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Husband Can't Make Out

I have four kids and I married this man who I was in love with because we got pregnant. Now he can not even make out with me. What should I do?

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Johnypoo: Yes, you did misquote me as everyone can see for themselves. And I am not vain at all. I spend time with Christ all day long since I have a personal relationship with him. I also read the Bible but thanks for your concern anyways.

Books at supermarket cash registers? You mean those trashy ones that you probably read? I don't buy them since they are immoral and garbage.

"Real Women" LOL Yeah, right! That was good for a laugh.

Just relax and take that hot bath with all the little relaxing bubbles. Maybe have a nice glass of grape juice, some grapes, and some imported cheese to go along with that. And don't forget the scented candles and the Harlequin Romance novel.

Take care and good luck!
---poopsey on 5/16/11


You should keep loving him and don't say things to hurt him. He's already hurting and feeling bad about it. Take him to a doctor there may be a physical cause which needs treating. There're also high bloodpressure pills which will make a man unable to fuction. After a good physical checkup of his heart and clean bill of health there's medicine now for that problem ask his doctor about it. If he can never do that again physical love is only one part of loving and love shoudn't die if thats impossible. There are many ways to show affection with kindness and caring without that. As people age life changes but the world doesn't end with those changes when they can be accepted in a positive way. Pray for wisdom and love with God's help to lead you.
---Darlene_1 on 5/15/11


Poopsey you weren't misquoted. I just clarified for all, what you were saying.

IT WAS OBVIOUS!

Turn the Vanity mirror off and spend time with your TRUE Husband.... Christ and the Book that has his name in it. Its not found at the Supermarket cash register.

Read until you understand this....

IT'S NOT NOT NOT ABOUT YOU!!!

It's all about the Glory of the Father!!!

Once you understand this you will look back at your posts and likely apologized to all the "Real Woman" here that carry the sword of Christ in their heart and fight the good fight. They know who their ultimate husband truly is.

(and NO it does not detract, but adds to their love for their Earthly Christian husband as well)
---John on 5/15/11


John: You misquoted me again. I said "If that is the case then he is to blame for impregnating her when he didn't love her."

Does your form of Christianity condone using a woman like this? Did you miss all the verses in the Bible that say a man is to love his wife?

Keep on lying John. God will pay you back. I never said I hate men or women. I just don't like misogynist's like you and those that have no compassion.

You remind me more of a Pharisee type who is very religious, very hypocritical and has no heart.

I guess you have to resort to lying to justify yourself since you are in the wrong. Maybe you should spend less time on the internet and more time pleasing your wife.
---poopsey on 5/15/11


John, Love your style... By the way 'poopsey', I don't get that any of the guys you speak of are misogynists at all. Quite the opposite I would imagine. The written word can be a funny thing but you really need to ask yourself a better question. Pray for wisdom and actually listen to what these guys are saying and understand why.
---Bill on 5/15/11




Pray and make sure its not medical, i.e. the rapid drop in testosterone after 40.
The lack of testosterone can be just as big of a physiological change in men and menopause is within women.
But pray before blaming.
---larry on 5/14/11


If that is the case then he is to blame----Poopsey--

Once again you post "HE" is the blame. Men are evil to you... aren't they. You hate men period. They are to blame for ALL the evils of marriage.

Last I check it took two consenting adults to get pregnant and marry.

These is NO innocent party!

Oh wait you hate woman too. I forgot about that post.
---John on 5/14/11


francis: If that is the case then he is to blame for impregnating her when he didn't love her.
---poopsey on 5/14/11

I don,t know why you are getting onmy case. You should get on her case, She dide not love him either. Look at her own words:

"I have four kids and I married this man who I was in love with BECAUSE WE GOT PREGNANT"


tell her to talk to her husband rather than a blog
---Francis on 5/14/11


francis: If that is the case then he is to blame for impregnating her when he didn't love her.

I'm done talking to you since this is a complete waste of time.
---poopsey on 5/14/11


To be able to know the reason-you have to asked him.He is the one who can really tell you why he cannot make it out now.we could just make wild guess here (stress,medical problems,depressions etc).One thing you can do is be romantic with him and stay sweet and cheerful and attractive.
---mj on 5/14/11




Of course you can't make a man love you by getting pregnant. By the same token you can't get a woman pregnant if you keep your zipper up on your trousers.
---poopsey on 5/12/11
but you can get a woman pregnant without loving her. And you can do it 4 times. True?
---francis on 5/13/11


I can't believe you guys. There could be several reasons for her husband not making out. Depression, ED, resentment, tired, or he could be cheating. Only he knows why and he needs to address this since the physical relationship is a part of marriage.

