Rhonda, I didn't find the word "whack" in the blog posted. Do you think that people don't visit people in nursing homes because the children were abused or spanked? That is obviously very wrong. They do not visit because many times they are so busy with their lives they don't find the time to visit, or they just don't care. I believe there might be one or two who were treated wrong, but that is not the reason why many are not visited.
---Adam on 10/28/11|
I agree with Rhonda on this. There is absolutely no valid, sensible, moral reason to have one's kid's underpants pulled down in order to effectively spank them. The point of spanking is to correct and discipline the child or children, not to shame them in their nakedness. I can see, MAYBE, and this depends on each different situation, I can see MAYBE spanking them with just their underpants on, that is, with the outer pants pulled down. Again, I say MAYBE, because, for one thing, some pants may be so thick that nothing would be felt. Some pain does have to be felt for it to be effective. But, all this is to be done IN WISDOM AND LOVE for the child/children.
---Gordon on 10/29/11|
Rhonda, don't you think you went a little far when you said,
"as for SPECULATING ...no speculation on my part I KNOW many people who work with people in nursing homes - there is no speculation in seeing vast majority of the nursing home residents receive no visitors from family"
Are you saying that because people in nursing homes don't get family visitors, it's because their children were abused by the parents? Who told you? The children of those in the nursing home? Or did the one's in the nursing homes tell you they beat their kids when their kids were small? If it is not speculation then you must have an answer. How do you know it is a fact? If someone else made that statement to you, how can you know it is a fact?
---Mark_V. on 10/29/11|
I would paddle his bottom but not his bare bottom.He is too old to be bare around his parents.IMHO
---shirley on 10/29/11|
In using a twig or branch biblically it was called a rod. This is symbolic of correction and ultimately also used to correct naughty children. However There are clear directions if people read the bible where in correcting children it was not used to abuse either sexually or physically children of the nature being discussed by Rhonda.
Rightly divide the word study and shew yourself approved.... provide one scripture where it was instructed to sexually abuse children?
Gods word cannot be wrapped up in world teachings and understanding as much as one is educated it is also biblical to study before engaging mouth....
---Carla on 10/29/11|
Rhonda I looked for the word "beat" and the blogger never mentioned that but you did ... speculating what the future will bring, is only speculation, not a fact.
---Adam on 10/28/11
So go ahead ! Pants Down , Undies (briefs) Down & Whack away !
---kimberly on 10/24/11
YES the blogger did mention BEAT unless "whack" has another meaning to you!!!!
as for SPECULATING ...no speculation on my part I KNOW many people who work with people in nursing homes - there is no speculation in seeing vast majority of the nursing home residents receive no visitors from family
bravo for you that you once endured something that you did NOT PASS on to your own children
---Rhonda on 10/28/11|
Rhonda I looked for the word "beat" and the blogger never mentioned that but you did. a father or mother does not have to humiliate a child in front of others, they can discipline the child at home. speculating what the future will bring, is only speculation, not a fact.
---Adam on 10/28/11|
Adam, you do not have to be a prophet to predict the outcome of someone's actions. Just as if you were to throw a ball into the air, I can predict that it will come back down.
---Jed on 10/27/11|
And everything she taught me has helped me deal with life a lot better then if she had never disciplined me.
awwwww Adam that is SO SWEET it is nice to know there are so many who ENJOYED the humiliation and sexual perversion offered up by those like the poster who sexually BEAT there kids naked
NOTHING in Holy Scripture supports stripping your kids to humiliate shame and torture them while BEATING THEM to satisfy the parents sexual gratification
maybe you live a sheltered life in a box and have never known people who have experienced this and how it has affected their lives for the WORSE
funny I NEVER claimed to not discipline interesting spin you took from my post
---Rhonda on 10/27/11|
Rhonda, you sound like you are a prophet. Do you see the future? You already know what is going to happen to her. I didn't hate my mom, in fact I took care of her myself until the day she died. And everything she taught me has helped me deal with life a lot better then if she had never disciplined me. Her actions in today's age sounds wrong, but many who had good discipline have done great. The same old excuse is always given, that adults are not responsible for their actions because of what their parents did. The fact is we are all responsible for our actions not our parents.
---Adam on 10/26/11|
So go ahead ! Pants Down , Undies (briefs) Down & Whack away !
