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I appealed to my husband to not file 4 divorce he filed it so he could get married. I appealed to her as a Christian Sister, she shunned me telling me how happy they were and that God's heart was not grieved over this divorce it was very happy. I have forgiven both of them, where do I go from here?

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Rhonda:

From Jesus's teaching about divorce, he is saying that divorce itself is not valid, so if someone gets divorced and remarried, it's as if he didn't get divorced, but still remarried (hence, is committing adultery). Because the original divorce is not valid, the subsequent re-marriage is not valid. Thus, the woman still "belongs" to the original husband, so she can't "belong" to the new one.

If someone steals your call and sells it to another person, it doesn't suddenly "belong" to the buyer. It's still legally yours, and if you find out where it is, you can legally demand that it be returned to you.
---StrongAxe on 11/12/10


You preach Heresy Rhonda, shame on you!




it appears from the post she is DIVORCED now and husband has REMARRIED

therefore

the former husband "BELONGS" to another women in marriage now

Mat 19:9
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.




Nowhere does the scripture advocate that you belong to the adulterer when you marry, you may be married but you do not belong to each other at all. That marriage is not binding!
---Carla on 11/11/10


Speak up for what belongs to you! Forgiveness is fine. We are to forgive. But I would also let this man know(and he is to blame) for all of this.
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it appears from the post she is DIVORCED now and husband has REMARRIED

therefore

the former husband "BELONGS" to another women in marriage now

as for "blame"? ...point a finger at someone to blame them just remember three pointed back at you

a marriage consists of two people the fault is with both

however she is asking where to go from here ...which appears to indicate she UNDERSTANDS the marriage is over and she is looking for suggestions to rebuild her life ...although we have not heard back from Sheri
---Rhonda on 11/8/10


Catherine your attitude is very bad towards others. Christians should not laugh at others when they fall or/are in error. Your spirit is sick within you. God is not pleased with that kind of behavior. We should try to show love to all people, at all times. Not laugh at and taunt others. Being truthful,encouraging,scriptural and loving should be the aim of every christian on this blog. If we do otherwise, we are no better than the heathen.
---Robyn on 11/8/10


I like it Carla, yea, yes, yes, yea..WHAT A GOD, WHAT A GOD, ahh..
---catherine on 11/8/10




You stick closer to Jesus than a sister and you remain in his hands, don't go looking for vengeance or copy his adulterous behaviours because he has not been released from you to re-marry although he thinks he is and so will she.

The word is sure and true and if you remain with the Lord and abide in his will you will soon learn it may not be a happy situation but it will be a godly one, one that God recognises and rewards.

Perhaps not in this life but in the life after time go's so fast, remain, stand and having done all stand and he will renew your strength in due time.
---Carla on 11/8/10


Governments including ours, are working over-time, in kicking the living God out. Prayer is under-attack. You pray in certain places and you risks handcufs. Ah, Jesus, give your people strength and courage to fight for what is right. To put these devils under. Hallelujah.
---catherine on 11/8/10


catherine:

The problem is, God's laws are administered by men who put their own interpretations on them. Many American colonies were formed by Christians of one type who objected to the British (run by Christians of a different type), and wanted their own interpretations of God's laws. These colonies were equally intolerant of Christians who believed differently than they did.

The revolutionary thing about the American constititution is that it got government out of religion - most European countries imposed their own flavor of Christianity on their subjects, but in America, people could worship according to the freedom of their own consciences, without any particular religion being rammed down their throats by the government.
---StrongAxe on 11/8/10


Any person who commits adultery, don't love people....[Read the Ten Commandments]. Learn the Ten Commandments. Very good for all of us. Why did the Governments trash God's laws, which He wrote with His very own finger? Why, oh, Why?
---catherine on 11/7/10


Pro 6:32
[But] whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he [that] doeth it destroyeth his own soul.

Pro 6:33
A wound and dishonour shall he get, and his reproach shall not be wiped away.

Pro 6:34
For jealousy [is] the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.

Pro 6:35
He will not regard any ransom, neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts.


Adultery is never good for those who think it's forgiveable and wallow in it night and day!
---Carla on 11/7/10




catherine:

You said: StrongAxe, your name is misleading, because you are one weak pitiful, fool.

Please be careful what you say, for the sake of your soul:

Matthew 5:22
"But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire."

