Confess Affair To Future Husband
Should I confess a three-year affair that I had with a married man, to my future husband? I ended the affair and repented of it a while back. I'm single, never been married and don't know who my future husband would be. But when I do meet him, is it important for me to confess my past to him?
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---Lyd on 9/13/10
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The only one you need forgiveness from is God.
Let it go.
(Eph 1:7-9 [NET])
In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace
that he lavished on us in all wisdom and insight.
He did this when he revealed to us the secret of his will, according to his good pleasure that he set forth in Christ,
Past is Past you are starting new.
---Royal on 9/17/10|
That's a good one Cluny. I bet that helped the blogger when you attempted to be funny.
---Alan on 9/17/10|
How do you think your future husband would react to that news? My guess is that during your marriage he would always be second guessing you when times are tough.
---Alan on 9/17/10|
\\Lady i don't believe you actually posted this question.\\
Are you saying you believe that it just appeared by magic?
SOMEBODY had to post it.
---Cluny on 9/15/10|
Hi, Lyd . . . I would say, if the LORD wills for you to live and get married, then you two will be unique, and so what you two decide to do about something like this will be for you two to pray about and work out together (c:
The Bible does say "the husband is head of the wife" (in Ephesians 5:23). So, make sure about if a man is relating with you as your "head". And if you do trust him, I'd say you can talk with him about anything. Or you two can agree not to talk about certain things.
I have brought up problems with people who are special to me, not because of honesty but because of my doubt that they love and accept me.
---Bill_bila5659 on 9/14/10|
if confronted don't lie as that would be fraud ...the need to understand someones past is the need to make others RELIVE their mistakes ...unless you believe your future husband is a virgin and seeking one
however there is a REASON it is called the PAST!!!
do you want to be a pillar of salt longing for your past and ALL of the mistakes you ONCE made ...continuously looking back and confessing every sin to every potential suitor is absurd
how can you make your life right if you DWELL on mistakes
put your hands heart and mind to the present and future and live as Christ commanded SIN NO MORE
---Rhonda on 9/14/10|
Getting forgiveness from God is easy, it's not so easy getting one from another person. But, "yes", I'd tell my future spouce - but just make sure it's going to be your future spouce and not just someone you date, even if's it serious. If he's going to trust you, this will be a great step towards earning that trust. If he won't forgive you, he probably won't forgive you for most anything you do after you are married. If he should find out though the, "grape vine" and you haven't told him, he won't trust you for anything. Tell him!
---wivv on 9/13/10|
Lyd, why don't you do what God does with our sins? He Forgets them.
If you are washed by the Blood of Jesus, redeemed, and have repented with remorse and turned from your sin, and asked Jesus to forgive you, then forget about your past sin(s).
Keep your eyes focused on Jesus and your mind too. Forgive yourself. Talk to God about it if you have guilt, but only the devil brings guilt, not Jesus.
---Donnna5535 on 9/13/10|
Cluny & Lea
---TheSeg on 9/13/10|
Lady i don't believe you actually posted this question. If you have a relationship with the Lord and know him does he not forgive us of our sins, they are under the blood to be remembered by no one not even God. This is a simple answer go into the word for answers like this. On here you will only open yourself up to condemnation and redicule.
---Lea on 9/13/10|
If and only if you have received a communicable STD or have had your ability to bear children impaired.
Considering the times we live in, he probably has a past, too. Are you sure you would want to hear about his?
---Cluny on 9/13/10|