---kimberly on 10/24/11
you will see the evil you reap when one day you are alone in a nursing home - your children will abandon you never visit - your grandchildren will be strangers
enjoy the hate you REAP on your children now one ALWAYS gets what they sow hopefully you will live long enough to enjoy that payback - many LONELY elderly patients in nursing homes confess how wicked they were as parents to the staff
---Rhonda on 10/26/11|
While I never spanked my children, I always had a switch close by to indicate I meant what I said. The switch had power. I myself was hit with a clothes hanger, which I know was wrong. It left marks on me on my arms when I tried to protect myself. Yet I never lost respect for my mom. She had to do something or else I would never be afraid of her. Children grow to be sinful, it's our job to teach them good. If they get to big for spanking, and they continue, though you love them, show them the door. My mom showed me the door and I left, for one night and I came back the next. She told me, you will come back and you still have to answer for what you did. She was right. You don't have to abuse your children, but with control you can correct them.
---Mark_V. on 10/26/11|
If you are asking ,I assume you know that he could use a good bare bottom spanking ! So go ahead ! Pants Down , Undies (briefs) Down & Whack away !
---kimberly on 10/24/11
Just as long as you allow the same to be done to you in his presence when you are mouthy and rude to someone.
---Jed on 10/24/11|
Every kid is different. some kids need it & some are sensitive. If you are asking ,I assume you know that he could use a good bare bottom spanking ! So go ahead ! Pants Down , Undies (briefs) Down & Whack away !
---kimberly on 10/24/11|
This question is wrong in so many ways. First off, spanking should not be frequently used, only as a last resort. Try other discipline techniques first. Secondly, shaming a child by exposing his nudity in front of others and violating his privacy is nothing short of child abuse, it's against the law and ungodly. Anyone who would do this to a child is just sick. You are trying to teach him respect by degrading, shaming, and violating him? You need to respect him if you want it in return, children learn by example. LOVING discipline is NEVER degrading.
---Jed on 9/9/11|
..paddle him without remorse in front of family and friends and make him apologize after the paddling ...before he gets to pull up his pants.
---ericj on 6/13/11
another one of those post once never hear from again ...or a poster posting in another name to cause strife - adult children hiding behind their computers making senseless remarks because they are bored... or WORSE an evil sadistic twisted pathetic hateful parent ...a monster among society ...no small wonder bullying is so popular in school today when children terrorized at home ALWAYS ACT OUT somewhere else ...whether today or later in life with perverted sexually aggressive lives given to them by the parents who molded and shaped their lives into a living hell
---Rhonda on 9/9/11|
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Yes. And if you do it HARD, he will behave for years!
---bob on 9/7/11|
marissa. You sound like a real strict disciplinarian !!!
---pete on 7/11/11|
You do not paddle the bare bottom of a ten year old period. You especilly do not do it in front of people.
This will place a scar on that child for the rest of his life and your friends may turn you in for child abuse. To publicaly humiliate a child in this manner is wrong.
Take the child to their room and tell them that you will be back to speak to them latter. Return when you have calmed down and tell them their punishment which includes an apology. Till the apology is given no privleges will be restored.
Stick to your punishment do not give in. This takes more time and energy but the result will last.
---Samuel on 6/13/11|
Not just attempt, but actually succeed, paddle him without remorse in front of family and friends and make him apologize after the paddling to you and to whomever else he was rude to, before he gets to pull up his pants.
---ericj on 6/13/11|
Actually, I figured that's what you meant. But I've seen parents that take the idea of "friendship" too far. I wanted to make sure nobody took it that way.
We want youngsters to feel that if they confide in us, they will be taken seriously and their viewpoints will be listened to.
---Donna6 on 4/22/11|
I fully understand what you are saying babes but I did not mean to sound too pally pally, only that if as parents we build a good relationship with our children we are not fooled into thinking that just being pals will solve everything, I mean if possible be a friend where your child knows the doors are open to ask questions and get answers, build a relationship where you can over see problems and have that trust where you can step in because the child is open with you.
That way you can make good sound judgements and be appreciated for them rather than guessing and getting things very wrong.
---Carla on 4/22/11|
Carla-- I definitely agree with you except for one thing. 15/16/17/18 yr.olds still need a parent, not just a friend. Don't take "friendship" to the point where you feel you almost "fit in" with your teens friends. I think some parents make this mistake, feeling good about it, thinking it builds a closer relationship with their child. But instead it diminishes their role as the parent their youngsters still desperately need.
---Donna66 on 4/14/11|
Never be afraid of giving a kid a good clappin but just remember this if you have not driven the message home before their in their teen your wasting your time, you should have mailed the message home long before their teens, and respect should be in order, when they arrive at 15/16/17/18 comes the testing. this time for standing on the chair and threatening your way through, after this, your done, you just gor to put up untill you can thow them out.
rules all the way and stick to them, dont ever backdown kids rule through lack of sound discipline and .
