Friend Went Into My Purse
Would you let someone come into your home and rummage through your pocketbook and lecture you how to organize it? and take your purse, open it to see what's inside? I know this isn't a biblical question, but as a Christian I am upset I let this woman do this and don't know what to do about it.
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---anon on 8/29/11
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Wow! I am sorry this happen.Sister,ain't NO way nobody going through my purse. The people who stole My I.D. Yes, I confront them.I know that they took my stuff,but,actually,in the word... It's only a matter o' time.. God will avenge Luke18:3. Now,I don't trust anyone.Years ago a woman,nxt door she love read people's mail! Oh!Well,not saved then... And yes! A Christian said "cool off!" be carefull who let in your inner circle. That's so humiliating. pray you stand up for yourself that's much disrespect. Bless you!
---ELENA on 9/12/11|
Did this person have a search warrant that was signed by a judge.
Even the police can't search you property without a warrant, unless you first give them consent to perform a search.
---Rob on 9/2/11|
No one has a right to rummage through your personal things without asking you first. You have a problem with speaking up(confrontation) either you learn to confront others when they are out of line or continue to be a victim. The witch was wrong. Way out of line. But some people are like that. They feel everyone is like themselves. She could just be an open,honest, upfront person who did not mean any harm. Take your pick.
---Robyn on 9/1/11|
I dont carry a purse, because I have a wallet.
And I dont know what Id do.
But, I do know this, if they find any money in it.
I want half!
---TheSeg on 9/1/11|
I love and appreciate all of your suggestions and feedback.
For some reason, I'm not angry about this at all and don't feel like addressing it with her.
Now I know what it means to "walk by the Spirit and you won't carry out the desires of the flesh." Anger just isn't my cup of tea (nor the Holy Spirit's either).
---anon on 9/1/11|
anon...Another suggestion. Next time you see this "friend" pick up her purse and do the very same thing to her. She might get the point.
---KarenD on 8/31/11|
You are the one who let her go through your purse. I suggest you might want to reconsider your relationship with someone who would be so aggressive towards you. It sounds like a very unhealthy relationship where this person can control you so easily.
---KarenD on 8/30/11|
I honestly didn't know what to do when she began to rummage. I was in SHOCK.
Since I am to be Christ-like in all my ways, I remained calm and just let her do it.
She even said to me, "Don't get mad at me." If she knew someone would get mad at her actions, why would she do it?
I feel raped. Is it too late to address the issue with her since it happened voer the weekend? Thank you for all of your responses. I feel so hurt over this.
---anon on 8/30/11|
No one should ever "rummage" through your personal stuff without your permission, on unless you are handicap and need help.
---wivv on 8/30/11|
I can't imagine what possessed you to let anything like this happen. The Lord wants us to be "WISE AS SERPENTS". Did you ever hear of IDENTITY THEFT?. No doubt, this narcissist speaks to you with a GRIN on her face that hides her secret schemes. People do that when they feel that you're silly and can use you. Get wise and never let her near your children or household again (SERIOUSLY, SERIOUSLY).
1 Thessalonians 4:11 "to mind your own affairs".
If she claims to be a counselor, her present activities are not fitting for an honest person, she should have a legitimate job working with her hands (legitimate work, honest day's work, etc.).
Watch out for ANYONE who won't speak to you with a straight face.
---more_excellent_way on 8/30/11|
TELL HER FIRMLY and LOVINGLY BUT FIRMLY YOU DIDN4T LIKE IT, and that she HAS TO RESPECT YOU PRIVACY. sometimes some forgett bounderies because they "see the union of the brotherhood"
---andy3996 on 8/30/11|
I KNOW THE LAST PERSON I CAUGHT GOING INTO MY PURSE IN MY HOME WAS SOMEONE I THOUGHT WAS MY BEST FRIEND QUESS WHAT I WAS WAY WRONG I HELPED THIS GIRL OUT SO MUCH SHE LOST HER BOYFRIEND AND I TOOK HER UNDER MY WING I GREW UP WITH HER BOYFRIEND HE ALSO WORKED FOR MY FIANCE IT WAS A HARD LESSON BUT I CAUGHT HER GO INTO MY POCKETBOOK AND TOOK OUT THE $400.00 THAT I JUST GOT DONE TELLING HER MY FIANCE WENT TO VERMONT TO MAKE IT BECAUSE HE COULDN'T FIND ANY WORK IN OUR AREA HE TRAVELED 3 HOURS WHEN I LOOKED IN MY PURSE AND THE MONEY WAS GONE SHE SWORE ON MY FRIENDS GRAVE AND HER DAUGHTERS SOLE THAT MADE ME MORE ANGRY
---SHARI_LOTFY on 8/30/11|
i do not carry a purse, but this woman has boundary issues, and so do you if she is allowed in your house again until she understands.
the bible is full of boundary wars.
---aka on 8/29/11|
If she's rude enough to be that intrusive then I wouldn't worry about hurting her feelings.I would've said,(WHILE TAKING MY PURSE FROM HER) "You are looking in the wrong purse, this one doesn't have your name on it it's mine." & if she said anything about how it was organized or the lack of it, just tell her to mind her own business. & If she would keep her nose out of your purse the way you organize your stuff wouldn't be a problem for her because she wouldn't know about it. One more note, I'm sure that I'd invite her to my home again. There's no telling what else she may stick her nose in.
---Reba on 8/29/11|
First you tell her you are offended by her actions and see where that goes.
Sometimes one will become to comfortable around each other and overstep boundaries that are clearly off limits to others.
Perhaps this is the case and can be resolved with specifying those boundaries.
---paul on 8/29/11|
Did you try saying, "Put my purse down right now"?
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 8/29/11|
You let her do it, don't complain to us.
---Blogger9211 on 8/29/11|