As for comments regarding middle age? That is not true. I'm middle aged and still as passionate as ever. I still grab my husband when I get the chance. In marriage the physical relationship can ebb and flow and right now we are howling at the moon.

Other than being angry at your spouse if you don't want them then maybe there is no real love there. Or else you married a cold fish and in that case give him a little ego boost if he needs one.
---poopsey on 5/13/11


I agree with Cluny: "you've not said how long you've been married, how old your husband is, and if there are any underlying medical conditions with either of you."

I hope your not expecting the same levels of passion as back in the dating days of your youth.

After 4 kids I guess you guys are middle aged and no doubt the libido has declined from it's former youthful heights and tiredness and busy stressful lifestyles have an affect too.

What should you do? Love your husband regardless.
---Haz27 on 5/12/11


John---
// HE DOES NOT EVEN LIKE YOU
HE IS NOT IN THE LEAST BIT ATTRACTED TO YOU!
YOU ARE A COMPLETE TURN OFF TO HIM.// Why is it necessary to yell? Why do you feel the need to be rude?

I'm sure he's communicating this quite clearly. Why not trying giving a little Godly advice...oh, well, maybe you're not capable of that!
It might require lower case letters.
---Donna66 on 5/12/11


Hey big FRANCIS. What happened to little francis?

Who has the fleas? You??? Of course you can't make a man love you by getting pregnant. By the same token you can't get a woman pregnant if you keep your zipper up on your trousers.
---poopsey on 5/12/11


francis: You have problems and a serious lack of empathy for other people.
---poopsey on 5/12
HEY YOU LAY DOWN WITH DOGS YOU GET FLEAS/ PS you cannot get a man to love you by getting pregnant.
---FRANCIS on 5/12/11


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John and francis: You both have problems and a serious lack of empathy for other people. And John your references to Hens squawking and Zoo Keeper only show you to be a misogynist.

Oh, by the way. It is my understanding that it takes two to get pregnant so he has equal responsibility for not fixing the zipper on his trousers. You say the woman trapped him? I say the man trapped himself.
---poopsey on 5/12/11


Now he can not even make out with me. What should I do?
---abrokenme on 5/9/11
Now I'm fixin' the sink and I'm mowin' the grass
You made me a list and I'm bustin' my - WELL....
All broke down, tail's been draggin'
It's a tough ol' life up here on the wagon
Now I'm feedin' the dog, sackin' the trash
It's honey do this, honey do that
I sobered up, and I got to thinkin'
Girl you ain't much fun since I quit drinkin'
Yeah, I sobered up, and I got to thinkin'
Girl you ain't much fun since I quit drinkin'
---francis on 5/12/11


"because we got pregnant". ?
---abrokenme on 5/9/11

WE????

YOU TRAPPED HIM!!! I warn many Hens hear who posts vain things like...Should I propose to him. He must be shy to ask me!

HE DOES NOT EVEN LIKE YOU
HE IS NOT IN THE LEAST BIT ATTRACTED TO YOU!
YOU ARE A COMPLETE TURN OFF TO HIM.

The fact is He wishes he was with the person he really loves/attracted to. NOT YOU!!!

To him you are the ZOO KEEPER who trapped him/placed the Lion in a pen. And since woman are vain they think of themselves only. Forgot to ask(or care) if he likes you too, but instead put him a position where he has no other choice, but really he can't stand you!.

DO YOU NEED A MIRROR?
---John on 5/12/11


So, it looks like you could mean you already had children, then got involved with him. You might share about why he now can not make out. If you are still in love with him, love can give you much more than making out. Speaking for myself . . . I'm finding I have much better things to share with a special companion, than being able to make out (c: And we can't, if we are in different countries (c: But we can love Jesus "Though you do not see Him," Peter says in 1 Peter 1:8. So, we can have very fulfilling love, though we do not see each other. So, if you are here, please tell us more and stay to share with us (c:
---Bill_willa6989 on 5/9/11


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Apparently you've had 4 bursts of friendliness.

Of course, you've not said how long you've been married, how old your husband is, and if there are any underlying medical conditions with either of you.

Christ is risen!
---Cluny on 5/9/11


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