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How To Treat Church People

In many churches -- almost every denomination -- the Leaders, Teachers, Deacons, etc. are treated like Royalty and respected by everyone else. That's good. However, others in the church seem to be less important in the church. Is this Biblical? How did Jesus treat people?

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Robyn, scripture tells us what we are to do. We are to expose FALSE TEACHERS and expose those WHO LIVE CONTRARY TO GOD'S TRUTHS.

The problem we have in the world today is too many people are PASSIVE and are COWARDS. They claim to be SAVED, CHRISTIANS, and PEOPLE OF GOD, but the truth is they are only RELIGOUS FOLK who are only going with the flow or the latest "CRAZE".

They will never take a stand for GOD'S TRUTH because they want to be accepted by the "STATUS QUO" of those who are worldly and they don't want to offend anyone.
---Rob on 11/10/10


Organized religion is the pits in this country. But what are christians to do? The only ones who live good and are respected are the pastor/wife.their kids and family.
---Robyn on 11/9/10

Well written post. I agree with you here.

I've discovered that most churches are pretty much the same and seem to follow the same rules. For Example: Don't EVER Disagree With The Leadership!

People are just that: people and the Bible says that we're all IMPERFECT. I am constantly noticing how IMPERFECT the church leaders are, even when they seem to: think, talk, act, etc. like they are. Not!
---Sag on 11/10/10


Organized religion is the pits in this country. But what are christians to do? The only ones who live good and are respected are the pastor/wife.their kids and family. Family only means their children and grandchildren and whomever the pastor wants to include...The people included are usually people who know the procedure(s) No upstaging the pastor and taking credit for anything. Be obedient and compliant. No taking any authority in your hands without the pastor/wife permission. If you buck this system, you are outta there! Quick! Vanished! You will also be told that God will get you and you are on your way to Hell for your disobedience. How sad.
---Robyn on 11/9/10


The Pastor and his wife bear the spiritual responsibility of leading the church. They should be respected. Why slip out the back door after the service? One might wonder if they have something to hide. A man or woman of God needs feedback, (as does everybody with a job to do).The church is their responsibility and they need to show that they take responsibilty for it. You don't know that compliments make them prideful...if so, that's between them and the Lord.

Bless the pastor's wife who stands at the door with her husband. I have often attended churches as a visitor. Frequently, no one speaks to me except the pastor (or his wife).
---Donna66 on 10/21/10


I Peter 5:2-3, Feede the flocke of God, which dependeth vpon you, caring for it not by constraint, but willingly: not for filthie lucre, but of a readie minde: Not as thogh ye were lords ouer Gods heritage, but that ye may be ensamples to the flocke.


Pray that Christian leaders even do so.



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---Kev on 10/21/10




AMEN, Mike and Betty,

It is sad there are many so called :CHURCH FOLK" who are DECIEVED and BLIND TO THE TRUTH!
---Rob on 10/18/10


christ was born in a manger in a stable not in the mansions of the pharisees
christ was poor & mingled with the ordinary people, while the pharisees were separated from the people.
the pharisees looked down on the people bec. many were 'sinners'.

that is how many pastors & televangelist believed about themselves. when they speak (in the name of god) the people should listen & obey without question.
---mike on 10/18/10


Jesus,was no respector of person.It's sad but true my own church if you dont have money or have a high paying job you are nobody.GOD is Love and thats the way every one should be treated/
---Betty on 10/18/10


\\I don't know why the preachers and their wives don't sneak out the back-door.

It is of my opinion, they do these things just so they can receive praises from man. So go out the back-door and pray.

---catherine on 10/17/10\\

This from the one who says that she hears directly from God.

Consider the source.
---Cluny on 10/17/10


I don't know why the preachers and their wives don't sneak out the back-door.

It is of my opinion, they do these things just so they can receive praises from man. So go out the back-door and pray.

---catherine on 10/17/10


Yes, the praising of GOD is important. My question referred to "why" some folks in the church seem to receive more admiration, respect, lifting up, etc. than others, even Jesus Christ.

I believe that we're ALL important. That includes: GOD, HIS Son Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit, AND everyone else in the church.

