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Thanks Reba, your answer was brilliant, thank God it took some time.
Chria9396 i was warm in my heart with your answer, in fact the women who have no husband should all learn to take Christ as their head.
I remember the story of an elder lady who was always in church serving the pastor. on asking her why,ghot this anwer My first husband is dead,so is my father, but Christ left ma a father in church to serve.
She was one of his best disciples.
---andy3996 on 8/10/11

Andy, sorry about not answering your post, I just now read it. (Women evolving from man) All I can say is, some men,(Not MY husband) but some, have such huge egos & think the whole world evolved around/for them. I'm sooo thankful God our Creator was wise & gave the woman the man's rib rather than a piece of his brain. Darwin's theory is proof positive that some of the male race needs what little brain God gave them for walking around sense.In closing, I have to admit that the same applies to some women as well. So, to answer your question, I'm not sure how else to answer your question except to say, I wouldn't be surprised at anything Darwin might have said or who he was referring to when saying it. He was a REALLY confused man!:-/
---Reba on 8/10/11

Good question andy. No, I am by no means a sister in a convent. I am just a christian woman without a husband. "what aspects does this touch?" All aspects. The Lord is my Lord, and as such He provides my needs, as He does yours, be it physical, financial, emotional, spiritual. He is the head, and I am submitted to Him. He teaches, He protects, He loves and gives of Himself. Again I say that He is my beloved and I am His. Our relationships with the Lord can and ought to be quite personal, He cares about the details. What may be "lacking" because I do not have a man as my husband, the lord is sufficient, is He not? His grace is sufficient. Hope this helps???
---chria9396 on 8/10/11

Like Donna, the Lord is my husband,

that is good, question however what does this imply, what aspects does this touch? as religious Sisters say the same, or you are indeed sisters in a convent, which one how do experience this
---andy3996 on 8/10/11

Like Donna, the Lord is my husband, and I could never say enough good of Him. He is my redeemer, my King, my Lord, my Hope, Comfort, strength, my rock, my help in times of trouble, my all in all, He is my beloved and I am His, he rejoices over me with singing (now that's amazing)...
IF I were married, I would hope to encourage and build up my husband, in a nutshell, be a godly wife. I see few women do. I do know some godly wives, and they are an inspiration. May the Lord bless and strengthen all of your marriages, and may He change the hearts of those who are critical, and complaining.
---chria9396 on 8/9/11


What I wrote about that man's wife is not typical. I would be curious just how many women read that and rolled their eyes or thought that he should be put out if the lights gets turned off.

I also agree about women trying to make life into a soap opera.

God bless the women who have posted here about their husband, or ex. Husbands need wives like you all.
---James_L on 8/8/11

also men should realise not to take marriage and wives for granted, and that women need a strong shoulder, and a guide.
as a french sexuologist said
"women divorce more often these days, because they are finally allowed to". and "contrary to men, who divorce often for a better wife, women divorce their husband for nobody else" and again "that makes men to feel as they are less then nothing". however i do not agree with divorce i can see what this man implicated.
---andy3996 on 8/8/11

andy3996 said:
"let men be less demanding
let women be less exessive,
let humanity stop taking soap-opera's as an example of real life."

Agree on the influence of TV soap-opera's, but disagree on men being "demanding".

This topic has been discussed already concerning the CONTINUAL CN blogs by wives critical of husbands and suggesting divorce could be the solution.

Also it's commonly recognized that it's often the wives who have LONG lists of faults on husbands whilst the husbands only have short lists on their wives.

Thought you might like to consider this regarding which is the "demanding" gender (excepting the good wives who do not follow this gender mould though).
---Haz27 on 8/7/11

WOW, I love this woman for her genuine gentle spirit, and great imagination,
then women arent that different of us men afterall
---andy3996 on 8/6/11


no, that was not a parable. I heard the man speaking at his wife's funeral
---James_L on 8/6/11

James, was this a parable used by a preacher by any chance? probably used to make a point. as proverbs 31:10 until end isn't supposed to be followed to the letter, but gives us a magnificent teaching of a standard. and a guide for about ten women at the same time, and yet how church should strive for perfection... testify ladies, if your husband demands you to be "as the good wife" you'll end up in a cramp. or your the sister of Superman.
let men be less demanding
let women be less exessive,
let humanity stop taking soap-opera's as an example of real life.
---andy3996 on 8/6/11


I agree with your post. In a fallen world, women seem to be "naturally" or "fleshly" negative.

I do know several women who break this stereotype, though.

I once heard a story about a man who tried, yet failed, to provide a comforatble living for his wife. He came home one day to a candle lit dinner, set very romantic. She would not let him turn the lights on to even put his coat away, but took it herself and put it in the closet. After dinner was over, she would not let him turn on the tv, but instead moved the candles to the bedroom and gave him a massage.

