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My Stumbling Block Friend

A friend who always puts doubts on your mind and stumbling blocks not just on me but on others too. Is it wrong to just cut her off completely?

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---ELENA on 9/27/12

It is ok, for if someone is always speaking the opposite of what you say, it is a waste of time. Scripture says do not put your pearls in front of swine, because the NonSpiritual are stubborn. You can witness this same foolish activity commonly posted here opposing my postings when I post the gospel and the scriptures: I will say No, then these people will say Yes, and when I say Yes, then the same people will say No. I usually don't bother wasting time on them, for there is no good reason too, because their minds are bent on boring antiChristian and antiChrist rhetoric. I minister to those whom hunger and thirst for righteousness, and not to those whom exist only to put up stumbling blocks.
---Eloy on 4/12/12

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---ELENA on 4/11/12

It depends on your spiritual maturity. If you can't "field" her negative comments, than "yes", leave her. This does't mean forget her, but pray she will come into contact with someone who can deal with her comments in a positive manner. (She may really be seeking Christ, but has serious doubts about certain things.) This is where you need to ask Christ for wisdom. Is she really a "stumbling" block who is trying to confuse you or is she just looking for answers to questions?
---wivv on 9/29/10

If she adversely effects your walk with Christ then stay away from her. However, if you are a mature Christian and feel GOD has you in her life to influence her for Christ...then I'd say keep a relationship on some level. The HOLY SPIRIT in us is the light of the world and a light is to be exposed and not hidden away. And, remember "Greater is HE that is in you (namely the HOLY SPIRIT) then he that is in the world (the devil). So I'd suggest you take this to prayer and seek GOD for the answer. Its up to you and GOD what to do. She may be searching and uses doubts about GOD because she wants a reason to believe. Also, untli you are certain what to do I'd not be alone with her take another believer...the devil comes to divide and conquer.
---Frank on 9/1/10

is this friend of yours a non believer?

what about christians or pastors WHO ARE STUMBLING BLOCKS.

malachi 2:7-8 for the lips of the priest ought to preserve knowledge but have caused many to stumble bec. of your instructions.

Luke 9:51-55 samaritan opposition
samaritan did NOT WELCOME the messengers
the disciples asked christ 'lord do you want us to call fire down from heaven to destroy them.

christ was angry & he said 'you shut the door of heaven on men's face.
---mike on 8/16/10

Donna5535: There are people like that. You did your best and that's all you can do. She has to come to the realization, for herself. If ever. It is hard for us sometimes to look within. But something will happen to force her to look at herself. I hope it is nothing too harsh or drastic, like death. God bless
---Robyn on 8/16/10

Robyn, I tried your way of doing things with one of my friends. She blamed everyone but herself for the mess her life got into. She also blamed God for alot of things too.

One day I had a heart to heart talk with her, handed her a card with $500 (a blessing to show her I want peace between us) and told her about calling people names, especially me and how she judges others and tells everyone about her daughter's Jezebel spirit, etc., I had been praying for her for years. Asked her what she thought and she said, "I don't need to repent or change anything, it's everyone else that needs to change." To this day I haven't heard a peep from her - we just couldn't go on with a friendship like that.
---Donna5535 on 8/16/10

NO, IT'S NOT WRONG! Do it, do it, do it!
---catherine on 8/13/10

Another view: I would take this friend out to lunch. Perhaps coffee. Pay for everything. Voice your concerns during the lunch. Don't be in a hurry. Find out why this friend does what he/she does. Really listen and be fair. Be a friend. It goes both ways,beloved. A true and genuine friend is hard to find. A treasure. Don't be so quick to cut this friend off. if you have really tried your best and things don't change, then--you may have to cut this friend loose. But do your best to compromise. God bless you.
---Robyn on 8/13/10

I never want to just cut a friend off like that. I would have a heart to heart with him/her--first. Make my concerns known. The friend just might do an about face and make great changes. You don't find good and true friends everyday.I value my friends(saved and unsaved) The friend may not even realize they are being negative and an irritant,to you. Try to speak with your friend,first. When you find a true friend. you have found something of true value. Something priceless. Don't give this person up, so quickly. Make sure you have voiced your opinions to him/her. Be fair. Be a friend,also. God bless you.
---Robyn on 8/13/10

Shake the dust from your feet.
---mima on 8/13/10

By doubts, I assume you mean about spiritual matters.

Is she really causing you to doubt--or is she merely questioning your baseless certainties?

There is a difference.
---Cluny on 8/13/10

1 Corinthians 5:11 - But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner, with such an one no not to eat.
---Donna5535 on 8/13/10

I believe that this scripture applies to preachers, like Benny Hinn, who might be trying to "trick" us into giving him money. I don't know all the facts here.

Anyway, I just hate it when some preachers / teachers use these scriptures as a way to "manipulate" people into giving them money.

I think that many of these folks are actually "stumbling blocks". They're scary people!
---Augie on 8/13/10

No, it's not wrong. Bad company corrupts good morales.

Scripture says:

2 Thessalonians 3:14 - And if any man obey not our word by this epistle, note that man, and have no company with him, that he may be ashamed.

1 Corinthians 5:11 - But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner, with such an one no not to eat.
---Donna5535 on 8/13/10

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