Personal attacks are infantile. Instead of attacking me personally, why not address what I SAY - by providing scriptural support for your position? I provide scriptures for mine. I believe what the Bible says is important. Do you?
---StrongAxe on 11/6/10


My heart goes out to you, Sherri. I would love to have met you when I was in the world. I had no idea it would have been this easy to steal your husband(just checking). You need to wake up,lady! Speak up for what belongs to you! Forgiveness is fine. We are to forgive. But I would also let this man know(and he is to blame) for all of this. That I will not! Not !Be his doorstop or mat! Christians are people with feelings,too! I am a woman who has needs and will not give up without a fight. For my man. He will think twice, maybe three times, before he pull a stunt like that again.My time is valuable. I refuse to let some hussy take what I have built up for many years. No way!
---Robyn on 11/6/10


This is only for fools>>>Haz27 and StrongAxe. StrongAxe, your name is misleading, because you are one weak pitiful, fool. First, I am going to address, Haz27: You quote Scripture. Have you ever looked it up and study it? I suggest you do, get some education. Now, StrongAxe, I have found a whole bunch of Scriptures, where God LAUGHS AT HIS ENEMIES. Ha, He, Heeeeeeee.+ Ahhh. HELL, is awaiting for all fools, TODAY.
---catherine on 11/6/10


catherine:

Why do you always chortle with glee at the thought of wicked people going to hell? Even God does not want the wicked to perish - are you more righteous than God?

2 Peter 3:9
"The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness, but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance."
---StrongAxe on 11/6/10


Catherine:

Luke 6:37 Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.
---Haz27 on 11/6/10


You tell them both that Hell is their home, and to go on into Hell, right a way.HA, Hee.
---catherine on 11/5/10


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Stand up and fight for what belongs to you. Blessings
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interesting except people are not property ...and "fighting" is doing Satans bidding
---Rhonda on 11/4/10


Another view: You are doing just what the devil want you to do. I would have stood up for my marriage and made this coward, be accountable for what he has done. This woman did not make this brute do anything. He knew exactly what he was doing. Life can be so cruel sometimes. I would not have gone to her for anything. She is with your husband, for God's sake! She certainly don't care about you. This is just a sad situation all the way around. But please remember: just because you are a christian does not make you a doormat or someone to be mistreated, at will. Stand up and fight for what belongs to you. Blessings
---Robyn on 11/4/10


\\God's heart was not grieved over this divorce it was very happy\\

The Bible very clearly and unambiguously says that God hates divorce in so many words.

If this man is in such deep spiritual delusion as to say God is happy over it, you're well rid of him.
---Cluny on 11/4/10


Sherri, contrary to what your husband's girlfriend said to you, God is grieved over what your husband and her have done. Selfish Christians such as these often mis-represent God by claiming that He approves of their bad actions. Their relationship will never be blessed by God.

Your first step of forgiveness is a good one. Follow God's counsel in His word and He will bless you. You can trust in Him.
---Haz27 on 11/3/10


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Amen JackB

suing over a divorce comes from the inability to accept that people are imperfect ...Christians are not meant to live a perfect life we are to strive for it ...and the inability to accept a former spouses decision reflects a need to justify

justifying then leads to inability to forgive and then eventually bitterness creeps in for the unfortunate life changes

bitterness seeks to make "amends" through whatever means necessary ...it's akin to drinking poison and hoping your ex-spouse will die from it

don't go the suing route -- bitterness is never rewarded
---Rhonda on 11/2/10


\\Yep it is and there are specifics reasons WHY God justified divorce.\\

But only two conditions in the NT where remarriage after divorce is not adultery.
---Cluny on 11/2/10


//JackB: When a person files for divorce, it is suing for divorce. There is a plaintiff and defendant.
---Trish on 11/1/10//

Yep it is and there are specifics reasons WHY God justified divorce.

He does not justify suing someone AFTER a divorce.
---JackB on 11/1/10


\\You see the difficulty.

And most lawyers even in these states will not take on such cases.
---Cluny on 11/1/10

Is your point that she should not pursue this because IT IS DIFFICULT?
---francis on 11/1/10\\

She has 84 chances out of 100 that she lives in a state that does NOT recognize alienation of affection as a tort at law for which redress and damages can be sought in court.

What do you think?
---Cluny on 11/1/10


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JackB: When a person files for divorce, it is suing for divorce. There is a plaintiff and defendant.
---Trish on 11/1/10


I cant believe someone suggested that you take the matter to court.


It is not good for us to sue one another in court. We're supposed to show the same forgiveness that God extended to us.

Did God judge us by the law?
---JackB on 11/1/10


You see the difficulty.

And most lawyers even in these states will not take on such cases.
---Cluny on 11/1/10

Is your point that she should not pursue this because IT IS DIFFICULT?
---francis on 11/1/10


\\To court, to sue for allienation of affection
---francis on 10/28/10\\

Only eight states recognize alienation of affection as grounds for a civil suit.

The other 42 have abolished it.

Even in the eight that recognize it, it is difficult to prove. First, the plaintiff has to prove there was some degree of love between the spouses before the third party appeared. Next, the plaintiff must prove that the third party interfered with this marital love.

You see the difficulty.

