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My Wife Is Abusive

I am a guy in what I think to be an abusive relations where my wife is the abusive one. How do I handle this and how do I know?

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 ---Matt on 11/30/10
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first of all is it physical or just verbal maybe some things she have been through trigger something in her when you say certain things try seeing if she would consider seeing a therapist to deal with those issues and if you want to be supportive tell her you may agree with her it couldn't hurt you it would probaly help the both of you.
---Bariq on 12/4/10


Kevin5443: Someone taught you wrong about girls.My friend. Girls are strong,willful, can shoot guns,wield knives and can be very manipulative. It is wrong to over power and hit girls, for no reason. But if you are threatened and in danger, you had better find an escape real quick or hit back. Why? You might lose your life. The don't hit girls rule do not. I mean do not, apply in this case. I raised boys.
---Robyn on 12/2/10


//Greeting Matt fellow brother of humanity,isn't it ironic when You are young They teach You don't hit Girls...
do You wish They also would have mentioned?Girls hit!!!
---kevin5443 on 12/2/10//

Certainly would have helped with the stun effect.
---Linda on 12/2/10


Greeting Matt fellow brother of humanity,isn't it ironic when You are young They teach You don't hit Girls...
do You wish They also would have mentioned?Girls hit!!!
---kevin5443 on 12/2/10


Catherine. I want go there with you because I have read many of your responses and you really need the love of God in you. I have not read one godly response from you,yet. I will not waste my time fighting with you or anyone. i say what I have to say. That's it. If you don't agree. That's fine,too.
---Robyn on 12/1/10




Robyn>>>You, my friend, do not know Satan. If Satan is using a person, any person, let it be male or female, he can do irrefutable harm to others....What to do? God says, "keep trying">
---catherine on 12/1/10


Just tell her you are praying for her. Please don't take abuse from anyone.
---shira3877 on 12/1/10


Women are very easy to handle if you know how. If your wife is abusive towards you it could be because you are not being the man(leader) you need to be. Women like for a man to take the lead, regardless of what they say. They are just like the big,bad wolf but won't blow the house down, if treated correctly. Are you respecting her,loving her properly? That's for starters. Blessings
---Robyn on 11/30/10


How does she make you feel, inside? Is she overly critical, won't allow you to be yourself? Perhaps, some confusion, in believing you are always wrong, and her illogical answers are just illogical, but, to her they are logical.That one may not be in your case, but, it certainly can happen. Also, argumentative, watch-out for. Also, controlling, is one you may want to keep an eye on. Abusive people, ofter, can be very controlling, and in sneaky ways, too. You may not even know it. Hallelujah.
---catherine on 11/30/10


If she physically assaults you, it is abusive, and you should seek safety and file charges. Men can be abused by their wives, and men can seek safety, just as battered wives do.
---Trish on 11/30/10




Try getting the devotional called "The Love Dare", and try this on her. This may help.
---Leslie on 11/30/10


Matt it's not uncommon, verbal abuse could be as simple as unfair communication that shuts another person down in an argument. If I were you I'd start taping conversations, especially the heated ones, and you could bring them to a counselor and learn a lot.

What I mean for you to learn are coping skills to keep you from getting run over and/or elevating the conflicts. Additionally an expert opinion of her communication could prove to her that she is unfair/abusive and needs to learn new ways to communicate. YOU CAN have a good and happy marriage, but both have to put in the necessary effort.
---Pharisee on 11/30/10


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