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Does God Forgive Remarriage

A friend of mine divorced her husband. It was NOT for adultery. She got remarried. Paul said "if she leaves her husband, she is to remain single." Can you obey the Word except for the re-marriage part and still go to heaven? Does God automatically forgive if we err in one area of the word?

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doug, I would think a sexual preditor is different than two people in the sack together. a molester can not be rehabilitated. its a proven fact. if they get out of prison, they will do it over and over. I do think a molester can get saved and live for Christ but he will have to pay for his sin like we all do.
---shira4368 on 4/11/13


The real question is, can the offender truly repent? Whoever left or committed sexual sin, must, by the Insight of the Holy Spirit, confess their decision was due SOLELY to their own lusts and pride, or its NOT a repentance unto restoration to God and Godliness. Leveling ANY blame on the other voids repentance completely according to God read Levivicus 26:40-41 the definition of repentance!
---Doug on 4/7/13


Oh, of course if He knows you [salvation type]. Don't forget unbelievers don't have to obey God or the word of God. Of course they will bear the consequences. Believers must stay in prayer, continuously asking God for forgiveness of their sins as an acknowledgment that we do sin. Unless God points out to you a specific sin. Name that sin before Him, and ask God to forgive you.
---Catherine on 4/7/13


If you believe in Him by faith, your sins are forgiven period. It has to happen in this life, not in purgatory.---Mark_V. on 4/6/13

Yes, the RCC agrees with you. Sins must be forgiven in this life. No forgiveness after death.
Purgatory isn't forgiveness.
It is a purifying state. Everyone is going to heaven because their sins were forgiven by Jesus while they were ALIVE, not after dead.

Your children are welcome at your dinner table. But they need to have clean hands. If their hands were dirty, you sent them to the bathroom to wash their hands. Clean hands. They come to the table with clean hands.
They were never denied access to supper where they? No, but with clean hands.
---Nikki on 4/7/13


Nikki, there is no confusion. Isn't purgatory a second chance after death? If it is not then why believe in purgatory? Sure there is different kinds of sin, but they are all sins. Here is what the Bible says,

"He who believes in Him is not condemned, but he who has not believed is condemned already" (John 3:18) The only thing that keeps a person condemned, is not believing in the Lord Jesus Christ. If you believe in Him by faith, your sins are forgiven period. It has to happen in this life, not in purgatory.
"And this is the condemnation, that the Light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil." (John 3:19).
---Mark_V. on 4/6/13




..RCC is that they have different kinds of sins. You might get away with one but not the other. With one you can go to purgatory, and not with another. Even when dead a person who died has a second chance.---Mark_V. on 4/5/13

Your words will confuse people.
Who claims you can get away with a sin? Not the RCC.
It is you who denies Purgatory not us.

Once someone is dead, there isn't a 2nd chance. The state of your soul is set. Where you go because of the state is the question determined by God alone.

Sin is sin, but not all sin is rated the same. You know that.
So there is difference in sin in your Bible as in my Bible from which the RCC has determined the difference in sins. ALL FROM THE BIBLE.
---Nikki on 4/5/13


Sis. Shira, you are absolutely correct when you said,

"all I am saying is adultery should be treated as sin and God forgives sin"

The reason it make a difference in the RCC is that they have different kinds of sins. You might get away with one but not the other. With one you can go to purgatory, and not with another. Even when dead a person who died has a second chance. Every time they added a new tradition they go further from the Truth. Sin is sin, and all come short of the glory of God. All are in need of Christ to pay for their sins, and that is before they die. After death, there is no more chances.
---Mark_V. on 4/5/13


adultery is sin and sinners will not see the kingdom of God. all I am saying is adultery should be treated as sin and God forgives sin. it also says liars and thieves and other sins will not inherit the kingdom of God but still....God forgives sin. If God didn't forgive sin we would all go to hell.
---shira4368 on 4/4/13


She is living in adultery. and they which live in adultery shall not inherit the kingdom of God. (1 Cor 7:39, Rom 7:1-3, Gal 5:19-21)
---magdynxs on 4/4/13


My mom married and had a son (my half brother). her husband left to find a job and she never heard from him again. after 6 years she met my dad and he paid for her divorce. both were not saved at the time but they got saved after they married.--shira4368 on 4/2/13

If they became Catholic, the RCC would state their marriage was VALID because as you stated they were not saved when they got together.