Be a friend from birth/teens/adulthood not their enemy, love your children, tell them everyday, show it, through school, college, university and respect will prevail.
---Carla on 4/13/11|
More parents spank than records would imply. Most parents rely on their own experiences and the effect it had upon their adult lives, rather than the so-called "research" of experts flawed by a philosophical bias against "spanking".
Unvarnished statistics in Sweden, the first country to ban spanking, show increased rates of child abuse, aggressive parenting and verbally aggressive (yelling, screaming) parenting, plus youth violence since the ban. Criminal records suggest that children raised under a spanking ban are much more likely to be involved in crime.
Most U.S. states hold that "corporal punishment by a parent is not per se child abuse" and there are many examples of case law to support this.
---Donna66 on 4/12/11|
If you spank your children and are convicted of child abuse and are labeled a sexual predator by the court system. Have all of you children removed by child protective services. Are you really doing a favor to your family when there are alternative means of effective discipline other than corporal punishment that don't destroy the family unit. Get smart people if you spank your kids bare bottom or not it will likely get reported you will be getting a court date and have you children removed by the state even if you beat the criminal conviction. Do you really think it is worth it?
---Blogger9211 on 4/12/11|
Any father who really loves his son will discipline him. Proverbs chapter 10:13, But a rod is for the back of him who lacks understanding. If you have a child who demonstrates a lack of wisdom in living, get out a rod and use it on his backside. Proverbs 22:15, Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, the rod of discipline will remove it far from him. You see, again corporal punishment is the consequence for disobedience which modifies behavior.Proverbs 23:13-14, Do not hold back discipline from the child, although you beat him with the rod he will not die..you will deliver his soul from Sheol. You're not talking now about only saving his life, you're talking about saving his soul. Set a standard, live by and correct to that standard.
---nancy5347 on 4/11/11|
yes indeed ! i dont understand the question . if a child needs medication, you also ask ? theres only one solution PANTS DOWN ! BOTTOM UP ! a good paddling !!!
---Teresa on 4/10/11|
every child is different & every situation is different. as soon as he mouths off, scold him, turn him around & give 5 good slaps to his buttocks and warn him , next time its gonna be "pants down ". if it happens again, scold him , grab his arm take him to the nearest table lower his pants & make him bend well over the table , give 4 to 5 moderate swats . youll be surprised at the results . GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
---marissa on 4/3/11|
I personally disagree with any bare-bottom punishment, period! Why humiliate on top of the pain?
---Mary on 4/1/11|
I personally think that, theres nothing more effective then a good whacking right across the Bare Tush !
---Barbara on 4/1/11|
Yes you should paddle his bare bottom just remember that you are paddling bare skin subsitute force for speed so you don't leave briuses. My mom spanked me always bare bottom
---otis on 4/1/11|
I would paddle his bottom but not his bare bottom. The most profound scriptures for me are Proverbs13:24 Those who spare the rod of discipline HATE their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them. Prvbs19:18Discipline your children while there is still hope otherwise you will ruin their lives. Prvbs23:13-14Dont fail to discipline your children. They will not die if you spank them . Physical discipline maywell save them from hell.
---Marie on 3/29/11|
Donna66, If a parent or guardian now resorts to corporal punishment in the current intolerant environment and the event is reported to social services the perpetrator will likely be criminally charged and arrested. At a minimum the minor children will be removed from the family. This effectively destroys the integrity of the family unit.
My primary concern is God fearing Christian normative families still try to employ corporal punishment for child discipline. The current risks associated with this mode discipline constitute an unacceptable threat to the continuance of the family unit and an alternative mode of discipline needs be employed.
---Blogger9211 on 3/28/11|
karen D-- I deliberately used the word "fully clothed" in contrast to "bare bottom". It IS possible to effectively spank a child with his clothes on... and the parent is less likely to cause injury that way.
---Donna66 on 3/28/11|
Blogger9211-- During the decades when corporal punishment was the norm, divorces were rare and, in fact, were considered something of a disgrace.
Not to say that corporal punishment SHOULD be used,
but I can't see how NOT using corporal punishment contributes to stability of the family! It doesn't appear to have done so in these recent years when "spanking" has been frowned upon.