He asked her "Did the electricity get turned off today?"

yes, it had.

How awesome would that kind of wife be ??
---James_L on 8/5/11

KarenD, good on ya, don't allow people to be jealeous and seperate you from you man. be supportive. i have My darling like that, and i must say "she is used by God to make me stand victorious" in every situation. most ladies who talk like that are inspired by jealoussy anyhow, they have a bad relation, so they feel bad arround people who have an excellent one.
My father, an apostel, refuses to go anywhere without my mother so our churchgroup is warned inviting him is invitng mummy. i've never seen two people with so much differences in character so one in marriage as my parrents. not easy but God wants it.
---andy3996 on 8/5/11

Some of the women in our congregation think I should spend more time with them. They don't get it that I actually love spending time with my husband, the pastor. God put this marriage together so it works very well. When you are servants to the Lord things work great!!!!
---KarenD on 8/4/11

Negativity just seems to be more natural for women than men.
---James_L on 8/4/11

I disagree. No offense, brother.

In the beginning, GOD made everything PERFECT. There was nothing for Adam, and Eve, to complain about in the beautiful Garden of Eden.

SIN brought Negativity into the world. Through both Adam, a Man, and Eve, a Woman. When they both DECIDED to disobey GOD and eat the forbidden fruit.

I have observed that people DECIDE to be Negative. It's what sells a lot of media and keeps politicians rolling.

What I find difficult to understand is that many Christians, and Churches, seem to be Negative these days. Sometimes, even more so than Atheists or Agnostics. Not sure why!
---Sag on 8/4/11


I agree wholeheartedly with your posts.

Not every woman is a negative, unforgiving, uncompromising, bickering faultfinder, but most seem to be.

There are many sterotypes which hold true for the most part for both men and women.

Negativity just seems to be more natural for women than men. That's why there weren't 75 women lined up to fill up this blog in two hours. It's just not in most of them to even consider that their husband might be worth something

sad indeed
---James_L on 8/4/11

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Hmmm...I hate to admit it but I do see your point Haz--interesting.
---Mary on 8/3/11

Sorry if I offended you, but as I stated I don't aim to detract from the good wives out there.
Not all women are overly critical and unforgiving.

But aside from the good women there are so many women who are overly critical and unforgiving that it is commonly recognized as a gender trait.

As James_L and others have noted here, the very few posts from wives with actual positive things to say about their husbands is very telling. Likewise the perpetual blog topics here on CN critical of a husband and considering divorce.
All the above only confirms my previous points.

---Haz27 on 8/3/11

Not sure what you are talking about Augie. Ths is a very positive and very G-dly blog.

I myself didn't post it, but I wish I did.
---John on 8/3/11

This blog question, and everyone's anwsers, or lack thereof, struck me hard.

Everyone, man, woman, or child, is imperfect and saved by the grace of God. John 3:16

When it comes to marriage, there must be mutual love and respect. Ephesians 5.

All of us, married, single, divorced, widowed, etc. must be openly forgiving if we want God to also forgive us. Matthew 6:14-15.

I believe that the Bible has many more verses that support this. However, this blog doesn't have enough room to list them all.

As a divorced man, I hope that my advice here will help some other men, and/or women, avoid the hell that I went through.

Not forgiving and praising your spouse should be a red flag that you're headed there.
---Augie on 8/3/11

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Mu husband is great and always has been. He is not rich and does not honor Christ as he should.So this troubles me.He could improve his dad skills. Other than that he is a perfect mate, for me. He is loving,kind,tenderhearted, good provider,hard worker, love to pay bills(on time) He can dance, smiles all of the time, very good conversationalist. The list goes on and on. And he has to has some of me. Very flattering.
---Robyn on 8/3/11

Isaiah 54 says, For your maker is your husband, the Lord of Hosts is his name.

Jesus said, I am the vine and My Father is the husbandman.

God says in Jeremiah, I will betroth (marry) you to me.

So my husband is Jesus and He is Wonderful. God is my Father and He acts in the capacity of My Father, Jesus acts in the capacity of my Husband and the Holy Spirit is my Guide, so I am in love with all 3 of them.
---Donna5535 on 8/3/11

Reba, but what about my idea, is it true that Darwin actually was talking about his wife when he spoke about Evolution, (woman then are evolved from man)

this said, my wife cooked my favourite today, hallelujah.
i meant favourite food.
---andy3996 on 8/3/11

John, I'm sure there is a lot of women who have great things to say about their husbands, but it seems all the other blogs are about women complaining or about how mean husbands are. This is the first blog I have seen which ask for something encouraging about the husbands. Guys don't seem to speak about their wives as bad as wives speak about their husbands. It's good that we don't speak bad about our spouses. Especially behind their backs. I make sure that if I say anything bad about my wife that she reminds me so that I do not do it again. Some times we just don't think of the effect it has on them in the long run. Some times we are just joking but it is not a joke for them. Just my opinion.
---Mark_V. on 8/3/11

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Women are NOT prone to unforgiveness and criticalness! Not this woman anyway and certainly not the majority of women I know.
---Mary on 8/3/11

James_L, well said.

