Married Brother Is Cheating
My married brother is cheating. He's done it before. He acts like a teen. She's done nothing.There's a questionable video on Facebook his wife saw. We asked him, he confessed. He denies it to his wife, but she does nothing. We talked to him about doing the right thing. Should we tell or stay out of it?
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---Cheryl on 3/29/11
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His wife surely suspects, though she may be saying nothing now. She may be denying it to herself. She may be looking for more proof. She may be trying to decide what to do!
If she indicates her suspicion, tell her what you know. But the two of them must handle this marriage themselves. Don't let yourself get put in the middle. the best weapon is prayer.
---Donna66 on 3/30/11|
There are 3 parties to a marriage, God, a man & a woman. All good witnesses of the marriage must be on the side of God. You can only do what would strengthen the marriage, discussing this with the wife may weaken the marriage. Do your best to pull your brother back even if it means disciplining him in anyway God leads you. Show him you do not support infidelity.
---Adetunji on 3/31/11|
Cheryl, I know mostly everyone here is telling you to stay out of it, but what about him giving her a disease? What if she gets herpes or something like that? Wouldn't you feel bad that you didn't tell her?
Besides, the bible says that the deeds of darkness will be exposed. Do what you think is right in your own heart. Don't listen to too many opinions, okay? Ask Father God, He will tell you the RIGHT Thing to do-I'm just worried he will give your sister in law an STD disease.
---Donna5535 on 3/31/11|
Stay out of it. If she knows,(and she does know) and will do nothing, that should also tell you she not wanting you meddling into something that is not your business.
---wivv on 3/30/11|
I have shared scripture concerning what should be done in this situation. I will also add 1 Corinthians Chapter Five.
Some people say to stay out of it, and it's not any of their businnss, but don't provide any scripture to support staying out of it.
A major problem in churches is people are cowards and turn a blind eye to what is happening.
They will never take a stand for what is right.
---Rob on 3/30/11|
Stay out of it! If there is anything for her to know,she will find out. The wife may already know and choose to look the other way.People are not as dumb as we make them out to be,sometimes. Please back off and mind your own business. what is your significant other doing, while you are meddling in another's business? You just might be surprised.
---robyn on 3/30/11|
Unless your sister in law is asknig for help from the family, stay in your own backyard! this is a marital situation between them. I once tried to help a former friend & found out they had an open marriage & she knew all about it. Notice I said "former". If your sis in law is pleading for help, then yes you can help.
---candice on 3/30/11|
Cheryl, if I were you, I'd pray for him that the Holy Spirit would convict him of his sin. Is he saved? I wouldn't want to hurt your sister in law by telling her, but then again, if it were me, I'd want to know because Jesus said adultery is grounds for a divorce. It's immoral and if your brother is being intimate with your sister in law, that is NOT fair to her, he can give her a disease.
---Donna5535 on 3/30/11|
Cheryl, I feel for you and the wife of your brother.
I have a brother who is doing the very thing which you have shared.
If you are a Christian, and if your brother CLAIMS TO BE A CHRISTIAN, I highly suggest you follow the instructions found in Ephesians 5:1-14, 2 Thessalonians 3:14-15, and 2 Timothy 3:1-9.
I know this may seem hard, but I found myself needing to do these very things which I suggested that you do. Until my brother makes things right, he knows he is not welcome at my home.
I encourage you too not only rely on my advice, but too seek the council from God along with what is written in HIS WORD regarding this situation, 2 Timothy 2:14-19, and Acts 17:11.
---Rob on 3/30/11|
It would seem your brother has done quite enough to break up a family.
If I were you I would attempt to reconcile not further tare apart.
God Bless, Paul
---paul on 3/29/11|