So, your Mother was NOT completely free into marrying your brother's father.
If your Mother was Saved at the time she married your brother's father, the RCC would have proclaimed that marriage valid.
---Nikki on 4/3/13




Shira, I was supporting your view, not against it. No one should stay in a relationship to be abuse. Here is how I see it. The rules that pertain to people who are married only apply to those who are Christians. Husbands have to love the Lord with all their hearts otherwise nothing works. If everyone followed the rules we would have great marriages today. We do in many cases because Husbands do love the Lord with all their hearts and so love their wives and family. And would never abuse them.
---Mark_V. on 4/3/13


nikki, I didn't know how the catholics viewed divorce. I am glad you told me. my church don't believe in divorce but God can forgive just like other sins. my mom married and had a son (my half brother). her husband left to find a job and she never heard from him again. after 6 years she met my dad and he paid for her divorce. both were not saved at the time but they got saved after they married. my dad was called to preach. I know he was God called because he had the spirit of God all over him. I am thankful for my parents.
---shira4368 on 4/2/13


nikki, what would you do if you married a man who beat you every night?...adultery is another reason to divorce.--shira4368 on 3/31/13

I think you misunderstood me.
We don't have divorce in our Church, but what Jesus called invalid marriage because of adultery. One can get annulment since the marriage is invalid by the Church. She is free to marry another.

The Church has a word for violence in the marriage. They are told to separate. They leave separate lives. They can not date until after the other spouse had died.
They are still married,but not living together for safety of children and both spouse.
---Nikki on 4/2/13


markv, I never said a person shouldn't get a divorce. I don't think anyone should tolerate adultery or abuse. God didn't intend for us to be in a marriage full of terror and adultery. go back and read my post.
---shira4368 on 4/2/13


Shira, the Bible gives believers rules and guidelines to prevent us from getting into trouble. Yet misinterpreting passages to stay in a marriage can cause a lot of pain.
There is terrible things that can happen when you do stay in the marriage with someone who is abusive to you or the children. Best idea is to run as far as you can. God would never demand for you to stay, to get beat up. Separation is one requirement but let me tell you no amount of time will change the abuser. God has to change him, many times it takes a lifetime, other times He never does change them. Oh, they always say they will never do it again, but they always will. And there is no sin that cannot be forgiven by God other then blaspheme of the Holy Spirit.
---Mark_V. on 4/1/13


nikki, what would you do if you married a man who beat you every night? what would you do if you married a man who treated your children (his children too) bad and cut them down everyday? some men and women have a right to divorce. adultery is another reason to divorce. I was married for 50 yrs and 3 days when my husband passed away. if he had treated me bad, I would not have a problem getting a divorce. society is not the way it use to be. I don't believe in divorce but sometimes its necessary.
---shira4368 on 3/31/13


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God forgives all sin. why would divorce be the only sin not forgiven?---shira4368 on 3/30/13

I don't think it is a sin to divorce, but to remarry.

But, some do think it is a sin even to divorce, not me.

I don't believe in divorce, but I do think separation is needed in many marriage for safety.
---Nikki on 3/31/13


God forgives all sin. why would divorce be the only sin not forgiven? it is a sin to kill and abuse our bodies. that is a forgiven sin.
---shira4368 on 3/30/13


A friend of mine divorced her husband. It was NOT for adultery. Does God automatically forgive if we err in one area of the word?
---anon on 3/29/11

Deuteronomy 24:4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled, for that [is] abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee [for] an inheritance.

If she had been with anyone else, even if she did not marry that person, she cannot get remarried to the first husband
---francis on 3/30/13


I do not believe that anyone that is seeking God and desiring to follow Christ should divorce and remarry. This is absolutely in the Scriptures. But if a sinner has remarried and then is shown the truth and desires a relationship with God, I do not believe it is required of them to leave the one they are with and be alone. It reminds me of David, who had Bathsheba's husband killed and married her, but when God brought this to David's attention, David did not leave Bathsheba, but did suffer the loss of their son. But he did regain a right relationship with God.
---Lynn on 3/30/13


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God's word takes a strong stance against remarriage. I was in this situation where I wanted a divorce so that I could one day remarry. After much prayer, God told me NO. I have since remained seperated from my spouse, 15 years. I began a deep search in God's word, and have never found where remarriage is acceptable except for DEATH of a spouse. God forgives ALL sin, but remarriage is living in the perpetual sin of Adultery. Although God forgives, the problem is "sinning no more". We are called to turn away from our sin. Remarriage is a constant state of the sin of Adultery.
---truthseeker on 12/11/11


Pro 9:17
Stolen waters are sweet, and bread [eaten] in secret is pleasant.

