Husband Wants Female Friend
Is it OK for my husband to have a female "friend" that he likes to hang out with? I just really feel that if he is walking w/God and being married he would not want to if there wasn't something wrong, even though he assures me that he loves me and I should trust him. Just want your thoughts.
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---Carol11 on 2/21/11
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i'm not dure that it is okay...... i also feel that he would not want female friends unless something is wrong. furthermore, some of the women he wants to reconnect with he has been intimate with. i feel it is totally inappropriate.
---amanda on 5/6/11|
and the two became one...I don't believe a man should be friends of another woman unless you are there. Why would he want to....
---Ann_Theresa on 3/28/11|
Protect your marriage by enforcing boundaries. Make him prove there is nothing going on. If it really upsets you then he should dump his female friend because you are his wife and are more important to him. If he gets defensive or does the "Just Trust Me" line then I would investigate further for evidence of an affair going on.
---poopsey on 3/25/11|
andy, my friend is a lady and it was her husband who was friends with women but didn't seem to have men friends. If she ask him anything, he always said they are just friends. I did not say you are like that, just saying lots are like that.
---shira3877 on 3/3/11|
Thank's Shira, if your friend is still doing that you might direct -or tell-him to read what i said it is indeed something bad that so little ministers do not take notice upon their appearance. and im not talking about shaving and dresses alone. by the way i was not offended but i thought you confused me with another blogger, thats why i clarified a little.
---andy3996 on 3/2/11|
Andy, God bless. I was not poking at you. I was simply stating what happened to my friend. It is really an appearance of evil.
---shira3877 on 2/24/11|
Shira, It was I andy who ministered with another woman before my marriage. as you can read my post.However now it is more My wife that is my friend's better friend! so you could assume that my wife and my good friend pray now more toghether then I and my good friend. it anoys me in a funny way sometimes, since now my best friend starts to talk more like my wife. yet it also brings new ideas to me, about things i did not realise before.
---andy3996 on 2/24/11|
Well, Carol . . . you're the one who married him. You either made sure with God, about marrying him, or you didn't. And now you are living with him, so you can have a pretty good chance of really getting to know him. So, you his wife have a pretty good chance of understanding him right, about how he really is and what is really going on. He's the only one like him, so I would not make assumptions about him, based on what others might be doing. You can trust him to let you make sure about what is going on. Trust him to let you be with him while he is sharing with others, so you can minister together to these people so they can find out how to make a marriage work. Couples can be good, ministering together (c:
---Bill_willa6989 on 2/23/11|
I know a lady whose husband had lots of "female" friends. He insisted they were just friends but she found out later he wanted all of them. What a catch. I would have a problem with my husband having female friends to "minister" with.
---shira3877 on 2/22/11|
Carol, if your husband loves you, he should rather respect your vieuw point. I myself had a good female friend before i even met my wife, we even ministered toghether. however when i married my wife objected that we had too much private prayers and where hanging out too much. as your husband, I also objected that my wife could trust me, however i also lessened my private meetings, and now my good friend became more a good friend of the family and now my wife is a better friend then I. my guessis that your husband needs tolet you inside his good friendship. it will build the three of you
---andy3996 on 2/22/11|
question? Were they friends before You married?
---kevin5443 on 2/21/11|
You need to let him in know, uncertain terms, it is not okay to hang out with other females, without the wife being present! What does he take you for? I also sense trouble in the marriage. Now or in the very near future. You better get on this now, and try to stop it before it gets out of control.
---Robyn on 2/21/11|
"Just trust" a married man who is just itching to hang out with another woman--o-kay!
---Mary on 2/21/11|
carol,there is enough temptation in this world,but trying to rationalize it with a statement like his is not only silly,but rather immature,let me ask,how would he feel were the tables turned?my personal opinion is absolutely not,you are his friend,his hang out partner.believe me if theres nothing wrong now this will lead to it.
---tom2 on 2/21/11|
Is this a femal business associate?
Or does he know her in another context?
The second situation is asking for trouble.
The first situation has trouble coming onl slightly later.
---Cluny on 2/21/11|