Non-Christian Guy Wants Me
For the past six years a non-christian guy has pursued me. I have said no because he is not a Christian, but I like it that he has pursued me. Is it OK for me to marry him?
Moderator - It was unbiblical during the past six years and still remains so. No it's not OK.
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---marah on 9/8/10
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So you want to marry this guy just because he's pursuing you? Read I CORINTHIANS 7. The Scriptures warn Christians not to be unequally yoked. Like when the heathen wives of king Solomon turned him away from the True GOD, to serve their false gods....So it is when a Christian marries a non-christian. They are not two people traveling toward the same Goal, toward GOD. And, one will influence the other. And, don't count on being a "strong enough" Christian to "influence the unbelieving man", you don't know that THAT will happen. Yes, the Scriptures say that the Christian spouse can "sanctify" the unsaved spouse, but, that's in the context that both began marriage as unbelievers and one got saved sometime afterwards.
---Gordon on 10/8/10|
First let me commend you on saying no to this guy,you are a strong woman. Please DONT make the mistake I made, I was not as strong as you are and now it's hard to live this way. We have been together for 17 years and in the beginning he was quite cunning in that he said although he didn't believe he thought it was great that I did. That was a lie, he is so contemptible at anything Christian which manifested overtime. A little each year and now its really hard. I remain faithful to the Lord now and just keep my tongue when my husband is on one of his rants. So please don't, it's hard for me to get up in the morning and it's even harder for me when he pulls in the driveway!
---diane on 9/14/10|
Tell him to "GET LOST"!
---catherine on 9/9/10|
I believe you should move on with your life, and allow him to go his way. Find someone who's Christian like yourself. It's hard trying to get along with someone who don't see eye too eye when it comes to things of God. Pray about everything, and ask the Lord to send you someone that believe in same things you believe in. Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4
---Kimbe7395 on 9/9/10|
Are you leading him on? Most men will not pursue a lady for six years unless you are holding, "A carrot" in front of him that makes him continue to pursue you.
The best thing you can do is SHOW him 2 Corinthians 6:14-16 (ASV)
14 Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers: for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? or what communion hath light with darkness? 15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what portion hath a believer with an unbeliever? 16 And what agreement hath a temple of God with idols? for we are a temple of the living God, ....
But, most important is you stop giving him hope. If you don't know what you are doing that has his hopes up, ask God to show them to you.
---wivv on 9/8/10|
So, he's pursuing you. And I know there are guys who can so pursue a woman for marriage while they are cheating with someone else. So, do you know for sure about who else and what else he is pursuing or not?
There are people who even get married to ones they do not trust. But in love we can have ability to know who we can trust. God gives us this ability, in His love. And trusting is not blind, it is based on reliable testing so we know who we can trust and how God would have us trust each person.
So, if you don't even have this trust with him, that's all you need to know. And only a real Christian can give you the real thing, but it takes one to know one.
---Bill_bila5659 on 9/8/10|
The devil is always on his job. Of course the guy is pursuing you, he is the devil's child. You are suppose to belong to God. Leave him alone! God has already given His warning in his Word. What does it take for us as Christians learn to obey God! We should not be yoked with the unsaved. Save yourself a lot of misery. Don't do it! But we always have choices. If you choose to go ahead with this man, you will have to live with the consequences. Don't blame God when something terrible happens.You have been forewarned.
---Robyn on 9/8/10|
.....and Jesus wants you. Who are you gonna turn to, Him or Satan's agent?
---Elder on 9/8/10|
Stalkers also possess the attribute of pursuing. I would be cautious of someone who will not take NO for an answer and move on. I understand that it makes you feel special but sometimes the things that make us feel good are actually red flags to get out. Like women who feel protected by "bad boys" only to find out that they beat women. The man is not a Christian and seems to have no respect for the fact that you can not be with a nonChristian. Doesn't sound good to me. I would run from him and not look back.
---jody on 9/8/10|
marah, a dog pursues a bone, a cat pursues a rat, don't be fooled by a man pursuing you.
is that your definition of Love? Are you a Christian? Because the word says, "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers, for what does Belial have in common with the Lord?"
You will be in a battle for your life, a battle with good vs. evil. If you are Righteous in Jesus, why would you marry an unbeliever? Are you not aware of the problems, issues and pain that will cause you? The devil wants you to marry a non-Christian, but Paul the Apostle said, DO NOT BE UNEQUALLY YOKED TOGETHER WITH UNBELIEVERS." Do not be means Do not be in the Greek, English, Latin, etc.,
---Donna5535 on 9/8/10|
If you want to set yourself up for a lifetime of misery and fighting, go ahead.
Why do you want to marry him?
---Cluny on 9/8/10|