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What Is Unequally Yoked

What does it mean to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever?

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Beleivers with believers. Unbelievers with unbelievers
---tonne on 2/7/11

In Biblical times, even now in some poorer countries, a "yoke" was a beam of wood, or what-have-you, that was placed on the necks of two oxen, etc. for plowing fields. This yoke kept them together. To keep them in unison so that both, with their unified strength, would plow in the same direction at the same time. In Marriage, a Christian is to marry another true Christian so that they will walk the same Path of GOD, without one misdirecting the other, or for one to lead the other astray. Because our Goal, as Christians, is to endure FAITHFULLY 'til the End. We do not want the risk of someone who doesn't also love GOD to deter us from our Goal. As Solomon's heathen wives did for Solomon.
---Gordon on 12/18/10

//I also believe that two Christians can be unequally yoked.//---Donna5535

Agreed. I had a marriage failed for the same reasons. I was ready to give up a life I knew I shouldnt have been living but she wasnt.

Althought the divorce hurt, afterwards I felt nothing but peace as though God had called me away from it. Like the scripture says "God hath called us unto peace"
---JackB on 11/30/10

Simply this: What does an believer have in common with an unbeliever? God asked me that very same question once upon a time. As always I manage to come up with a good answer, a great answer. I said, "Nothing"! What does light have in common with darkness? What does Jesus have in common with Satan? What does the bad have in common with the good? God calls us good people, and before you quote a Scripture, here's one which comes to mind, "That good man Able". And the wicked, God calls you damned.
---catherne on 11/30/10

I also believe that two Christians can be unequally yoked.

I experienced that in my marriage (am now divorced).

My ex-husband went to church, spoke in tongues, but has a root of bitterness and it manifested in the form of anger and rage and murderous thoughts. It led him to go out and buy a gun and terrorize me with it. Is that a Christian? NO!!!

While I'd be upstairs praying every night, he'd be downstairs watching every demonic thing there was on TV. I'm divorced since 2001 and someone got a job here where I work and said he's worse now than ever and is still wanting to kill me for filing for divorce on him. He was beating me up, what was I supposed to do after 8 months?
---Donna5535 on 11/29/10

Unequally yoked has one meaning but lots of applications. We can be unequally yoked if we don't have the right church, marriage. God gave us boundaries and when we step outside if those boundaries, it causes a problem.
---shira3877 on 11/28/10

And *independence* is an idol in the United States. Worship of this idol has kept many from being able to relate in mutual submission and trust in marriage.
---Bill on 11/28/10


Even in churches, people have come to think of DEPENDENCE -- even on GOD -- as a weakness. People have been taught that "having any weaknesses" means you're a WIMP. Thanks to Feminism, even Women think that way.

Families, especially Children, suffer from this. Their Moms and Dads just have trouble committing because of the independence idolatry.

Both myself, and my ex-wife, are guilty there. I wish that we had known better.

When will we learn that DEPENDENCE on GOD, and your marriage partner, is Healthy?
---Augie on 11/28/10

A believer is a person who is obedient and submissive to God, and relating the way we are commanded to relate . . . "submitting to one another in the fear of God." (Ephesians 5:21) It is impossible to relate "in the fear of God" with an unbelieving person, in marriage . . . I would say (c:

Also, a basic for marriage is "with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love," (Ephesians 4:2) > again, an unbeliever is incapable of relating with us in marriage, in this manner in God's love (Romans 5:5).

And *independence* is an idol in the United States. Worship of this idol has kept many from being able to relate in mutual submission and trust in marriage.
---Bill on 11/28/10

There is a formal biblical definition,

It is a relationship between a Christian and a Pagan.

It does not apply to a Christian and a Jew, Protestant and Catholic as all of them believe in the same God, YHWH.
---Blogger9211 on 11/27/10

Unfortunately, in the US, our 'equally yoked' test stops at 'wow, you are a christian too..." This is why I believe that the christian divorce rate equals the non-christian divorce rate.

"Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world." 1Jn 4:1.

There are many who do many wonders in His name who Jesus is not going to recognize on that day. He has given us the Spirit to find out before it is too late.
---aka on 11/27/10

I've heard teachings about being "Unequally Yoked" in situations outside of marriage. Some were about Christians avoiding ANY contact with unbelievers. What? In that case, I'm in big, time trouble!

I don't believe that that is Biblical at all. The Bible teaches that we MUST go out into the world -- as rotten or sinful as it is -- if we are to WIN the lost to Jesus Christ. Amen?

Missionaries are fulfilling the call of God by spreading HIS word through the world. We can't just be cowards and let other people perish. We MUST rely upon God for protection as we seek to WIN the lost!

I must say that some evangelists / teachers put some pretty goofy spins on the Bible.
---Sag on 11/27/10

Most teachings that I've heard on this verse are about MARRIAGE.

A person who believes in Jesus Christ can't be completely joined in Holy Matrimony with someone who doesn't believe that same way.

I think that the best example is an oxen cart. When the team of oxen are "Yoked Together", they can only move in ONE direction. If the oxen don't work together, chaos results, and the cart doesn't have a very smooth journey.

The same goes for MARRIAGE. If a husband and wife are not working together towards a common goal, they're stuck, and in trouble.

Many troubled marriages result from "Unequally Yoked" couples.
---Sag on 11/27/10

It means that one person is not a believer in Christ Jesus. It causes many problems to be with an unbeliever because they don't believe in Jesus like Christians do. They don't obey the Word of God because they are unbelievers.
---Donna5535 on 11/26/10

2 Corinthians 6:14 (KJV)
14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

This is the Scripture reference where you will find the term, "unequally yoked". It means that a Christian should not marry a non-Christian. I take it a step further to the point that even Christians can be "unequally yoked" in some circumstances. For example: I've done some premarital counseling where one of the couple wants to go into Christian work and the other doesn't, and that would make them
"unequally yoked". But, the Scripture above is only refering to a Christian getting married to a non-Christian.
---wivv on 11/27/10

2 Cor 6:14 is in reference to religious fellowship or spiritual union, and the influence the unbeliever, (for example, as one who may deny Jesus as the only door to salvation), may have on the believer in such a close association.
The verse is also applicable to marriage as well, for basically the same reason, and perhaps more so due to the intimacy and oneness of the marital relationship.
---Josef on 11/27/10

The context is talking about marriage between someone who is a Christian at the time of the wedding and a non-Christian.

It's NOT talking about someone who becomes a Christian afterwards.
---Cluny on 11/27/10

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It means, as a believer in a relationship with a non-believer, you're both walking/pulling in different directions. Therefore, your incompatibility can at best only frustrate one another's efforts.

For the believer, his/her trust/hope is on things eternal by faith in God. But, the unbeliever is worldly-minded & focused solely upon things of the flesh.
---Leon on 11/27/10

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