How To Get Over A Man
I met a perfect man for me who asked me to marry him after only a couple of months. 5 months later, he decided he no longer wanted to marry because I didn't have what he was looking for such as passion for him. Now my heart is completely broken. How do I get over someone whom I love so very much?
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---Trinity on 3/31/11
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Trinity, Elena's answer is correct. Your love for Christ should over-rule the love for anyone. When I first met my wife, we talked for about six months on the phone and emails before we even met. After a year I could tell she wanted to get married. I couldn't make a decision until I knew in my heart her love and passion for Christ was the same as mine. That was more important then her been pretty and kind. I knew if I married someone without a passion for Christ, our marriage would fail. I waited two years before I made the decision. She's a fantastic partner, and we discuss issues in Scripture everyday. We support each other, and God has continued to bless our lives. Everyone needs someone, and sometimes we get in a hurry and make mistakes.
---Mark_V. on 7/15/11|
Been there! you both going "by feelings!" Never Put Any One Above GOD! Satan uses those "soap opera" tactics! Christians NEED God FIRST! Fast,prayer, Ask GOD's Guidance Talk to Pastor Get REAL expose "little things" Openly Before Rushing into Marriage! Marriage serious! .... thank God! for Jesus! He Perfect Man! God got better for you ! get into the Word of God1Cor.2:9,Heb.10:19-25,1Cor.6:12- 20. pray,cry out to God He will give you Comfort & peace! time will help you get over this man!
---ELENA on 7/12/11|
Trinity - to love unconditionally is one of the hardest characteristics to learn ...especially when you loved so deeply
its easy to live in pity sometimes with a broken heart yet living in the past you most likely will be repelling an man for your future
get busy determining what kind of man you want in your life ...if the traits of this man are some of them list them and also list sincere committed loyal ...loyal men do not betray the women they love - most important they don't betray themselves
always seek to love unconditionally the rewards are great - now you must release understanding greater rewards wait ...the longer you take to release the longer you wait
---Rhonda on 4/13/11|
There is no easy way to get over someone--quickly.Time is probably the best medicine. As each day goes by,the memory of this hound, gets dimmer and dimmer. Keep praying and asking the Lord to help you find other activities and place other people in your life, who mean you well.Also learn to read men better. Then you can protect your heart and move more slowly into the relationship.Learn from your mistakes.Mature emotionally. GBU
---Robyn on 4/12/11|
Loving him is not a waste of time.
Above all follow Christ.
---micha9344 on 4/10/11|
The guy is a flake. Cluny is right about not wasting your love on those who do not return the favor. Marriage has to be reciprocal or it won't work.
Do you want to love and be loved or do you want to be a miserable martyr? Take it from my life experience. It simply is not worth it and easy to get into bad relationships and not so easy to get out of them.
If he comes around again tell him to take a flying leap.
---poopsey on 4/9/11|
I think the proposal after a couple months is a clue. He sounds like the kind who can't commit. At first he's all...oh you're the one, having no control over his fleeting emotions, and then Woops, sorry. Rather than blaming yourself, know that HE's the Problem.
If he's this fickle now...you don't want him for a lifetime!
Aren't you glad he didn't bum rush you into a quickie marriage...and then told you that.
---kathr4453 on 4/8/11|
Bless you Mary!
---John on 4/4/11|
Wow, John, you're just dripping with compassion--although you are right about using our time for God.
---Mary on 4/3/11|
WOMAN YOU ARE WASTING PRECIOUS TIME!
What are you doing with the short time G-d has given you to do His works???
ALL I SEE POSTED FROM (MOST)WOMAN HERE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH G-D.
EVERYTHING TO DO WITH BOYFIENDS AND HUSBANDS.
G-D IS WAITING! MAYBE YOU SHOULD LOOK A TRUE CHRISTIAN WOMAN (I.E DONNA66/RHONDA etc.)
REALLY! THERE REALLY IS OTHER CONCERNS G-D HAS FOR CHRISTIAN WOMAN!
---John on 4/3/11|
To lose a friendship that close is never easy & will take time to heal from. Don't dwell on the could've's should've's. It's over & time for a new beginning in your life. Pray often & lean on God to lead you in the healing & friendships of others. Don't ever consider going back with someone who treats your feelings so casually. YOU DESERVE BETTER.
---Reba on 4/1/11|
Never, never continue dating a man who gets serious immediately with you. This is the kind of man who does such a thing. He appears to be a game-player. You don't need that.
---KarenD on 4/1/11|
Sounds like he dumped you because you wouldnt 'give it up'. Not such a perfect man after all. Youre better off without him.
---CraigA on 4/1/11|
Trinity, there is NO perfect man (or woman) on this earth. There was ONE, His name is Jesus.
How self-centerd was he that he wanted you to have such passion for only him? Where did Jesus fit into his life and yours? I'm sorry your heart got broken. The Psalmist says, He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Look to Jesus, the one who TRULY loves you, make Jesus your everything and He will become your Husband, I am the vine and my father is the husbandman. Study John Chapters 14, 15, 16 and 17 and fall in love with Jesus, the REAL person, the perfect Son of Man.
---Donna5535 on 4/1/11|
//I met a perfect man for me who asked me to marry him after only a couple of months....passion for him//
let me guess...
---aka on 4/1/11|
Where's Dear Abbey?
---John on 4/1/11|
first of all i would say you need to thank God that his lost of passion towards you happened still outside of marriage bound..it could be worst when this things happen inside marriages.
give yourself a break..time heals wound..accept the fact and do things that will keep you busy..most important of all-focus on God's word that everything happened for a purpose (Romans 8:28).God will not withold what he think is good for you..
---mj on 4/1/11|
Obviously, he wasn't that perfect.
Don't waste your love on people who don't love you back.
In the mean time, remember the saying, "Engagements were made to be broken." They mean no more than, "If all goes well, we shall marry."
---Cluny on 3/31/11|
If you are both Christians who have been seeking to obey God, this could be time out so you both can get more with God so He has you understand better how you need to be with each other, and what to expect.
But I am suspicious about him spending such close time with you, and not dealing with that passion thing, first, before asking you to marry him.
But I consider you made too much of him, instead of humbling him. How could you not have had passion, if you could be so hurt, now? Even so . . . get with God so you have your love fulfillment with Him and are not under the power of what people can do. Grow in love that is stronger, instead of falling in what can have you fall apart.
---Bill_willa6989 on 3/31/11|