---Donna66 on 3/27/11|
Unless you live in the Old South of the USA parental corporal punishment can and likely will be prosecuted for willful child abuse. You can be imprisoned, loose all of the minor children in to Child Protective Services indefinitely without child visitation privileges to parents or guardians. Corporal punishment is just too dangerous for the survivability of the family unit, alternative means of discipline for children and youth must be used now despite the long tradition of corporal punishment and is time proven effectively on youth and children. Keep your family intact find an alternative way to dicipline.
---Blogger9211 on 3/26/11|
As an 11-14 y.o. I was paddled bare-bottom by my stepmother. She was a church secretary and choir/hand bells member. And I thought she was a joke for serving in those layman capacities because she practiced Victorian c.p., which is pants-to-floor, hands-on-head. Hands-on-head is supposedly so the child "doesn't rub out the sting", but everybody knows deep down it's to force the child to keep their naked shame in plain view.
---Jorge_Velencia on 3/26/11|
My father used what he called a switch, or swish???
And cut my legs to pieces, I had burn marks for weeks and did nothing like what I saw other children did or say to their parents.
Black children those days were subjected to beatings based on their slave masters beating their foreparents and they did the same down the line until, we got a roasting for virtually little.
My white friends called their mothers names unheard of in my house, and got a clip if they were lucky round the ear ole.
---Carla on 3/25/11|
If one needs to paddle the buttt..... Paddle the buttt, be safe, be kind, in tune with patience, kindness, mercy, but paddle the butt if you must.
Thats what decent parents do as a last resort not a continual process.
respect comes from a loving parent that has constraints and the child know's it, learns from it, not from been continually beaten but by a one off short sharp 'clap'.
---Carla on 3/24/11|
Spanking and exposing a child's nakedness are two separate issues. Why do they have to be combined?
My son is 22 years old. He's an ambitious, well-rounded and respectful individual who has not been spanked since he was in middle school, and he was NEVER spanked on a bare bottom. Actually, he was never spanked on the bottom at all, since I was told that blows to that area can cause bladder damage. He's also never been "paddled" (I used a belt).
I understand that parents don't want to spank through clothing, but spanking bare legs (with boxers or shorts on) is sufficient in my book.
A child's private parts should never be exposed as part of a punishment. Just my opinion, though.
---AlwaysOn on 3/24/11|
Donna66...The poster of this question asked "Shall I attempt to paddle his bare bottom?" This does not mean fully clothed.
---karenD on 3/24/11|
Karen D -- yikes! Beaten, bare bottom by a belt! (forgive the tongue twister) And up to age 17! No wonder you are so against corporal punishment. No wonder you consider it a trust issue!
Spanking or paddling (not beating) a fully clothed child, does not usually lead to such resentment. It can even increase trust. (It did for me, because I was absolutely certain my parents were not going to let me stray from the mark and get into difficulty I might not know how to get out of). They did it without anger and with a full explantion of the misdeed and its' consequences.
---Donna66 on 3/24/11|
No. I do not recommend family adults to strike a 10 year old human being with a piece of wood nor with their hands. Use behavior modification to teach the boy right behavior. In otherwords, the 10 year old knows how to write, assign him to write a paragraph of 3 or 4 reasons why his words should be kind and why he should be nice to others, as opposed to 3 or 4 reasons why he should not be mouthy or rude to others. You can also curtail privileges, no TV, no playing, must go to bed early for a week, etc.
---Eloy on 3/24/11|
Any3996--My brother and his wife were highly "enlightened people". Never used corporal punishment. Their girl was OK, an overachiever (some kids obviously don't need "spanking") But their 2 sons were something else. One, a petty theft all his teen years,his parents bailed him out over and over, drug addicted and dead at 28 due to drug use. The other is still living, but chronically depressed, refusing mental heath counseling, and he lives sponging off of others at 40yrs old.
My other nieces and nephews, who experienced occasional corporal punishment, are kind, thoughtful,responsible adults.
---Donna66 on 3/23/11|
Paddling a "bare bottom" exposes parts of a child that should remain private. We teach our children to let us know if someone tries to teach their "privates" but you people suggest it is alright to expose them. Which one is it? Since I had years of experience of having my bare bottom exposed up to 17 years old for beatings with a belt, I know a little more about this method of punishment. It doesn't work. It makes the child not able to trust a parent.
---KarenD on 3/23/11|
our mother paddled us at times on our bare buts, and guess what we are all mentaly sane people. i have coussins who where raised with modern standards, reasoning and finding compromises, all of them need psychiatric help. paddling the but isn't bad, yet it needs to be correction not torture..
