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How To Reduce Church Strife

What can we do to reduce the negative effects of strife in the church?

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I don't know what other churches do but if someone in our church causes strife, my pastor nips it in the bud. I praise God my church is in one accord and there is no strife. And yes, it is a fundamental baptist church. The reason I love my church is there is no backbiting and no clicks. Praise God.
---shira4368 on 11/19/11


hello,"Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptible to you oh,Lord my strength and my redeemer" I say this (mentally)becuz,have come to opinion alot goin' on during church...sure,different now!My thought (could be wrong) I say the leader of the flock (can)set the tone,people take a"mental note"... those who are there to disrupt & evil sense "here" reap havoc & discord... a weak leader or one who "just want fill the pews".. Chaos Reigns..yes! I have seen a pastor who is wise & he don't give place to the devil! all love and respect him.... It was pretty much smooth sailing! Pastor 90 yrs. old and yes! He set the tone...
---ELENA on 11/15/11


Joseph, another great post you put down, I love it. Very good thinking. A no win situation.
---Mark_V. on 1/4/11


May I point out that this thing about the ladder is complicated by the mahometans going back to the time of the Ottoman empire and the modern Israeli government?
---Cluny on 1/3/11


Rod4Him.-- Thanks for sharing about the ladder at the Church of the Holy Sepulchre! What a great reminder! LOL
---Donna66 on 1/3/11




micha9344 thank you for saying it was a great post and you liked the Bible verses. I agree God can use any yielded vessel but he gave us leaders,to whom much is given much is required Luke 12:48. Robyn,"you people come from",ok,I came from a Bible reading,faith walking Mother and Christian extended family. Layman or laypeople means anyone who is not in the clergy so like it or not thats correct. God set the order established leaders offices. Laymen running the church God help us all. Proverbs 26:17 He that passes by and meddles with strife not belonging to him,is like one who takes a dog by the ears. Grow up? Spiritual? I,ve been walking with God 61 years. Whats childish is saying derogatory things about other Christians.
---Darlene_1 on 1/3/11


I agree with Robyn on 12/28 which seems to conflict with Robyn's post of 1/11/11. Is this the same Robyn? The pastor is not there just to preach. He should model how to handle conflicts lovingly and with an even hand. (Some people really ARE troublemakers who move from church to church).If the situation is severe, who but the pastor can ask someone to leave?

Joseph's 4 points were excellent too! An argument in which your main goal is to prove yourself "right" will seldom convince anybody.
And it may alienate people who need your help (or who could help you)
---Donna66 on 1/2/11


I have found that what 'I' can do, before any strife ensues,
is ask myself these four questions.
Why make an attempt to prove this man wrong?
Why try to show him what I may consider his error?
Why not allow him his view?
Why argue?
I have found that the only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. If I argue anything, or contradict anyone, I may think myself "to win" sometimes, however I have come to realize that I will never gain the good will of another in that way. Nor will I aid them in the spiritual journey.
Therefore, If I think myself a winner in an argument, I lose.
If I think myself a loser, I lose. Thus a no win situation.
---joseph on 1/2/11


Darlene 1: Where in the world do you people come from! The laypeople( and I don't like that word) are the ones who actually suppose to be running the church! Leaders and deacons are servants. We(the people) have gotten our history and priorities all messed up. All of the power and backbone is sitting in the pews. But the leaders will never tell you this. You know why? Just like the Catholic Church. If you are ignorant to the Word and teachings. They keep you ignorant. You need to grow up and learn things spiritual.
---Robyn on 1/1/11


Great post Darlene. I enjoyed the verses. Athough I believe God can use anyone, and even more so, everyone in the body must do their part to be in one accord and of One mind.
Elders and those appointed have a deeper accountability as guides, teachers, and examples for sure.
Thank you.
---micha9344 on 1/1/11




Back in May a visitor to the church offered to paint the foyer of the church which needed painting. He chose a very nice color and painted it for free. Just last week the women's ministry's leader said, "I still don't like that color." This kind of stuff is really silly.
---KarenD on 12/31/10


Where there are people, there will always be jealousy and strifes of all kinds. Just continue to do what is right and godly and deal with problems as they come up, according to God's way. Whomever leads the church should know how to handle disagreements. The bible says two or three should be present when solving disagreements. The bible clearly shows us how to handle these type situations. If the perpertrator does not stop the divisiveness(after warnings) He/she should be put out of the church. Read your bible. We should follow the examples in the bible(old and new) testaments, whenever possible.
---Robyn on 12/28/10


//Alas, I've seen some arguments caused over whether or not to change a lightbulb. (I'm not making this up. Orthodox are people, too.)//

This made me think of a ladder that is in a window above the entrance to the Church of the Holy Sepulchre. I am told that the ladder has been there since the 1850's and remains there because the different denominations using the church can't all agree to take it down. :)
---Rod4Him on 12/28/10


