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Passing Of My Parents

Why is it so hard to get over the passing of my parents; will I ever be back to normal?

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 ---jimmy on 10/14/10
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Hi my name is Jennifer, I know how you feel. I have lost both of my parents, my mom in January of 02 and my dad in July 2010. My family was very close so losing them was very hard on my siblings and I. I'm not going to tell you that getting pass the grief will be easy because it's not at least for me it wasn't. however, I will say that as time goes by it gets better. What helped me of course first was God and then the memories of the life I shared with them while they were yet living.
---Jennifer on 1/1/11


You have to grow and do your duties, study and fellowship even if you don't feel like it. Life will get easier if you hang in there.
My Dad was ready to die and that helped. He said he was glad to make it to 80--- nobody in his family made it that far. I know he is jumping for joy in heaven and just waiting for all of us. And... he's not suffering anymore! God loves us, it was time so I have to suck it up sometimes and go on. We love ya. JIM
---JIM on 12/31/10


God Himself understands grief--but our grief is NOT as "those who have no hope." Nowhere does the Bible say we should not grieve at all.
---Cluny on 10/15/10

Even Jesus wept. Yes, I know it is not stated why.
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50Nor consider that it is expedient for us, that one man should die for the people, and that the whole nation perish not.

51And this spake he not of himself: but being high priest that year, he prophesied that Jesus should die for that nation,

52And not for that nation only, but that also he should gather together in one the children of God that were scattered abroad.
---Trav on 10/24/10


You must go on. God gave the Israelites thirty days to get through with all of their groaning and weepings. Same with Moses' death. Go to Joshua 1:2 "Moses my servant is now dead, now therefore arise, and cross this Jordon"....Aaron's---[Numbers 22:23].
---catherine on 10/19/10


Your loss is still recent. Do you know anyone you can talk to about your feelings... A family member, a family friend or even a friend who knows you well (even if not your family members)? Look for someone who has also lost a loved one. If you can't find such a person, try this: Write a letter or letters to the one you have lost. Remind them (actually yourself, since they won't see them) of the good things you've shared. things you may have wanted to say but couldn't. If there are things you regret about the past, put it in your letter, too. No one needs to read this letter but you.
You might also get some help from a Christian support group if you can find one.
God will help you through this but it takes time. I'll pray for you.
---Donna66 on 10/18/10




i am hurting inside i lost love one this yrs it is hard for me and i need help
---edward on 10/18/10

edward, I am soooo sorry to hear you lost a loved one this year. You do need help from God.

Cry out to God edward, tell him how badly you are hurting then ask Father God to heal you.

Keep crying out to GOd and keep asking Him to heal you and one day His presence will come down on you and when it leaves, you will be healed and able to grieve without the deep, hurting pain.

I'll be praying for you edward (((huggss))).
---Donna5535 on 10/18/10


i am hurting inside i lost love one this yrs it is hard for me and i need help
---edward on 10/18/10


//The memories I cherish don't bring sadness any more. They add richness to my life. Now my heavenly father is my ONLY father (and mother). I depend on Him more than ever. And that's GOOD.
---Donna66 on 10/16/10//

Having lost my parents many years ago, I couldn't agree with you more. I can look back on the times we had with a smile.
God bless
---michael_e on 10/17/10


I have lost both parents, too. I knew it was coming someday...I tried to prepare for it...but it's no easier to bear when it actually happens.
It's been some 20 yrs (They died several years apart). I'm long since back to normal, But some days I'd give almost anything to have them back for just a little while. I can't count the times I've thought, "wouldn't mother have just loved this"! "I know that would make my father laugh...he'd just crack up if he was here."

The memories I cherish don't bring sadness any more. They add richness to my life. Now my heavenly father is my ONLY father (and mother). I depend on Him more than ever. And that's GOOD.
---Donna66 on 10/16/10


Jimmy, I have lost both mine too, my Dad in 1982, my Mom in 2002..it is a very hard time to go through, but you will get back to normal some day..you will always miss them, but it will get easier to live with. Read your Bible a lot and get out and do things with family and friends as much as you can. May God give you peace.
---a_friend on 10/16/10




How are you doing, Jimmy?
---Bill on 10/15/10


jimmy, you will need to go through the grieving process which consists mostly of tears, crying and being with people who will let you talk about your parents.

Grieving is a process. For some it takes years to accept or try to live with the death of loved ones.

Some allow God into their lives and heart and ask Him to heal them. It took me 2 years to be healed from the death of my father and I still cry over him sometimes because I miss him.

You are not alone, alot of us have lost loved ones. My heart goes out to you. Ask Father God to heal you. Psalm 147 says, He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Ask God to heal you.
---Donna5535 on 10/15/10


I lost my parents, brother, daughter, husband. You will learn to live with it. Time helps heal plus the grace of God will lead you thru. I have come to realize I have more over there than I do over here.
---shira3877 on 10/15/10


Queen Elizabeth wisely observed that grief is the price we pay for love.

I know how the loss of a parent affects you. I lost both of mine.

Studies have shown that it takes over a year, sometimes the better part of two years, to emotionally recover from the loss of a parent. Only losing a spouse is lengthier.

God Himself understands grief--but our grief is NOT as "those who have no hope." Nowhere does the Bible say we should not grieve at all.
---Cluny on 10/15/10


Jimmy death is a natural consequence of sin, it is as it must be, their spirits have left them and moved along to eternity.

Hold on to your love, hold on to the good times, cry when you feel the need, don't stop it, let it heal you and let it also be a message to you that your life is in Christ. It's not with them, it's here and it's now and it's time to get about the Father's business to make sure those that follow to the grave won't be doomed to perdition.

Easier said then done I know, but as long as you mourn, your life is on hold and God's purpose for your life is sidelined. This is the short part of life and live again they will -as will you. Be sober and strong to put away that which has gone by for that which is now.
---Peter on 10/14/10


I'm sooo sorry Jimmy, may God minister to you and give you His peace.
---Mary on 10/14/10


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