Marry A Friend Of My Son
I am Christian and have a 2 year old with a man who believes in God, but he is NOT a Christian. He's very loving, wants to marry me and make a family for our son, but I love him as a best friend not as a romantic partner. What should I do?
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---searchingstill on 3/5/11
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please reconsider. reconsider what it means when Christ Jesus enters your life.
to say that a christian should not marry a non-christian in this case is definitely missing the mark of the overall scriptures. you have been given marginal advice justified with one half verse.
consider the sacrifices that God made to reconcile us to His family.
i am not saying turn and run into the arms of a man with whom you have a child. i am advising you to seek ALL Righteousness first, then everything will be added by God.
If you seek romance in the arms of a man only as you have been in the past, you will probably end up finding the opposite of what you are seeking.
---aka on 3/8/11|
In the United States, people who get married because of being "in love" seem to have a fifty-percent batting average, at best. So, I would not be so ready to evaluate by whether you are "in love" with him.
But only God can get you into the prayer and honesty you need so you can obey Him and find who is really Christian and connect with these people so they can show you how to get real with God and love any and all people, and discover how to make a marriage work.
So, God bless you to do this (c:
---Bill_willa6989 on 3/7/11|
You may want to check the subject matter against your title.
The title you picked is not indicative of her situation at all.
---paul on 3/6/11|
Not marry an unbeliever. That is scripture.
---Trish on 3/6/11|
You presumably loved him as more than a best friend at some time in the past, since you bore his child. Or was there no romance then?
---alan8566_of_uk on 3/6/11|
How do you justify having a 2-year old son out of wedlock if you are a Christian? Evidentally, you did love him as a "romantic partner" long enough to get pregnant.
---KarenD on 3/6/11|
The very fact that you are asking total strangers what you should do about marrying him is a good sign you should not do so.
---Cluny on 3/5/11|
We women are something else. I know it is very flattering what this man wants to do, but it can turn disastrous,very quickly. You also sound a bit desperate,too. It is hard enough dealing with so-called christian men. It could be worse with a non-christian. You will also be in direct disobedience to God by marrying a non-christian man. Do you read your bible? You should know this. You will be short-changing yourself and him, in the long run. Let him go and perhaps, marry someone who can really give him the love he really deserves and vice-versa. You will regret it-I think.
---Robyn on 3/5/11|
Don't even think about marrying him for two reason: 1. A Christian is not to marry a non-Christian according to 2 Corinthians 6:15 and 2. You don't love him in a romantic way. Just say, "Good Bye", tell him you appreciate his offer, but you can't accept it at this time. Keep the door open, and if he ever becomes a Christian, you may re-consider since it reads like he is the father of the son. I assume you had this child out of wedlock, IF this is true, you might want to evaluate your own spiritual relationship with the Lord.
---wivvr on 3/5/11|
RUN. Marriage is hard enough when you're in love with someone, I can't imagine marrying someone whom you are not in love with in a romantic way for a partner. Why would you even consider marrying him? He's not a Christian and the bible says, DO NOT BE unequally yoked together with unbelievers. That should be reason enough NOT to marry him.
---Donna5535 on 3/5/11|