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God revealed to me a man who I am to be with. We have served hand and hand for several months now. I feel led to meet with this man for coffee and tell him what the Lord revealed to me. The guy's ex girlfriend is moving here this Saturday to be with him. Should I do this? Is this a wise choice?

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Absolutely not! How good are you at hearing the word of the LORD? If its true then it will be confirmed by at least 2 or more witnesses. And if you believe GOD revealed this to you that doesn't mean you are to now reveal it to him. Personally, I think you are out of line to hold on to this notion. Live your life according to the Word of GOD and wait patiently upon the LORD. If his ex-girlfriend is moving back and he is not concerned then don't spoil it for him. Maybe all you are really doing is trying to sabotage the possibility of he and his girlfriend rekindling there relationship. You sound very immature and relatively inexperienced in your Christian walk. Pray to GOD for restraint and fill your time getting to know HIM better.
---Frank on 9/10/10


In the interest of social science, i say meet with him. Now here is the thing:
If all goes well, then you did hear from God, but if it does not go well, then you did not hear from God.

Somehow we need to be able to distinguish between our own thoghts and God's voice. Sometimes only in retrospect can we do that.
---francis on 9/9/10


If God has revealed this to you, than He has revealed it to him too. Your best "bet" is to wait and see what happens to him & his ex-girlfriend. If God really wants you to establish a lasting relationship, it will work out. Right now, just wait and see what happens. If this person does re-new ties with his ex-girlfriend, it may be your emotions are dictating this to you and not God!
---wivv on 9/8/10


\\ and then a few months later, they come crying to me that Beauty was really the Beast.\\

I know someone that happened to. She was POSITIVE that this man was the one she should marry.

Nobody--her friends, her adult children, or the man in question--were in favor of it and all advised against it.

Her own pastor said he could not perform the marriage unless certain conditions were met.

She wasn't going to have anyone tell her what to do, so she ran off to a a charismatic Methodist she knew casually (who never inquired).

The marriage ended in annullment 3 months later.
---Cluny on 9/7/10


you know the devil can speak to you too. as someone who has been cheated on, it hurts too many people, not just 2.
---debby on 9/7/10




If you were sure God told you this, you wouldn't be posing this question here. The fact that you are doing so indicates that you're not really sure it was God.

God isn't the author of confusion. It's not likely he would tell you this, but not the fellow - letting him get together with his ex, leaving you in the lurch. Many times people think they hear from God, but it's either wishful thinking or another spirit.

Many times, friends have told me they have found "The One" and I got a bad feeling but couldn't just say "This is wrong, even though I've only heard about them 5 minutes ago while you've known them for months" - and then a few months later, they come crying to me that Beauty was really the Beast.
---StrongAxe on 9/7/10


\\if God made the choice, then are we and you to question His wisdom? why would you need to ask us?\\

You've made a good point, aka.

Obviously, Randi, you know deep in your heart that God in fact did NOT reveal this to you.
---Cluny on 9/7/10


Randi....Cluny is right. Leave this man alone until God tells him what you think he has told you.
---KarenD on 9/7/10

Good advice
---JackB on 9/7/10


//God revealed to me a man who I am to be with...Should I do this? Is this a wise choice?//

if God made the choice, then are we and you to question His wisdom? why would you need to ask us?

Randi...wishful thinking is usually not a subset of willful thinking.
---aka on 9/7/10


I've had much the same thing ... I have been told by God that this was the lady for me.

But she has not heard the same.

It became clear that she did not feel for me as I felt for her.

I realised that my "message from God" was just wishful thinking.

Fortunately I had not made a complete fool of myself by declaring what god had "told" me!

Follow the advice so far given here!
---alan8566_of_uk on 9/7/10




If it is really God that spoke this to you, WAIT. God will reveal this to the guy in His timing, if it is really God. Otherwise, it is your own flesh, not God. Also, if it is really God, it WILL be revealed to you by two or three witnesses (whether human, or Bible verses).
---Leslie on 9/7/10


Randi....Cluny is right. Leave this man alone until God tells him what you think he has told you.
---KarenD on 9/7/10


If you are to be together the feeling would need to be mutual. He wouldnt be getting back with his ex.

I would tell him of your feelings for him and that is all. You start telling him God revealed to you that you are to be with him, he might get a little creeped out. Wouldnt you be?

Sometimes its better to keep things to yourself.

Now if yall get together and get married later on, THEN you should tell him how the Lord led you to him.
---JackB on 9/7/10


And just WHY would God reveal this to you and not to the man involved?
---Cluny on 9/7/10


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