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My Son Will Not Work

What if my son won't go to work?

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 ---joy_ann on 3/21/11
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Hi Andy, both my sons attended university, and worked either part time while studying or full time during breaks and holidays. One works part time and studies the other graduated and works full time owns his own car and is saving for a house. He worked on a paper round at the age of 13, cooks like a chef and is a good little citizen . Both of my sons are.(not bragging)

Hope this helps.
---Carla on 4/13/11


DONNA the bible does specify a little better give to the widows
and then paul states clearly what is to be considered a genuine widow.
CARLA and kevin5334 you are so seperated from each other that you can only comunicate through internet? (and i'm not talking about distance) so off your computers for a few hours and talk to one and other. CARLA i pray that this has wakened your son, since he's embarrased with what happened it shows he's a good kid. return him the favour and try to communicate without accusing. Kevin try to listen beyond the words.
---andy3996 on 4/1/11


DONNA the bible does specify a little better give to the widows
and then paul states clearly what is to be considered a genuine widow.
CARLA and kevin5334 you are so seperated from each other that you can only comunicate through internet? (and i'm not talking about distance) so off your computers for a few hours and talk to one and other. CARLA i pray that this has wakened your son, since he's embarrased with what happened it shows he's a good kid. return him the favour and try to communicate without accusing. Kevin try to listen beyond the words.
---andy3996 on 4/1/11


DONNA the bible does specify a little better give to the widows
and then paul states clearly what is to be considered a genuine widow.
CARLA and kevin5334 you are so seperated from each other that you can only comunicate through internet? (and i'm not talking about distance) so off your computers for a few hours and talk to one and other. CARLA i pray that this has wakened your son, since he's embarrased with what happened it shows he's a good kid. return him the favour and try to communicate without accusing. Kevin try to listen beyond the words.
---andy3996 on 4/1/11


//Donna, why did you give her money to start with?
---Cluny on 3/29/11//

Cluny, YOU of all people should know the answer to that.
In the Gospel of Matthew, Jesus said, "Give to those who ask of you." I bet if you look up the word Give, you'll find more scriptures on giving. She asked me, so I gave. Isn't that what we're supposed to be doing? She's a sister in the Lord, how could I not give her money?
Her attitude and pride made me sick to my stomach, so I stopped supporting her.
---Donna5535 on 3/29/11




Donna, why did you give her money to start with?
---Cluny on 3/29/11


Cluny, I have a female friend who doesn't want to work either. She's 55 years old, healthy as a horse, nothing physically wrong with her and she feels because she raised her kids as a single mom, that those of us who get up every morning and go to work should GIVE her money. She does not believe she has to work. Well I did give her money for MANY YEARS and now I've stopped. Why shouldn't she work? It hasn't hindered our friendship at all, but she resents me for not just handing her over a portion of my salary. Is that fair Cluny? Is that biblical?
---Donna5535 on 3/29/11


\\I apologize for those who can't cease from hating for a moments time to offer you some loving Christian advice.\\

And just what advice does she need?

She can't make ANYONE, including her son, do something he doesn't want to do. She has no control over anybody's life but her own.

This is why I said I think she's just trying to elicit pity for herself.
---Cluny on 3/28/11


Like the Bible says, if you don't work, you don't eat. Ask if he would like to be without food, shelter, clothing, etc. If he says no, mention this Bible verse to him, and he will either decide to work, or decide to go without food, shelter, clothing, etc. Those are his ONLY options according to the Bible.
---Leslie on 3/28/11


Psa 140:3 They have sharpened their tongues like a serpent, adders' poison [is] under their lips. Selah.
Pro 12:18 There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise [is] health.
Pro 15:2 The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness.
Pro 18:21 Death and life [are] in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
-But how would a virtuous woman speak?
Pro 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom, and in her tongue [is] the law of kindness.
2Pet 1:5-8,
2Pet 1:9a But he that lacketh these things is blind...
Phi 4:8 Finally...
---micha9344 on 3/26/11




Can you feel the love yet, Joy Ann?

I apologize for those who can't cease from hating for a moments time to offer you some loving Christian advice.
---Dueane on 3/26/11


ANOTHER sad pathetic parent who raised a child and complains because they gave in to their childs every whim, their children probably never held a job in high-school or EVER achieved anything during school years, most likely never had ANY responsibilities at home

and on and on and on the list goes with zero guidance from parents

amusing how parents today are inept and clueless how THEIR LACK of parenting and discipline have molded their adult children into what they are ...yet they expect their adult children to "get with the adult program" when they were never given guidance or responsibilities or discipline as children and teenagers

interesting
---Rhonda on 3/25/11


Sounds like the "little boy" here needs to:

(1) STOP whining
(2) GROW UP and become a MAN
(3) get a job and WORK
---Sag on 3/25/11


I owe you no explanations son I consulted a Christian site designed to help people when they face any type of difficulties in life for some sound Godly advice.



---Carla on 3/25/11


MOM!!!
i can't believe You would talk about me, here of all places.........
---kevin5443 on 3/24/11


Then you do what the bible says to do, "If a man does not work, he does not eat."

Don't feed him. No work, no food. The Apostle Paul said that a man that doesn't work is worse than an infidel or something to that effect.

Don't enable him and don't pay his bills for him. Why won't he go to work?
---Donna5535 on 3/23/11


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The sin of man (male) is passivity Gen 3. Man does not want to work. The most loving thing you can do is not provide for him so that he will work.
---Scott on 3/23/11


I asked this same question about one of my grown sons,several years ago,Joy. But you have not given enough information for anyone to draw good conclusions. I,too, had a son who worked, but very little and far and in between. You have not said how old he is. That makes a big difference. Does he live with you and so forth? He could be on drugs,depressed,uneducated(has no skills)Plain lazy and slothful! If it is drugs,he has a huge problem to deal with. Drugs are killing our kids at alarming rates. He needs to be in rehab,right away. Don't delay. Seek help from your church, a drug center or stage an intervention... quickly! Blessings to you and yours
---Robyn on 3/22/11


Joy Ann: When you say 'won't GO TO WORK' - do you mean that he has a job, but will got up and go there, or that he is not looking for a job?
In the first case, he has the danger of losing his job. If it is the second, perhaps the real questrion is WHY?
---Peter on 3/22/11


:o) Well, if he is three years old, he is still too young to work and he needs to grow up. (c:

Or, if he is a three year old in an adult body, you have an interesting situation. I would say I have known men who have been on this earth for ninety years but they have never begun to know how to love, because they never became born-again in God's love. If one is not born-again in Christ, the person is zero years old, as far as love is concerned. But they worked. So, he's your son. How have you brought him up? He needs to know God's love with God guiding so he does what God wants. "The LORD will guide you continually," (in Isaiah 58:11). Be guided by God.
---Bill_willa6989 on 3/22/11


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I once had a roommate who was like your son. As long as I paid all the bills, my roommate just didn't want to work.

After I had talked to a psychologist, I was informed that I was part of the problem. ME? Yes! I was "enabling" my roommate's desire to not work. By paying all the bills without any painful consequences for him.

The solution? I gave my roommate an "Ultimatum": Get a job by the end of the month or you're out of here. He managed to get a job within a week.

I'd advise you to talk with a psychologist about your son's situation and what you should do to remedy the situation.
---Sag on 3/22/11


What if elephants flew?

You've not told us anything about your son, his age, physical health, education, mental abilities, or the economic situation in your town, so how can we possibly answer your question?

Something tells me you just want people to commiserate with you because you want to feel pitied.
---Cluny on 3/22/11


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