Pro 9:18
But he knoweth not that the dead [are] there, [and that] her guests [are] in the depths of hell.
---Carla on 9/6/11


Francis, did you not know that when two come together they become one? That is the marriage God intended. You are speaking of the law again. When Jesus forgives someone, God said He will not remember them anymore. Then you say, to dump who they are with, commit another sin after they have been forgiven.
Nehemiah is talking about the priest and the people marrying pagans of the land in violation of the Mosaic law (Ex. 34:15,16, Deut. 7:3) the earliar reforms of Eza. ( 9,10) and their own covenant ( 10:30). Malachi spoke against this sin (Mal. 2:10-16). Even the grandson of the High Priest sinfully married a daughter of Sanballat. You insist for believers to be under the Law. The law kills.
---Mark_V. on 8/18/11


Don't you see that you are suggesting for them to sin again by devorcing them again. God never tells us to sin to be right with Him. And then say that if they don't they are not forgiven. Don't you know how silly that sounds? When God forgives that which was done is sin no more.
---Mark_V. on 8/14/11
Actually if you are living in adultery it means YOU ARE NOT MARRIED
Nehemiah 13:27 Shall we then hearken unto you to do all this great evil, to transgress against our God in marrying strange wives?
---Francis on 8/16/11


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francis, a person can see that you base your salvation on works, and not by the Grace of God. You suggest that everyone who sinned because they married someone who had sinned by devorcing,

"If this be the case, then repentance must also include the desolving of that adulterious marriage. It is not the divorce that is unforgiven, it is living in adultery that is not forgiven"

Don't you see that you are suggesting for them to sin again by devorcing them again. God never tells us to sin to be right with Him. And then say that if they don't they are not forgiven. Don't you know how silly that sounds? When God forgives that which was done is sin no more.
---Mark_V. on 8/14/11


hi, just been reading here..so trueas Paul says "If not God then who running the show?" God's handnot short! fr my own experience IfGod not allowed as the foundation forthe marriage(hope 'explaining it correctly) the couple may not last.I remain consistant,God have beenvery kind,good & more. I believe andrealize it better for me,now single.It's very difficult if you marry someoneconsider them to be "mature" and evenspiritually "sound".... later,you find outthey are not,it's a disastre. God bless everyone! Love of Jesus!
---ELENA on 8/13/11


francis, I never said adultary isn't sin. I said God forgives all sin. I never said God forgives sin if we don't ask. YOU SAID THAT was my meaning. I have been saved for many years and I must ask forgiveness everyday. I know a couple who met many years ago. She was married but had not seen her husband for over 5 years. He paid for her divorce, they got married, were later saved and God called him to preach. He was a very powerful man of God and God does forgive all sin.
---shira_3877 on 8/13/11


I have never been divorced but I would like to know why would God forgive some sins and not others. ---shira_3877 on 8/12/11
To have your sin forgiven, there must be repentance.( turn away from sin) If one is divrced, and remarried under the wrong circumstances, they could be living in adultery.

Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

If this be the case, then repentance must also include the desolving of that adulterious marriage. It is not the divorce that is unforgiven, it is living in adultery that is not forgiven
---francis on 8/13/11


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I have never been divorced but I would like to know why would God forgive some sins and not others. That has always been amazing to me....to know God forgives "all" sin. It doesn't matter what sin except for blasphemy of the Holy Ghost. Now, I ain't too smart but I think blasphemy of the Holy Spirit is rejection of Jesus Christ when one is under conviction for salvation.
---shira_3877 on 8/12/11


No anon, it is not permitted for a woman to remarry unless her husband is dead.

although people like to re- write the bible to suit their own purposes, to remain single is a blessing not a curse.

