Father Abandoned Son
I have a 5 year old son. His father is a Christian and so are his fathers parents(his grandarents). My sons father abandoned him, his grandparents refuse to see the wrong in this and also rarely communicate. I would like the views of other Christians on this from Christian viewpoint. Thank you
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---olivia_raynor on 8/9/10
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Olivia. People say they are christian but when it come to proving it, many fail. Talking Jesus is one thing. Living it out in our lives is another. I feel your ex is wrong and so are the grandparents. But they have a right to choose how they want to live their lives Life can be a vale of tears,sometimes. Not easy and sometimes,unfair but we have to take the bitter with the sweet.
Never say anything bad about your son's father. Raise him as best you can.Pray that your son will not be scarred from this situation. Move on with your and son's life.Stay close to the Lord. Some people have no morals and concern for others.
---Robyn on 6/16/11|
My ex abandoned my sons at nine and eleven. He has not seen them since. Except for court ordered child support, he did not contribute a nickel. His actions forced us into poverty and the threat of homelessness. Despite it all the pay off was great. My oldest is a sophmore at a U.S. military academy and the youngest has been accepted into the freshman class at Princeton. I raised my boys by myself and it was the hardest thing I have ever done. My ex missed great moments.Carry on and raise your boys, it gets better, and the love and gratitude of your sons will keep you warm. My sons have no interest or curiosity with regards to his wherabouts. The subject of his existence never comes up...take it from your children, dont look back.
---terry on 3/31/11|
it is wrong to abandon ones own flesh and blood, and it is equally wrong to condone this action. Prayer is needed for this family rather than judgement, however.
---Gayla on 8/15/10|
MEW, there's a lot to this story that we don't know.
All we know is part--and only part--of Olivia's side of the story.
And important part, which she never told, is whether or not she is married to the child's father.
And the man involved might tell a very different story--such as what she did to drive him away.
I've learned that in these cases, it's seldom always one person's fault. There's usually equal blame on both sides.
---Cluny on 8/15/10|
The father BETRAYED his son (I couldn't imagine how he managed to convince GRANDPARENTS to do the same).
Look up online "Women In Need" (an organization to help single mothers...in most states of the U.S.).
The old way of the uncivilized ancient religious cultures was to unjustly/unlovingly burden the children...
1 Timothy 5:8
"If any one does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his own family, he has disowned the faith and is worse than an unbeliever".
...but Jesus's way is that the parents are responsible to the children...
2 Corinthians 12:14
"for children ought not to lay up for their parents, but parents for their children".
---more_excellent_way on 8/15/10|
Their in NO valid reason for a CHRISTIAN father to abandon his children! Before making further comment,I'd have to know if you two, (his parents) are married? Are you divorced from each other? Is the 5 year old son from another marriage or sexual encounter other than the father? Regardless, it does not change the picture if what you state is true, "My sons father abandaned him ....", he has no valid reason for this leaving of his son, especially if he is a Christian.
---wivv on 8/12/10|
You do not mention if you are married to your son's father. You fail to mention how you and his father get along. You fail to mention if you are a Christian. You fail to mention if he visits his son, or has arranged for visitation. Does he pay child support? Is visiting him a hassle because of the way the father is treated by you?
Fill in the gaps, and we can answer this more succinctly.
---Trish9863 on 8/10/10|
Leaving you is one thing, but leaving children are wrong. Again we donot have all the details.
---candice on 8/10/10|
Well, we need to know and understand the full-detail in this! How, why, ect.
---catherine on 8/10/10|
Olivia, you give little information for anyone to really make a call on what you said. First, you did not say if you were a Christian youself. Second, what you call abandon might not be that at all and might be he left for real good reasons. Sometimes it is better to leave then to stay when things could get worse for you and the family. Third, no one can really give you a reason why the parents cannot see anything wrong since they are his parents and he must have told them of things concerning you that we do not know about. Plus, you cannot force someone to stay who is not happy with you. He might be wrong in everything he has done, but only you and God know why he really left. Children are always the victims.
---MarkV. on 8/10/10|
\\My first impression is Olivia Raynor is just after sympathy and justification of her actions from the blogger on ChristiaNet.\\
My feelings exactly.
---Cluny on 8/10/10|
We are only getting one side of the story here. I see a lot of red flags all ready and any judgement calls would be very premature.
My first impression is Olivia Raynor is just after sympathy and justification of her actions from the blogger on ChristiaNet.
---Friendly_Blogger on 8/10/10|
Luke 10:28-31. Jesus did say that a man might leave his own family, in order to serve Jesus and the Gospel. So, a man leaving his house and land and family can be good.
"But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." (1 Timothy 5:8) But this especially means to provide his time to love and to be an example of how to relate as a family man.
But *in case* you have helped to turn his efforts to nothing, it could be better for him to not be there, rather than his son see such a horrible example of relating.
But you and he are unique, not to be put in some general category. You might tell us more, God bless you (c:
---Bill_bila5659 on 8/9/10|
My own father abandoned me to the care of a woman he felt was capable of murder, but she used this as an excuse to sing, "Oh, poor me!" for most of the rest of her life.
Sorry, but I hear echoes of this in your posting.
Are you complaining about how the grandparents rarely communicate with you or rarely communicate with your son?
Something tells me there's more to this story than you are telling us here.
---Cluny on 8/9/10|