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Loving Someone Unconditionally

What should I do if I love someone very much and he doesn't understand?

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 ---reena on 3/9/11
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Reena i think it would be best if you could love the person the right way.just enough to make him breathe and not too close to suffocate him.know his language of love and speak his language of love
---mj on 7/29/11


In Romantic Love... It is dificult to find "unconditional" Love.. We have a sin nature.. Romance comes with certain expectations etc...other cultures the woman must be conform to good or bad treatment n get used to it. NIVI COR.4 LOVE is patient,it does not envynor selfseeking,Love does not delight doing evil but rejoices n the truth! I had my heart broken n pieces... THE LORD JESUS He'll never leave you desolate! I am very gratefull God sent His Son! HIS tremendous Love! He has healed my brokeness... Delight yourselves n Him! He is the Lifter of my head... ELENA
---ELENA on 6/23/11


"Yet,often we do.."if you really loved me, you would ..." Human love is reciprocal."
---Donna66 on 6/13/11

John 14:15-16,21"If ye love me, keep my commandments. And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever,"
"He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him."
---Nana on 6/15/11


Perhaps he is not interested in you romantically. There are many other fish in the ocean.
---Eloy on 6/14/11


Who has unconditional love toward someone else? No one that I know of!
A mother's love comes closest...but even that is not totally independent of what the child says or does. Even the most dedicated Christian cannot love unconditionally.

God is the only ONE who can love unconditionally. (Tho some disagree) BECAUSE God is not a human with an ego to be bruised.
He may chastise one that he loves, or even turn away in sorrow from one who blatently rejects Him. But He's always present for those who truly seek Him.
We should never expect from other humans what only God can do. Yet,often we do.."if you really loved me, you would ..." Human love is reciprocal.
---Donna66 on 6/13/11




Try reading Feeling and Healing Your Emotions by Conrad Baars
---Philomena on 6/11/11


Reena, if you love someone very much why do you want him to acknowledge it? True love does not ask for acknowledgement but just loves. True love which is unconditional does not seeks its own,
"Does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil"
( 1 Cor. 13:5 ). This is true love. The one you have is selfish, it does seek something from the one you love. You want to be loved in return for your efforts. But we cannot make anyone love us, it has to come from their hearts, not ours.
---Mark_V. on 6/12/11


in order for me to be ready for God and Heaven, i want to be like Jesus and have his kind of love for everyone and that means forgiving even when they don't ask or want and no matter what their intentions were or are still. also at present for the sake of the adult children that we have that may still need eventually to at least know something about their dad especially when he gets sick enough to permenently not care for himself. he and i both know in our hearts that we will never marry anyone else because that is the scripture we believe. God has a spiritual healing for the whole family and i pray for God's leading and continue to follow God's voice of leading me to do or say anything to any of the family to keep communication. God bless.
---JaJaon on 6/9/11


I have seen in my lifetime so many of us wanting love from another human being. Then I discovered that scripture that says, "There's Joy in the Presence of the Lord and at thy Right Hand there are pleasures forevermore." Then I asked God to show me HIS love. And God responded by pouring HIS Liquid Love into my being and to this day it has never left me and the fire hasn't gone out. SEEK HIM and you shall be blessed beyond belief. Human beings will disappoint and hurt us, God never will. He loves you unconditionally!
---Donna5535 on 3/12/11


Are you speaking of romantic love toward this person? If so--unrequited love is very painful. You can choose to love someone but do try to move on. Wish the person well and try to make a life for yourself. Do try to tell this person how you feel before moving on,though. If might make a difference. Who knows?
Loving someone who does not know how to respond or give it back, is a sad situation to be in.
---Robyn on 3/12/11




Hi, Reena . . . one thing you can do is stay with us, for a while, and share with us! We need to love any and all people. And we need our other Jesus people to share sweet and tender and intimate love with each other, in intimacy better and deeper than many married people know anything about.

But if we put too many eggs emotionally into one basket . . . with just some one other person . . . uh-uh.

However, if he is a Christian person, can't you trust him to talk with him about this? I hope you would not marry someone you do not trust with your deepest things (c: God bless you, good to meet you (c:
---Bill_willa6989 on 3/11/11


i am sure it will work its way out. be patient.

if he does end up understanding and reciprocates, can you please come back in a few years later and tell us if you love him up close as much as you thought you loved him from a little distance?
---aka on 3/10/11


Tell him face-to-face that you do, then let him respond. If he accepts and agrees to reciprocate or return his love likewise back to you, good. And if he doesn't, then forget him and move on with your life and perhaps another man will come across your path that will equally love you back as you love him.
---Eloy on 3/10/11


UNDERSTANDING (on YOUR part) is necessary.

If your love for your boyfriend is "UNCONDITIONAL", then all of his efforts to please you become USELESS (you are taking away all of his power to show love to you, do you understand?).

A PARENTS love will last FOREVER (even when the parent must put a crazed murderer in prison..."TOUGH LOVE" doesn't mean spanking, violence, etc.).

God's love for humanity is a PARENTAL love, but OUR LOVE for EACH OTHER is different and CANNOT and SHOULD NOT be WITHOUT OBLIGATION or requirement (this is REALISTIC,...yes/no?).

In all that you do, ABOVE ALL, do not be a HYPOCRITE.
---more_excellent_way on 3/10/11


I agree with Cluny
This is the same problem God is have with everyone who read this.
Especially with the one who know and love him.
The burden of the word of the LORD to Israel by Malachi.

You know sometimes its hard to tell someone what in your heart.
Because the answer might be no and no one want to be hurt.
But sometimes the answer is yes! Take him to the side and tell him whats really in your heart.
Unless you are crossing some line, you know what I am saying. Only you know!
And even if the answer is no. remember, you are never alone!
Where is a love out there few have ever touched!
And its all your. God bless!
---TheSeg on 3/9/11


Keep loving him. Real love requires neither reciprocation, nor understanding.
---AlwaysOn on 3/9/11


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reena, are you asking what to do if he doesn't recripocate? I probably spelled that incorrectly, sorry.

Did you tell them that you love them? How do you express your love for them? If it's not in their heart to love you back the way you want to be loved back, then I'd say go to the Lord and let Jesus pour Liquid Love into your being..it's much more precious than the love from a human being. ((huggss)))
---Donna5535 on 3/9/11


Loving someone is never wrong. But there are those who are afraid to show the same love back. Keep loving him and maybe he'll come around. Love is never wasted but sometimes misplaced. A lot of people put their heart and soul in a relationship but doesnt realize the other person doesnt feel the same. Some are afraid of committment.It's up to you on how far you go. Talk to him and let him know you're serious about a life with him. If he can't commit then maybe it's time to move on. Life's too short to live on maybes. But do give love a chance to grow.
---david on 3/9/11


Take this as a metaphor of how much God loves us--and we don't always understand.

Let it spur you to beg God to show you how to requite HIS love for you.

(I realize this is NOT the answer you either expected or wanted, but it's the only one that really applies.)
---Cluny on 3/9/11


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