Fellowship, like greeting other people is important too. After all, we're ALL part of Jesus Christ's church. The Bible says so in Galatians 3:28.
---Sag on 10/17/10




I don't know why the preachers and their wives don't sneak out the back-door. What are we, anyhow? Only God's poor, pitiful, servants, who needs God more than life or people....Sneak out the back-door and pray. Hallelujah. Thank Him for the wonderful message. Praise Him. If you stand at the door all you are gonna get is praises from man. And if the wife sings in the choir and does a beautiful job, only from man she will receive her praises, not from God. [at the door]. It is of my opinion, they do these things just so they can receive praises from man. So go out the back-door and pray. Hallelujah. Note: We are only as good as God makes us. Remember, I said, "GOD makes us". It's in there "somewhere".
---catherine on 10/17/10


Karen ... That is interesting. In my church (Churck of England) the sanctuary is at the front of the church and is where the Communion Table is.

It's at the opposite end to where people enter & exit the church.
---alan8566_of_uk on 10/17/10


One thing I like to do as the pastor's wife is to stand at the back of the sanctuary at the end of the services and greet everyone at the service.
---KarenD on 10/16/10

Good for you! That is something that I rarely see in churches. Often, it's just the same routine as in the Catholic church.

The ministry team walks in from the back of the church as the church service begins. Then they walk out the back doors once the church service ends.

I can remember as a young kid I once ran to the back doors to SEE where the ministry team went to. I never found them. :<(

Since that time, I've always wondered WHY ministry teams dodn't stick around and greet other people.
---Sag on 10/16/10


Pastors and leaders are NOT God, they are human just like their congregation. Jesus ALONE is God therefore He is the ONLY one that should be lifted up and treated with celebraty status. Pastors and leaders are to be SERVANTS according to the Bible - they are to be considered the LEAST, NOT the greater. Jesus said that if HE be lifted up, NOT our Pastors and leaders be lifted up, He will draw ALL people unto Himself.
---Leslie on 10/16/10


\\not rule over eachother. elder,decons,pastors are just titles,\\

They are not just empty titles, but they are offices set up by God in the Church.

As far as "not ruling over each other," this is NOT what the Bible says.

Hebrews 13:7
Remember them which have the rule over you, who have spoken unto you the word of God: whose faith follow, considering the end of their conversation.

Hebrews 13:17
Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.

Hebrews 13:24
Salute all them that have the rule over you, and all the saints.
---Cluny on 10/16/10


We should serve one another, not rule over eachother. elder,decons,pastors are just titles, they are the same human beings as the rest of us, though they should be respected as a teacher,not a king, we shouldn't be put lower then them either.
---candice on 10/16/10


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The Bible says to treat everyone with proper respect. Because, we are all made in "God's image"...I feel like a hypocrite doing some of these today, Jesus. Ha, Ha. I asked Jesus about this: Jesus said, "Some, I did get in their faces".
---catherine on 10/16/10


Like GOD treat us, rough.
---catherine on 10/16/10


One thing I like to do as the pastor's wife is to stand at the back of the sanctuary at the end of the services and greet everyone at the service.
---KarenD on 10/16/10


The question seems to be about PRIDE in some churches.

I used to attend a church where the Pastor was treated like "a person whose decisions were never wrong". Everyone went along with whatever he said.

Still, there were times when the Pastor had to plead for more money because some things didn't "go according to his plans". Many of us even got mad, or pissed off, at the Pastor for thinking so arrogantly, and then asking his church to solve any problems that arose. I felt like we were just being "used" and left that church.

People are just people. Pastors, Priests, Children, and everyone in between. We are all imperfect and make mistakes. We are ALL part of Jesus Christ's church.
---Augie on 10/16/10


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I can tell you what jesus said,he who would be first must be last and a servant to all,this is why as God he washed the feet of the apostles,this was usually done by a slave.there nothing wrong with our respecting leaders within the church,whats important is that they know their real place,they actually serve you.
---tom2 on 10/15/10


\\I believe where they are treated as royalty is in the Catholic Church and some that I have seen on TV in mega churches.
---MarkV. on 10/15/10\\

And some people believe in the flat earth, too.
---Cluny on 10/15/10


I believe where they are treated as royalty is in the Catholic Church and some that I have seen on TV in mega churches.
---MarkV. on 10/15/10

As a person who attends a Catholic church, I have to agree with you.