---andy3996 on 3/23/11|
I've never understood how adults can feel justified in exposing a child when they're being punished. Humiliation should NEVER be part of the correction. People who do this & then tell the child it isn't proper to expose themselves when others are around, are teaching a double standard. Isn't the whipping or paddling as you called it, isn't that bad enough? Should the child have to suffer shame from his bottom being shone to his punisher?! How would you,as an adult, feel under the same situation? Any normal thinking, feeling adult would not allow this. So neither should a child be forced to endure that. TO ME THIS IS ABUSE & and anyone who does this is nothing more than a bully. Nothing Godly or Christian about it.
---Reba on 3/22/11|
And Psalm 23/22LXX says, "Thy rod and thy staff, they BEAT me," doesn't it, trav?
---Cluny on 3/22/11|
Pr23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Pr13:24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
Pr19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
Pr29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
Pr29:17 Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest, yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.
---trey on 3/21/11|
As opposed to a legal crime?
---Cluny on 3/21/11
You are such a stinker!
OK, ok. So I worded the sentence a bit incorrectly.
There isn't such a thing as an "illegal" or "legal" crime. Just unlawful acts.
Does that state things more clearly?
---Augie on 3/21/11|
Augie -- I agree! I think more problems are caused by LACK of discipline than by "paddling."
But authority of schools to use the paddle is not illegal in all states.
It is legal in Texas. And only a week ago, the State Dep. Of Education decided to prohibit teachers from using it-- although corporal punishment has been pretty much unheard of in Texas schools for years.
---Donna66 on 3/21/11|
\\Today, at least in the USA, what that Principal did with his 1" x 4" paddle would be an illegal crime.\\
As opposed to a legal crime?
---Cluny on 3/21/11|
When I was in elementary school, the Principal gave HARD spankings with a 1" x 4" board. Over your clothes, but the thought scared me.
I almost got paddled for starting a fist fight after school. I sholved show at the school until the Principal told me to go home. The other two guys got two paddlings each.
As I remember things, I learned to resist fighting. However, the other two guys became angrier and eventually dropped out of school. Not sure where they are today.
Today, at least in the USA, what that Principal did with his 1" x 4" paddle would be an illegal crime. Yet, look at how bad USA schools are. Kids know that they can do whatever they want. Without any fear of being disciplined.
---Augie on 3/21/11|
PROVERBS 23:13 Do not withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die.
PROVERBS 22:15 Floolishness is abound up in the heart of a child: The rod of correction will drive it far from him.
PROVERBS 13:24 He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him discipline him promptly.
---RICHARDC on 3/20/11|
If it was true, as KarenD says, that in spanking your children, "they are learning from you that it is ok to beat people to solve problems,"... we would see a much different society than we do today. Do we have a whole generation of violent senior citizens? If some "studies" are correct, they should all have been serial murderers...because nearly all experienced corporal punishment.
Nevertheless, we're compelled to continually reinforce that "spanking" and "beating" are not the same. And the government has the power to remove from his home, a child who has been "Spanked". (Which of these two are more traumatic for the child..spanking or losing his home?)
---Donna66 on 3/20/11|
Smacking a child's hand in an attempt to prevent a stove eye burn can prevent a serious injury and at the same time teach the child a life lesson.
I don't condone beatings AT ALL, but a good swift swat on the bottom in love can prevent major future infractions.
Pr 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Who knows best God or developmental counselors, of whom will you rely?
God Bless, Paul
---paul on 3/20/11|
Since the writings of Dr. Spock, parents have been spanking less and less. Today, parents are being forces by law not to spank. Where does that leave society? Since the 1960s the parenting issue of "not to spank" came like a tsunomi. Parents were finding different worldly ways to train up a child without success. During the past 50 years there were less and less spanking while at the same time the behavior children became worse.
---Steveng on 3/20/11|
paul...Since children develop their personalities in the first five years of their life, they are learning from you that it is ok to beat people to solve problems.
---KarenD on 3/20/11|
It worked fine for my boys who are young adults as a matter of fact they told the stories just the other day and tell it as it is a lesson well taught, you couldn't get one over on our mum as big as we were, we got the spatula :)
Take no notice of these novice's they obviously were parents to angels until your a fly on the wall!!!
As long as you know that a smack is a smack and control your own temper, don't use any thing that will cause harm. a good paddling from a responsible caring parent never hurt any, but their pride.
No I am not talking about out of control beatings by abusive parents I don't aspire to those people.
