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Is This Relationship Adultery

I have slept with a woman I love who has been separated and divorcing her husband for 2 years. Is this adultery?

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 ---Peter on 8/30/10
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Peter's involvement with a married woman IS adultery. No question about that.

However, many people -- even in churches -- are involved in this type of immoral, or illicit, relationship.

I've personally known people who were involved in extra-marital affairs, divorces, remarriages, etc. NOT that I approve of any of that. God doesn't either.

My question is WHY do some churches seem to TOLERATE and ACCEPT such behavior today? The Bible is very clear that such stuff is a No-No.

Have we come to "love" our SIN so much that we have lost sight of God's plan for Men and Women? A Loving Family?
---Sag on 9/2/10


Of course it's adultery. Even if she gets a divorce, you still are not free to marry her, according to the Bible.
Mark 10:11-12 (NASB) 11 And He said* to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her,
12 and if she herself divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery."

The grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence, but it's very seldom true. Just think, I'm she's willing to cheat with you, maybe she will cheat on you if you got married.
---wivv on 9/1/10


Paul the appostle said "to the unmarried and widows "But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn." (1 Corinthians 7:9)

By law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man" (Rom. 7:2,3).


I hope this answer your question
---Ulana on 8/31/10


If she does things right with God, this can help her to do better with her husband. You might read 1 Peter 3:1-4 and show this to her, about what is possible with God.

Sleeping with her is not right. Love her by doing what is right. Love her by encouraging her to get involved with really Christian people so she can have real love and discover how this is, so this can spread into her relating with her husband.
---Bill_bila5659 on 8/30/10


Peter...Why do you call it "sleeping" when that is not what it is?
---KarenD on 8/30/10




God says it is wrong.That settles it. No ifs, ands or buts,about it. She is an adultress and you are an adulterer. I doubt you can let go, at this point. Adultery is a trap and a snare. This is why God warns us about these type things. You don't take fire to your bosom, and not be burn.
---Robyn on 8/30/10


The religious consensus is that you will burn in Hell forever if you don't change your ways.
---atheist on 8/30/10

You got that one right. Almost. The Bible -- NOT religious consensus -- says in 1 Corinthians 6:9

"Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind"

I think that you'd be a good Bible college instructor. You could offer a class on "Analyzing What The Bible Really Says".
---Sag on 8/30/10


If she was willing to go to bed with you, why would you think she would not consider someone else as well if the right opportunity arose?

You need to find someone that has moral standards that they will abide by otherwise you will certainly reap what you sow.
---leej on 8/30/10


Your are a fornicator. The religious consensus is that you will burn in Hell forever if you don't change your ways.
---atheist on 8/30/10


Being in love with a married woman is adultery even if you do not have relations with her.
---KarenD on 8/30/10

True. Jesus said so in Matthew 5:28

"Whoever looks upon a woman lustfully commits adultery in his heart"

Because the woman is MARRIED to her husband, she isn't available for another man to LOVE her. Satan tempts -- and you allow -- your mind to be filled with LUSTFUL thoughts.

Repent and Run!
---Sag on 8/30/10




maybe adultery, depending on the reason for the divorce
but definately fornication
---francis on 8/30/10


Peter...Yes, it is adultery. Being in love with a married woman is adultery even if you do not have relations with her. A divorces does not take two years unless someone really doesn't want a divorce. Why are you involved with another man's wife?
---KarenD on 8/30/10


If she is still married, you should not be having any relationship with her at all. It is adultery, and you need to repent and separate from her till her divorce is final.
---Trish9863 on 8/30/10


Yes. Until the divorce in finalized stay away. They can reconcile anytime now & you'd be left with nothing. not saying she would after 2 yrs, but you never know.
---Candice on 8/30/10


You are in an ADULTEROUS relationshiop. Showing "love" to a married woman is fine. However, sleeping with her is NOT.

You haven't mentioned if you are a Christian. You need to "repent", stay "away" from her, and seek God.

I would recommend that you talk with a church Pastor about ending your ADULTEROUS relationship.
---Augie on 8/30/10


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