seek the advice and fellowship of Godly friends and pray that your wife would have a change of heart.
As with my ex-wife, I believe that God wants us to try and work things out and avoid divorce if at all possible.
---Augie on 8/7/10|
There's not too much here for us to go on to help you.
How long were you married?
When did you wife leave you?
On what grounds is she seeking a divorce?
---Cluny on 8/6/10|
What is the reason for the divorce? Is she open to marriage counseling? If she is a Christian, than she would be guilty of adultery, according to the Bible. If she is not Christian, you are limited in what you can do, according to the Bibe. By the way, God is not silent on this matter of divorce, the Bible gives pleanty of advice on this area. I wouldn't give up, but my first step would be to evalute myself to see if I'm the reason for the divorce and I would ask her why?
---wivv on 8/6/10|