He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. This scripture has been taken out of context so much by the church. How many men are married and are receiving favor from the Lord? Not many. They haven't even bothered to find out what it means. What this scripture means: finds a wife means "to bring forth the woman", "who she is" finds a good thing. When the man is bringing forth all that is good within her that God has created her to be and allows her to be that the husband obtains favor from the Lord. First, you'll know if she's the one. How? God will show you. You'll just know.
---Lori on 11/23/10|
Carla laughs at your post.... That is real deep..... but boy do I understand where you are coming from.
However I know that there are some really lovely ladies in the church I went to and they remained single because no one asked them... when the lads were going for the most beautiful talented n popular girls in the Lord, they overlooked the simple lowly in spirit yet beautiful women.
They are the ones holding their mouths up with shame as they enter the divorce courts either for the first seconds and some of them for the third time!
---Carla on 10/25/10|
Stephen, If you look at the statics it is not a very wise thing to do today to get married: according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri, 50% of first marriages end in divorce. I once was married, and all things were destroyed, I even lost my salvation, but Christ in his unspeakable mercy saved me again. I have never fully recovered from that evil, and I know that I never will in this life. But I know that it is better for me to enter into everlasting life being maimed, than to have my whole being cast into hell.
---Eloy on 10/19/10|
Stephen, If you look at the statistics it is not a very wise thing to do today to get married: according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri, 50% of first marriages end in divorce. I once was married, and all things were destroyed, I even lost my salvation, but Christ in his unspeakable mercy saved me again. I have never fully recovered from that evil, and I know that I never will in this life. But I know that it is better for me to enter into everlasting life being maimed, than to have my whole being cast into hell.
---Eloy on 10/19/10|
Many couples in the past were chosen by their mothers and fathers, or by matchmakers, and they stayed married unto death.
Also, many christians have this mistaken idea that "just pray and God will provide." Don't depend on just prayers. Faith without works is dead faith. You need to go out and look for a wife. Don't just depend on talking about marriage over a cup of coffee and discuss finances and such. Don't just depend on going out a few times and having a laugh or two. But observe them doing the work for the Lord and in everything they do glorifies God.
As for my personal opinion, don't get married. We are living in the end times and focusing of God is very, very difficult indeed.
---Steveng on 10/19/10|
I would pray about a spouse, but not too hard, because if you force God's hand and run ahead of him and marry too quickly then you probably will not be happy. And the Christian dating services, I do not know whether they have much success rate. My advice is to first pray about whether or not you should marry, and leave it there in God's hands. If you meet someone or not, be content in yourself just they way you are.
---Eloy on 10/19/10|
To answer your question, a good wife comes from the Lord. The bible says that you can get houses and wealth from your parents, but you can only get a good wife as a gift from God. Trust him. The bible also tells us in Ps 5:3 that we should lay our requests before God and wait in expectation. You need to have an attitude of EXPECTATION. Expect that God will answer your prayer in due time. Always maintain a good and optimistic attitude and avoid negative people.
In the mean time, work on being the right person, because if you don't then even getting the right person won't make you happy.
God bless you and all the best.
---Joyce on 10/19/10|
Yes, well, wait on God. If she truly belongs to God she would not dare be unfaithful. Will life be easy, would depend on her calling. Well, she certainly would not want you to be ignorant. She should stay just as close to God as before, perhaps closer. She should still depend only on her true, living, talking, God..
---catherin on 10/18/10|
Anon, I didn't call you anything. Do you have a guilty conscience? I'm not sure why I have to defend myself here, I never mentioned a specific woman or group of women, but you need to be aware dear "sister in the Lord" that not everyone who claims Christ is REAL.
For the sake of fairness I'll bash men too, will that make you happy?
Ladies beware of a man who'll love his sports team, wine, possessions, money or anything else that'll burn up in god's final judgment more then his family and children, this ape is not worthy of the kingdom, and the couch bound beer swilling bozo is more a bum then a man who lives under a bridge...Happy?
---peter on 10/15/10|
Peter, WOW!!! You call us Christian Women who love the Lord Thy God with all of our heart, soul, mind, etc., and those of us who Obey the Lord's Word, who Follow after HIM and not the things of the world, you call us: 1) harlots 2) scared little girls 3) looking for a daddy figure to take care of them.
4)most American women don't fit that description, 5) even among Christians the lot is littered with gold diggers.
Peter, I have to ask YOU, what kind of a Godly man would describe a Sister in the Lord this way? I take offense to this and this should have never been posted. I forgive you Peter.
---anon on 10/15/10|
Mary I'm being real, I don't hate anybody.
---Peter on 10/14/10|
// He will know when and if you are ready and one deserving of what daughter of HIS-HE can intrust with you. //
---char on 10/14/10
I never really thought of it that way before. Thats an interesting view for sure.
---JackB on 10/14/10|
Wow, Peter, you don't per chance hate women do ya? :( LOL
---Mary on 10/14/10|
Focus on being a son of God.
Focus on being a Godly husband.
Focus on your relationship with God.
He can form you into a Godly Husband. He will know when and if you are ready and one deserving of what daughter of HIS-HE can intrust with you.
---char on 10/14/10|
I don't know, ask her! Those are futile questions you are asking. No one can give answers to them. You have to find a christian woman first. Make her your wife and then let the future unfold. We do not know the future. God did not give humans that ability. You want some kind of guarantees. Life does not work like that. You have to do the work. Pray and ask the Lord to help you on your mission. God bless
---Robyn on 10/14/10|
Stephen I highly recommend you hide your profession educational background and economic status...if you do a woman can't marry you just for that. The ones that do are nothing more then harlots anyway, they're not marrying for faith's sake, but they're scared little girls looking for a daddy figure to take care of them.
You want a woman that produces instead of consumes, most American women don't fit that description, even among Christians the lot is littered with gold diggers. Be careful who you make yourself one with, you can marry the daughter of a strange god, but I promise you, you'll have nothing left when she's done with you.
---Peter on 10/14/10|
Hi, Stephen . . . to get a godly wife is one of the best and most beautiful things you can do. But first I say we need to become really honest men of God, and humble like Jesus so we can get together with a truly godly lady of Jesus. So, may we trust You, Jesus, to make us how God wants us to become as God's children. Read the Bible and trust God and Jesus to have us succeed at doing what the Bible says. And then a godly woman will be able to tell that you are doing this. And she is your helpmate to help you to stand in Jesus and love all people. And you help each other. And Jesus says, "My yoke is easy and My burden is light," in Matthew 11:28-30.
---Bill on 10/14/10|
You're asking questions that only will be answered as you walk out your marriage with your wife or soon to be wife.
It's different for everyone. I remained in faith after I was married, but my husband wanted to watch movies every night or those alien shows with the people who were half man, half alien, forget the name.
My ex ended up abusing me physically and I let him thinking he would heal from his anger but he didn't.
How would we know what would be her request regarding education and other things? Education didn't matter to me. I went to work while my husband went to school. I paid for everyting until he graduated and got a job..I worked full-time. Every marriage is different, with different situations.
---Donna5535 on 10/14/10|