Leon I agree. Jesus does not want his people acting like those of the World and that is exactly what is happening when there is strife in church,people are acting on the lusts of the flesh,they are carnal 1Corinthians 3:3-,for whereas there is among you envying and strife and divisions,are you not carnal and walk as men. I Peter 1:15,16 But just as he who called you is holy,so be holy in all you do,for it is written,"Be holy for I am holy". God's people are to flee from stife,not entangling themselves in it. Galatians 5:20 strife(one of the works of flesh). James 3:16 For where envying and stife is,there is confusion and every evil work. It is up to the clergy and deacons to deal with the problem,lay members should stay out of it.
---Darlene_1 on 12/28/10


Expose the source, the goat can disquise himself as a sheep among the fold. First get each member saved and born-again. Then call upon the Lord to come and to fill the house with his presence, with the whole congreation seeking and calling on the Lord, and to reveal any unsaved tare among the wheat. The one causing the trouble will be exposed, and may run out of the church or scream out, but God will have a clean and holy house.
---Eloy on 12/28/10


Hi, Roger . . . In my church, I would say, we have people who are my examples of how to be and relate in love and be real with God. So, if someone is wrong or I feel like the person is wrong, what works for me is I stay with the people who are right. I do not allow any wrong people to decide how I am or what I do.

But I have been a clever person. I used to hang out with churches where I would criticize wrong people, instead of getting real with God so I could be obedient to God's real leaders (1 Peter 5:3, Hebrews 13:17).
---Bill_willa6989 on 12/27/10


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\\ I do not like to do this therefore do not belong to any earthly Church.\\

What if someone has said, "King David, I want you to be my personal king, but I don't want to have anything to do with your kingdom."

There's an old Christian saying, mima. "Unus Christianus, nullus Christianus."

Why did the Good Shepherd go after the lost sheep? It was to bring it back to the FLOCK, not so it could have a "personal relationship with the shepherd." The only way the sheep can relate to the shepherd IS as part of the flock.

Jesus FOUNDED an earthly Church (its definition need not concern us here). What you are doing is saying to the rest of the body, "I have no need of you."
---Cluny on 12/28/10


Humble--Phi 2:3 [Let] nothing [be done] through strife or vainglory, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.
Forgiving--Eph 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
Patient, Attentive--Jam 1:19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
Helpful--Gal 6:2 Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.
Obedient--Rom 6:22 But now being made free from sin, and become servants to God, ye have your fruit unto holiness, and the end everlasting life.
Loving--John 13:35 By this shall all [men] know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.
---micha9344 on 12/28/10


I agree with mima. I believe jesus never intended us not to gather together,but after nearly 2000 years,and an astronomical number of denominations,and independent churches I must say jesus also never intended this either. this whole mess is man made.
---tom2 on 12/27/10


One church my wife and I attended, the business meetings got so "heated" the pastor started having communion before the start of the business meeting to keep things calm. As he use to say, "It's O.K. to disagree, but don't be disagreeable."
---wivv on 12/27/10


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Most church denominations have specialist who work in this area and work with churches in a state of schism or Church strife. This is one of the major advantages of being a member of a convectional church system as there are resources available to deal with it.

Independent churches are at a severe disadvantage as there is nothing to support them. There are independent facilitators out there but identifying who is competent and who isn't remains a problem. Much like medicine you need someone to come in a diagnose the problem who can refer you to the specialist to come in and solve the problem. It is important to remember, if the church membership does not want to collectively solve the problem then no facilitator will ever be successful.
---Blogger9211 on 12/27/10


Most church denominations have specialist who work in this area and work with churches in a state of schism or Church strife. This is one of the major advantages of being a member of a convectional church system as there are resources available to deal with it.

Independent churches are at a severe disadvantage as there is nothing to support them. There are independent facilitators out there but identifying who is competent and who isn't remains a problem. Much like medicine you need someone to come in a diagnose the problem who can refer you to the specialist to come in and solve the problem. It is important to remember, if the church membership does not want to collectively solve the problem then no facilitator will ever be successful.
---Blogger9211 on 12/27/10


First off, determine what the disagreement is REALLY about.

Generally in such a disagreement, it's not just A vs B, but A, B, C, D.... all arguing against each other.

Alas, I've seen some arguments caused over whether or not to change a lightbulb. (I'm not making this up. Orthodox are people, too.)

There are books written on this subject I've seen. Usually, if the differences are resolved, the church is stronger.
---Cluny on 12/27/10


Where two humans are gathered you will have a multitude of opinions. To belong in a church or any other organization is the same as the way to get along in your marriage. Before you start you must remember that you are not going to part ways over disagreements. I do not like to do this therefore do not belong to any earthly Church.
---mima on 12/27/10


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Be a true follower of Jesus Christ & pray, pray, PRAY!!!
---Leon on 12/27/10


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