I remember when I was a young child. I left my parents and ran over to the Priest. My question was:

"Why Do You Get To Be Called A Father, But I Don't?"

The Priest just smiled at me and shrugged as my Mother came running for me. Without saying a word. The Priest's "silence" response hurt.

In hindsight, I think that there are somethings in EVERY church that nobody should QUESTION or SAY NO to. Just DO as you are told. Immediately too.


---Sag on 10/15/10


Donna5535, that was a great answer you gave Sag. I believe we pay too much attention to what others are doing and not enough on what we do. If the case is that we believe something is not scriptural we should bring it to the leaders. If they cannot convince you with Scripture then we should move on. God will provide a way for us. Our pastor dresses like all of us, and we respect him just as he respects us. We should all respect each other. If we lose respect for someone for a good reason, we should move on. Otherwise we continue to have the same problem time an again and never goes away. I believe where they are treated as royalty is in the Catholic Church and some that I have seen on TV in mega churches.
---MarkV. on 10/15/10


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I know that in the Church to which I belong we are very lucky. Since I came back to this church over 10 years ago I have seen no one treated special. Yes we give honor to those called of God because they deserve it, not because of who they are.
As to the necessary work around the church we have different people with the gifts and skills to do them and they count it as the ministry God called them to in his kingdoms work. I often tell the pastor to allow others to do what they can. In The Acts the apostles said it was not right for them to leave the study of God's word to wait tables. This was why deacons were called, to be servants not masters.
---Harold on 10/15/10


No this is NOT Biblical. Jesus said it and also the N.T. after Jesus says it that we are NOT to show favoritism (treating one person better than another). Pastors and leaders are NOT celebraties, and even if they were, Jesus is the ONLY one to be lifted up, NOT people. This is why there is so much of the "Christian" community that is really not Christian - we lift up people rather than Jesus, and those people end up not being in line with the Word of God, and then lead their followers straight to Hell.
---Leslie on 10/15/10


Seems to me that there's something in the Bible about outdoing one another in treating each other with honor and respect.
---Cluny on 10/15/10


I've seen what you're describing.
---Donna5535 on 10/15/10

I've posted many of my experiences -- in Protestant churches that I've left -- in other blogs. There are many people who are leaving the Catholic church. They might be experiencing the same thing.

The Pastor at one church did only ministry work. He recruited volunteers to do the other work around the church: cooking, cleaning, maintenance, etc. I was one of the loyal, dependable, volunteers.

Eventually, I got tired of the Pastor asking for help, but never helping himself. The same goes for other church leaders. After I had left the church, others left, and the church closed.

I wonder if the Pastor ever wondered WHY people were leaving.
---Sag on 10/15/10


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Sag, I think we know HOW Jesus treated people...with love, compassion, mercy and respect.

I've seen what you're describing. Here's my question for you and here's what I did about the problem/issue:

Why are you feeling the others in the church seem to be less important because the leaders, teachers, deacons are treated like Royalty and respected by everyone?
How does that make a person feel less important?

My solution is: If you know who you are in Christ Jesus. If you know God, truly Know Him in the Power of His Resurrection, one wouldn't be noticing the attention the others are getting because God has his eye on you, on them and cares for ALL of us the same, amen?
---Donna5535 on 10/15/10


"Let the elders who rule well be counted worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in the word and doctrine." (1 Timothy 5:17)

So, we should give our leaders not only respectful treatment, but consider them worthy of *double* honor. But Paul makes it clear this is not for just any religious leader, but for those "who rule well" . . . those, I would say, who obey 1 Peter 5:3 > "nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock."

Honor them by following their example of how to submit to God and get His correction, and how to make our marriages work (1 Timothy 3:1-10). We need to personally get to know them, so we can be fed by their example, then, I would say.
---Bill on 10/15/10


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