And most lawyers even in these states will not take on such cases.
---Cluny on 11/1/10


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she is not your "christain sister" ...she is simply a women professing christianity living in the world and for the world

your former husband has remarried it is good to know that you have forgiven now let go ...if your former husband realizes he made a mistake (so many do) he may want to leave her and come back to you ...you must never be so weak to allow that to happen and partake in his and create a life where you would be living in sin too

so now move on ...get busy and begin your life new by praying for Gods guidance
---Rhonda on 10/28/10


God doesn't approve of adultry nor divorce (except for commiting adultry) I would let him go & btw she is not a christian woman for doing this. They are adversaries (enimies ) of God by doing this. it is good you did forgive for yourself, now move on the best you can and donot look back. lean on God during these troubled times.
---candice on 10/28/10


Amazingly enough, if he does the same to her as he did to you, she will feign a great deal of surprise and wonder how this could happen to her, a Christian woman. Forgetting how he failed to love you and how she failed in the same will be a long forgotten memory she hopes doesn't come back and bite her in the rump roast.
---Linda on 10/28/10


Just leave them in the hands of the Lord. This relationship started wrong and will end wrong. This so-called Christian woman and your husband are dogs that deserve to sleep together in their flea-riddled bed,together. The woman thinks she has done something smart but she will soon find this man out for who he is. She does not have a man she has a coward who will probably turn on her as he did you. You are a very loving person to extend forgiveness to these animals. They do not deserve such treatment. Stay strong and close to the Lord. God bless you.
---Robyn on 10/28/10


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Sherri, if I were you, I'd sit or kneel before the Lord EVERY SINGLE day and I would pour my heart out to the Lord and say, "Lord, I want you to become my Husband, you said you are the vine, I am the branch, if I abide in you, I can ask you anything, and you will do it for me."

I ask you in Jesus name to please restore me and my husband Lord back to our first love.

Shrrri, fall in love with Jesus. Spend time worshipping Him and studying His word. Once you are soo filled with Jesus, your husband will want you back. He's in lust right now and that's a shame. The other woman is in sin and can't possibly know God if she stole your husband. I'm sorry about that (((huggss)))).
---Donna5535 on 10/28/10


I need to pray for you and about you. This is what you, too, need to do. Get satisfaction with God in His love, then see what He has you doing with clear thoughts and feelings and enjoying Him.

You haven't said anything about how you have submitted this matter for God's leadership to handle. I understand that a Christian church will deal with him and her if they are claiming to be Christians and are in a church.

Also, if he is in fact not Christian, you married him. You need to find out what it was that got you to fool yourself so much . . . so you do not find other ways to fool your own self.
---Bill on 10/28/10


. I have forgiven both of them, where do I go from here?

To court, to sue for allienation of affection
---francis on 10/28/10


I went through a divorce, and had a difficult time for years. God is faithful, and He held me, and healed me.

Accept what is happening, and get involved in a Women's Bible Study, and get a Christian woman to disciple you and help you grow in your relationship with God.

You are loved and cherished by the Lord, and His love knows no bounds.
---Trish on 10/27/10


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Sherri, if he has it in his heart to leave you for this other woman, I do not believe there is much you can do to stop him. In truth it sounds like you will be better off without him.
Second of all, this woman is no Christian. She is not acting in a righteous manner.
Please know this, God will not bless their union. Our God is a just God.
Last of all, I'm glad that you have forgiven them. Take some time to recover. Pray, seak God, and rest. When you are ready, after they have married, you have biblical authority to remarry.
Christ said: Mark10:11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
Lord bless you my dear Sister in Christ.
---trey on 10/27/10


I'd be curious to hear your former husband's side of the story.

All you can do is take control of yourself.

FIRST--give yourself time to grieve.

Next, don't use text here. "For" is a preposition, 4 is a numeral. Write like an adult.
---Cluny on 10/27/10


If I am understanding your post correctly, these people lied to you....I only hope if you are saved, that this did not destroy your faith, my friend. People are always saying, [unbelievers], to a true person of God, well, "God said this to me". All I got to say is this: SATAN IS A LIAR. Oh He is such a liar. Satan this is just for you: Your time is coming, THE LAKE OF FIRE. hA, hA. Hallelujah.
---catherine on 10/27/10


Their need to malign the character and nature of God by seeking to justify their actions only show how very selfish they both were. I am so sorry neither one of them loved you enough to hear you. Your Father in heaven hears you though and cares how you feel. Move on by looking unto Jesus and finding true love and intimacy in Him.
---Linda on 10/27/10


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I'm very sorry this is happening to you, something simaler is happening to me. Someone showed me sermons on Let Go let God. THis can help you two ways, #1 Let God fill your need. #2 Let God handle your problem. No problem is too big for God. Type in "let go let God" in your computor, You'll find them. God bless, I know your heart is aching. I'll say a prayer for you.
---jay on 10/27/10


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