Not to detract from the good wives here but unfortunately it's commonly recognized that wives often have quite a long list of faults for their husbands whilst the husbands only have a very short list of faults for their wives.

Maybe it's a gender trait to be overly critical and unforgiving.
---Haz27 on 8/3/11

Andy, like I've said a few other times regarding the whole evolution BULL-oney, I believe that if the "creators" of the whole evolution idea were able to come back to earth & live life again,having met the real, original Creator of all things, they too would now be Creation believer's & teachers. Too bad it's too late for them to reverse the damage their cock-eyed theory has done to the human race. However, having said that, I must admit,(SADLY) that animals do tend to show more sense than humans a lot of the time.:-/
---Reba on 8/2/11

Reba, still what do you think about my thesis about the origins of evolution? could this be a serious blogquestion
---andy3996 on 8/2/11

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My husband is a wonderful man. He loves people and has always been there with a giving heart and lots of concerned help,very considerate. He loves to just bless people too for no reason other than the joy in seeing their pleasure. He has always surprised me with flowers,lots of times just a single rose he picked from our yard or that of a house where he was working. He is a great head of our family treating all the children,gchildren,and ggchildren with special love. People know him as a loyal friend. I wouldn't trade him for any other man on this earth. On top of all that he is a terrific cook. My love for him has grown throughout the years. He is very good to me.
---Darlene_1 on 8/2/11

I would love to say some encouraging things about my ex, but he is someone else's husband now.

When we were together, he encouraged me to get my college degree, and encouraged me to pursue a career. One year, he took a week to be our older son's camp counselor at a Christian camp, and he hates roughing it, just so he could spend quality time with our son.

Even in our divorce, he made sure I was taken care of financially, and paid child support even after our youngest was over 18, until our family home was sold.
---Trish9863 on 8/2/11

It is pretty sobering that only one woman seems to have anything positive to say about her husband. Three days since this blog opened, and not a peep, save one.

What about the husband who works too much? Doesn't he at least wear nice smelling deodorant?

What about the husband who doesn't buy any gifts? Doesn't he at least love your cooking?

What about the one...

never mind. I've seen enough
---James_L on 8/2/11

Thanks John, All's forgiven:-)))
---Reba on 8/2/11

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G-d Bless you Reba! Sorry I didn't see your post. I hope when I marry my wife will say the same things.
G-d bless your marriage!

Good points SAG!
---John on 8/2/11

John, Did you not read MY comments about my husband? You said not one comment- well, I don't see how I could've given more high praise to my husband. If you think so, please enlighten me because I dearly love my husband & he deserves the best comments I can give him. But to say "NOT ONE COMMENT" is a bit insulting to me. :-{
---Reba on 8/2/11

admit it John, they where helped by the lower species here. we men have always been there to clean up their evolutionary mess. maybe Darwin was right about evolution, but (fearfully) changed his real thesis of men and woman into monkey and homo sapien, he was married you know.
(above is just a gag and the author does not take any resposibility for its context) you see how i'm trembling, my wife (bless her came looking over my shoulders
---andy3996 on 8/2/11

I've been to many churches where single women seem to whine more about finding their husband than they spend time praising GOD. I think that those women have their priorities backwards. It's no wonder that GOD hasn't provided them with a husband. Yet.

Then I've heard many sad stories of women, and children, who have been through divorce and broken homes. I pray for them.

Yet, just as on this blog, there is rarely anything positive said about men. Not even from the Pastors, Teachers, etc.

Is it any wonder that few men bother attending church, bible studies, sacred family events, etc.?

Remember, positive words bring life and motivation, and negative words kill and discourage.
---Sag on 8/2/11

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WOW! that speaks volumes about woman!

I could hear a pin drop!

Not one positive comment!

Wonder why you get married in the first place.

This is a good example for all you woman who blogged "I wonder if I will ever find a husband"

Actually I wonder how our species did not become extinct by now.
---John on 8/1/11

it amases me however that there sucha deafening silence from the other galls on the blog, C'mon ladies there must be SOMETHING good about youre husband?
men arent all that bad arenthey?
---andy3996 on 8/1/11

Well I wasn't the one who posted this. I suspect one of the Gals did. But its a good one.

Like the Political ads say..
My name is John and I approve of this ad!
---John on 8/1/11

---andy3996 on 8/1/11

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My husband is my brother in Christ, my comforter when I'm down, my supporter when I'm struggling, my prayer partner when I need prayer, my lover, my provider, my protector, God first, my husband next as the rock of strength in my life. My husband is my best friend.
---Reba on 7/31/11

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