---Carla on 3/20/11|
I do not believe in spanking with a padel nor in child abuse, but I do belive in using the rod. I'm not talking about a one inch dowel, but a small thin switch. The switch has always been effective throughout the world and throughout history (up until the last fifty years). The small this switch hurts like the devil. It's comparable to a paper cut which hurts more than even a razorblade cut. The switch is thin enough that gives a great sting, but leaves little marks.
---Steveng on 3/20/11|
My dad used to tear my butt up ALL the time and I LOVE him for it to this day!
No side effects, no self-esteem problem blah blah blah psycho-babel...
If you love your children you will chastise them. If children are not taught to fear and respect their parents they wont fear and respect God either.
Beating them with a rod will spare their soul from hell.
---CraigA on 3/20/11|
The over all theme was to say that spanking at that age group will have no immediate disciplinary value.
I also spoke of negative long term developmental ramifications.
To which of these do you disagree.
God Bless, Paul
---paul on 3/20/11|
Cluny --- As a child who was spanked (not "beaten") occasionally, I can attest to the fact that I did not resent it.... not even at the time, because I knew they were right and I was wrong. As an adult, I thanked my parents for caring enough to discipline me in this way.
There are other ways to discipline, and my parents used them more often. But a spanking clears the air, causes remorse but isn't drawn out. What's done is done. It can be forgiven. A child knows his wrong-doing is not being held against him (as it may seem if his penalty is paid later on).
---Donna66 on 3/20/11|
\\Besides the hurt is momentary and will soon pass with little to no results.\\
One of the results of spanking and other forms of corporal punishment inflicted by parents is fueling resentment in the child that may later come out as other things.
---Cluny on 3/20/11|
I agree and encourage spanking (not beatings) as a form of punishment for a certain age group (2-8 perhaps)
If you spank into adolescence you then teach your child that physical force is an appropriate means to resolve problems as opposed to reason and consideration.
Besides the hurt is momentary and will soon pass with little to no results.
Take privileges and luxuries away and it will get their attention and teach that rebellion is consequential.
God Bless, Paul
---paul on 3/19/11|
Well, has he been shown how to be and talk? You haven't been arguing, as a bad example? You haven't been using wrong language? You haven't been bad-mouthing political figures?
---Bill_willa6989 on 3/19/11|
My parents were very effective, so that it took maybe not more than three spankings before I didn't cross them. But while they were not around . . . .
---Bill_willa6989 on 3/19/11|
About the only person who benefits from a spanking is the person GIVING the spanking because they feel they have done something to correct the situation. A spanking really has little effect for a long term correction. When I was 10, (I'm now 73), spanking was the correct method of punishment - except for my parents. They found that just sending me to bed while the Sun was still shining, was much more effective. I loved to play outside, and that was not possible if I had been sent to my room. Find out what he enjoys the most, (computer games, IPod, cell phone chatting, etc.) and take them away for a period of time, and that will probably do more than a spanking.
---wivv on 3/19/11|
NOPE!!!! I am wondering though how it is that you could "attempt" to beat the child?
---KarenD on 3/19/11|
No don't spank him bare bottom..I think at his age grounding and staying with it may be all it will take..no playing out side, no PS3's, Xbox anything he like to play and do for at least a week. Hope this helps
---a_friend on 3/19/11|
When i'm out in a public place and some kids are screaming,hitting their parents and causing mayhem....
I say to myself "now i know why some animals eat their young"
---1st_cliff on 3/19/11|
Not bare bottom at his age. Mine won't be the popular advice... but paddling has a history of effectiveness when it comes to "mouthiness".
Of course, make certain you don't go around "badmouthing" other people yourself and then punish the child for rudeness. The best way for him to learn respect and courtesy is to see it modeled by adults. If he doesn't, he'll merely see your punishment as unfair (which it truly would be).
The pain inflicted by rudeness is instantaneous and I think the punishment should be nearly as quick.Denial of privileges seems too far removed from the actual offense. You want him to remember the paddling as soon as he thinks of smart remark to make. Inflict pain, but not injury.
---Smith66 on 3/19/11|
Why are you wording your question that way? (so "short").
Are you his parent? Why are you asking us for permission? Are you actually a counselor or a neighbor/relative who likes inflicting pain on people and are simply looking for a way to shift blame onto someone else?
Get serious with life and don't mistreat other people.
---more_excellent_way on 3/19/11|
Only if you want him to grow up associating pain with sexual pleasure.
Remember, he's on the cusp of puberty.
And you might be setting yourself up for child abuse charges.
---Cluny on 3/19/11|