If the bible talks about the days being evil and men being lovers of themselves nearly 2,000 approx years ago tell me

how will you go looking for a husband who in this day and age, that is perfect to your individual need?????? purpose, when was marriage about need and purpose?

submit yourself to the Lord and attend without distraction art thou loosed from a husband do not seek a husband for Christ is on his way!
---Carla on 8/12/11


Patrick 2: Blasphemy against the Spirit is never done by genuine believers. While it seems many do, those who do are not really saved. Because when someone deliberately and disrespectfully slanders the person and ministy of the Holy Spirit in pointing to the Lordship and redemption of Jesus Christ, he completely nagates and forfeits any possibility of present or future forgiveness of sin ( Matth. 12:31 ) because he has wholly rejected the only basis of God's salvation.
"but he who blasphemes against the Holy Spirit never has forgiveness, but is subject to eternal condemnation" (Mark 3 29).
---Mark_V. on 8/1/11


Mar 3:28 "Truly, I say to you, all sins will be forgiven the children of man, and whatever blasphemies they utter,
Mar 3:29 but whoever [remarries] never has forgiveness, but is guilty of an eternal sin"--

your salvation does not hinge on remarriage despite what we think. God knows the state of the heart at all times.
---aka on 7/31/11


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Patrick, God gives us rules and standards for Christian living. They are for our own good, and in order to keep us from sinning. When your conscience convicts you of something, you are not suppose to go against conscience since the Spirit speaks to our conscience. And if we go against conscience even when it is wrong, we train the conscience a certain way and when the Spirit speaks to it, we will agnore it. So if you feel guilty and don't want to remarry, don't. God already knows what you will do and what purpose was behind it.
The one sin we are told that is not forgiven,
John T mentioned, Blaspheming of the Holy Spirit, for the Spirit testify's of Christ. That sin cannot be forgiven for that reason. All other sins are forgiven.
---Mark_V. on 7/31/11


I am divorced and convicted by the holy spirit and the word that to remarry is adultery and disobedidence....I don't look to scripture to Justify sin but rather to call to obedience sinners! a woman in this blog seems to share this conviction I would like to encourage you to keep standing on the boulder while the rest head down stream......I will stay here with you.....it's difficult here but Christ is with us and we shall not be ashamed....not because we have found a cunning way out but because the angel of the lord encamps around those who fear him and delivers them!
---Patrick_sheehan on 7/28/11


Every sinner that is alive has the opportunity to repent and be forgiven in Jesus Christ. The repentance should be real, genuine not stopping at acknowledgement of sin(eg Judas). The repentant(eg Zaccheus) soul should be ready/alert/sober to follow whatever God instructs him/her from that point onwards.
---Adetunji on 3/31/11


GOD has given us the freedom to make CHOICES.

We can decide to do things GOD's way -- and benefit from HIS "Blessings" -- OR do things OUR way -- and suffer "Curses & Consequences".

Adam & Eve are a great example. GOD's way would have been to NOT eat the forbidden fruit. Yet, they chose to eat it anyway. Their choice of doing things THEIR way brought sin into this world.

It is the same with divorce and remarriage. GOD's plan for a divorced person is to remain single and be "blessed". A person's OWN choice might be remarriage and "troubles". It CAN all work out, but it is very challenging. My own sister is in a remarriage and it is very hard on her.
---Sag on 3/30/11


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Sag, thank you for that GREAT input. That helps me ALOT.

I never once thought, well if she can remarry and not feel quilty that she disobeyed the word, why can't I? I just decided to believe the word where Paul says if I divorce my husband I am to remain single. So is she right in remarrying in that God will forgive her and I guess I'm right too in remaining single, right?
---anon on 3/30/11


If God can forgive saul (paul) for murdering christians, He can surely forgive all sin. However, if you don't forgive others, God will not forgive you. Only people who are not saved go to hell.
---shira3877 on 3/30/11


What do you think?
---anon on 3/30/11

It doesn't matter what anyone thinks. God's Word -- the Bible -- is clear about both your friend's situation, and your own.

A woman who has divorced her husband should remain single. Remarriage to another man would be adultery. Mark 10:12.

Many divorced people end up re-marrying. While God does forgive their sin, they still live with the consequences. Too many to list here. In the Bible, Paul warns of this in 1 Corinthians 7:28.

In today's modern world, I think that we have TOO MUCH freedom to go about things OUR ways. Instead of GOD's ways. Thus, these marriage problems.
---Sag on 3/30/11


Looking afresh at the question if those remarried constitute living in adultery we clearly see the answer is yes! And so the remarried are guilty of adultery and the question becomes, is adultery the unforgivable sin? What do you think" if adultery is a unforgivable sin, then all remarried are headed to hell. If adultery is forgivable then I caution those guilty of adultery to seek forgiveness.
---mima on 3/30/11


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While my friend was still married to her first husband, she said, "I think God wants me to have a REAL husband." Both were Christians, but her first husband couldn't hold down a job, didn't satisfy her intimately and got on her nerves. She wanted sexual fulfillment more than anything so she dated and then met another Christian man and re-married. This has brought alot of confusion to me because I too divorced my husband for domestic violence and have no desire to remarry. I don't believe I'm allowed to according to March chapter 10:12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery. What do you think?
---anon on 3/30/11


there are some people who THINK that they are in " remariages" but are really living in ADULTERY.
If God to to forgive this adultery, they have to be seperated even divorced.

Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
---francis on 3/30/11


anon asked: "Does God automatically forgive if we err in one area of the word?" this once saved always saved ideology does not fly quite well,
wind is taken out of it. God's forgiveness is available for all that call upon His name. however when repenting. no repentance no salvation.
and yeas someone can be saved and fall back. why else Paul's warning against apostasy?
---andy3996 on 3/30/11


Our God (Hallelujah!) is a forgiving god if we can forgive as well. If we haven't forgiven our ex for what he/she did during our marriage, then God won't forgive us. I have a different view on this. Sometimes two people aren't supposed to be married. At least not at that time. A lot of couples "jump the gun" and get married before they're supposed to (if they're supposed to). You really need to be mature in Christ to sustain a happy marriage. The Word tells us how we are created to be and we should act accordingly. God wants one thing: for His Will to be done. A man and a woman in constant disagreement and conflict can't do it. God is Love, and where love isn't, neither is God. And if God's not running the show, then who is?
---Paul on 3/30/11


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It also says they who are a Christian couple must not get a divorce (1 Corinthians 7:10-11). She did not only "leave" her husband, but got a divorce.

So, what is really going on, here? Is she a Christian? Is she with a church who holds to God's word and has made things clear about this? If they are false Christians, we have 1 Corinthians 5:12-13.

If they have been pronounced as a Christian couple, yes God would forgive her, but when God forgives something wrong He expects it to stop. If the divorce betrays a Christian marriage, her remarriage is adultery against her Groom Jesus, so the adultery must stop.
---Bill_willa6989 on 3/29/11


the remarriage is forgivable, the repercussions are inevitable.
---aka on 3/29/11


You make it sound like rebellion rather than repentance, and there lies the issue..
Will God forgive your act of rebellion without repentance?
Why would anyone who is a child of God and has the in-dwelling Spirit 'want' to disobey anything God has laid on his heart?
Is this going to turn into another works for salvation blog?
Gal 3:3 Are ye so foolish? having begun in the Spirit, are ye now made perfect by the flesh?
Rom 8:9 But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his.
Acts 8:22 Repent therefore of this thy wickedness, and pray God, if perhaps the thought of thine heart may be forgiven thee.
---micha9344 on 3/29/11


there are 2 things that will keep you out of heaven being a non believer,and blasphiming the holy spirit
---tom2 on 3/29/11


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If God DIDN'T forgive anyone's erring in one area of the Word, then there would be NOBODY going to heaven. God would be so lonely!

I'm sure that God was disappointed in your friend's divorce and remarriage. Yet, even that is forgivable. And only God knows ALL of the circumstances involved.

ALL people are imperfect sinners. Romans 3:10. It is important that we recognize that, confess our sins, and ask God for forgiveness. 1 John 1:9

However, your friend -- and other people affected -- will have to live with the consequences of her sins: divorce and remarriage.

One guy at my church said that remarriage is like having all your teeth pulled. Without novocaine.
---Sag on 3/29/11


The Lord specifically states in Matthew 12:32 that ALL SINS will be forgiven but the sin of blasphemy against the Holy Spirit, something we cannot possibly commit anyway. Yes, under the "old law" before Jesus Death and Resurrection, it was unlawful for a woman to remarry if she left her husband for anything but adultery...but the Lord plainly said that it is now forgiven. Stop worrying, if you have salvation now, you have salvation forever, just as Jesus, Our Lord said and that is a guarantee.
---John_T on 3/29/11


The Lord specifically states in Matthew 12:32 that ALL SINS will be forgiven but the sin of blasphemy against the Holy Spirit, something we cannot possibly commit anyway. Yes, under the "old law" before Jesus' Death and Resurrection, it was unlawful for a woman to remarry if she left her husband for anything but adultery...but the Lord plainly said that it is now forgiven. Stop worrying, if you have salvation now, you have salvation forever, just as Jesus, Our Lord said and that is a guarantee.
---John_T on 3/29/11


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