feelings come and go
maybe the question you should ask yourself are you happy for your children when they achieve or are you demanding your children achieve
then your next question would be if your children don't achieve (whatever) are you happy for the other children who did achieve the very thing your children did not?
there is a difference between happiness of pride when your children become more or do more having an appreciation for their achievements and gratefulness
when it becomes boastful and used as the only significance of the individual child than it becomes arrogant and prideful
---Rhonda on 12/4/10|
Sometimes people take too much pride and delight in their own. I feel it is ok to a degree. But we should always reserve our most earnest delight , worship and praise for God...alone. Nothing should take the place of Christ in our lives. I see this all of the time. Some people are so wrapped up in their own until they cannot be happy for others. Not good.But as long a we keep God first in all that we do, everything should balance out.
---Robyn on 12/3/10|
My children are a joy. Not for their achievements but for their character, integrity and their belief in our Lord Jesus Christ.
---shira3877 on 12/1/10|
feelings are important in a relationship too.
aren't delight & pleased feelings people express in a relationship. how would you feel when your children express their delight in you.
---mike on 11/30/10|
-- Geraldine :
Sister, We're to be content with such things as ye have... by not being conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that Good, Acceptable, and Perfect Will of God. For I say, through the Grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of Faith.
So as your mind becomes less & less tainted by the views of the world(and it also seems like by your church as well), you'll find that your feelings will no longer be confused about your conversations of your children's achievements.
---Shawn.M.T. on 11/30/10|
this is my son whom I love I am well pleased (delight)
if there is a relationship bet the father & the son, wouldn't he also express the same delight
---mike on 11/30/10|
christianity should balance the issues of life. just bec. you say pride they associate it with sin. aren't many satisfied when they achieve something or contributing instead of being lazy. lazy is sin & pride.
that's is balanced pride
while sin pride is raising oneself above everybody to the point of looking down on them. that is SIN PRIDE. like lucifer he said 'I will raise above...'
luke 18: says that the pharisees were confident of their own righteousness they looked down & said 'I am good... I am richer... I am better... there is your arrogant pride = sin
---mike on 11/29/10|
Geraldine the Father does not disapprove of your feeling proud of your children's achievement, or of simply their manner of being. The way you "feel" can be defined as both pride and love. Pride, in the sense of their personal worth as opposed to conceit, and love, as a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection.
Father proudly professed of David "I have found in David the son of Jesse a man after my heart, who will do all my will". Of Job when speaking with Satan, asked "Have you considered My servant Job, that there is none like him on the earth, a blameless and upright man, one who fears God and shuns evil?" Sounds to me like Father was indeed proud of them both, and we know that He loved them.
---joseph on 11/28/10|
ShawnM.T - My own feelings get confused, because everything in life seems to be a CONTEST. Achievement of good things gets tainted by "I did better than they did." Even our kids memorizing Bible verses for church involves "winners." Why can't we just feel love or pride over a job well done and not EVER call any losers.
---Geraldine on 11/27/10|
You are becoming a victim of the English language.
A good Bible translation committee will attempt pick one English word who's denotative meaning best meets the translation rendering of the Hebrew or Greek term for the meaning used in specific verse. Bible readers more often are thing in a cognitive sense not denotative and have a high probability of misinterpreting the meaning of the verse. This is where a Amplified Bible can help you as it presents a range of English words that best canvas the meaning of the original language term into English.
---Blogger9211 on 11/27/10|
-- Geraldine :
Sister, You forgot to state what you're feel!?!
---ShawnM.T. on 11/27/10|
There's no law against good things. Civil or communal pride as we might call it are derived from love for another individual. It's like taking pride in one's appearance, neither are bad things until they become inordinately important to us...that is to say until they cause us to break God's commands.
That's the proper way to measure the Spiritual health of any passion, even anger.
---Pharisee on 11/27/10|
I think that the PRIDE your talking about is a feeling of being "over confident" in yourself. God doesn't want us to feel that way. Instead, God wants us to be HUMBLE and dependent upon HIM.
I can best describe LOVE as involving two or more people. While PRIDE involves only yourself.
If there was more LOVE in the world, and less selfish PRIDE, the world would probably be a much better place.
The Bible also says that LOVE is the greatest gift we can possess. 1 Corinthians 13:13.
---Sag on 11/27/10|
If what you experience comes from delight or elation arising from some act,or relationship which in this case is the Parental relationship,it is natural. We should always look for the best in our children and even when they don't surpass someone elses peformance,if they do their best,we should still praise them. As long as what you feel isn't anything more than pleasure your children are doing well I don't see anything wrong. If pride is the snooty,holier than thou,stiff-necked,uppity kind,thinking your better than others,that is sin,God doesn't approve of that kind of pride. Why label your feelings as pride they are the excited love we show to the ones we care about the most,we give them our support and they are our blessing.
---Darlene_1 on 11/27/10|
If you think you're someone special because of your children's accomplishments, this is wrong.
To rejoice in the achievements of your loved ones is itself the result of love. The Bible says we should rejoice with those who rejoice.
---Cluny on 11/27/10|
I think that you're showing LOVE for your children / friends by feeling PROUD of their "positive" accomplishments. Please inform them that you feel that way about them. They need to hear that.
Yes, God does approve of your feeling that way. After all, God is the one who gave your children / friends their talents.
EVERYTHING that we "are", "have", "develop", etc. belongs to God. Praise Him!
Today, I believe that many of the world's problems are because people get only "negative", or NO, good feedback. They just "give up".
Every wonder why so many people end up turning to: Drugs, Crime, Terrorism, etc.?
Those are attempts to ESCAPE from their pain.
---Sag on 11/27/10|