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Going Through Midlife Crisis

Feel like I am going through a midlife crisis. There is no part of my life that I am happy with. Have had a difficult life. How can I find out Gods will for me? I do not hear him when he speaks to me.

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 ---Peggy6854 on 10/16/11
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Know that God, "Don't make junk". If you are and have been unhappy, it's been your choice. You can find out God's will for you my making yourself available. (This means no conditions and don't "box" God in.) If you can't hear God, guess who has moved too far away? To deal this, you need to get into the habit of reading your Bible DAILY, get active in a Christian group, surround yourself with Christian friends, find a Christian you can confide in, and pray-especially when you are, "down".(Maintain a constant attitude of prayer)
---wivv on 12/16/11

Craig, I didn't make the statement God pleads with man, you did. I don't have to proof anything only that God pleads with no one. The word of God goes out to all mankind, that doesn't mean every single person. And many reject the gospel of Christ, while others receive faith from God and receive salvation.
"For it has been granted to you that for the sake of Christ "you should not only believe" in Him but also suffer for His sake" Phil. 1:29.

"God may perhaps grant, that they will repent and come to know the truth, and they may escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will" 2 Tim. 2:25,26.
God grants repentance and faith to believe in Christ.
---Mark_V. on 10/24/11

--The Spirit has to convict them of the sin, for them to repent. There is no repentance without conviction. --MarkV

And WHO here has said the Spirit doesnt convict us? NOONE,mark! Not a single person. STop beating a dead horse.

Where we disagree is that a man CAN according to scripture resist the will of God! How many examples do you need of God telling men to do something and the man disobeying and angering God? Theres over a thousand in the pages of the Old Testament!

What do you think hell is for? people who obey? people who listen to the spirit and do Gods will? No its for the DISOBEDIENT! They will not conform themselves to Gods will so they will suffer his eternal vengeance for it.
---CraigA on 10/24/11

---Craig, you said,
"God has pleaded with man over and over and over and over again. Repent and return to me and I will forgive"
I found no passage that says that---MarkV

Then thats proof to me that you havent read the Old Testament thoroughly. Which would no doubt be the reason for your confusion. Instead of asking me for verses which you are no doubt about to do (youll just twist them anyway), why not just read the OT slowly again.
---CraigA on 10/23/11

Craig, you said,
"God has pleaded with man over and over and over and over again. Repent and return to me and I will forgive"
I found no passage that says that.
God does ask for repentance but never pleads. If people could of themselves repent, He would save them. But they cannot repent without God granting them the ability to repent. The Spirit has to convict them of the sin, for them to repent. There is no repentance without conviction.
"No one can receive anything except what is given him from heaven" John 3:27. because
"so it depends not upon man's will or exertion, but upon God's mercy" Romans 9:16. It does not depend on your will but upon God's will.
---Mark_V. on 10/23/11

A midlife crisis is more psychological than anything else. It's a time when we first notice we are getting older and want to try and re-capture our childhood. The advantage you have in having a difficult life is you may be able to help others "side step" some of the problems you had. Maybe that's God's will for you. The first step in knowing God's will is to be a Christian, the next is to make yourself available - no conditions or reservations. You do not hear God speaking to you because you may not be listening, or maybe you have decided He has to speak to you in a certain way for it to be the "right" way.
---wivv on 10/22/11

Jesus said He did not come for the righteous, but to call sinners to repentance.

Obviously a sinner can hear that call!
---kathr4453 on 10/22/11

--CraigA: mocking election is denying God's glory.--Christan

This is what you have lied to about. Noone is denying Gods glory. He has extended his hand in love to all the men of the world. He has done all the work for us to save us. He does however require us to repent. Even after we have repented He deserves all the glory for our salvation.

I hope my position is clear to you now.
---CraigA on 10/21/11

No christan, the Bible says Christ was for-ordained before the foundation of the world to take way sin.

The new Creation consisting of the NEW CREATURE are who the elect are. Those who place their faith in Jesus Christ become a NEW CREATURE in Christ, a totally new HYBRED you might say, thet God is preparing to live in HEAVEN.

God's plan was to PLANT THE HEAVENS with as many WHOSOEVER WILL's receive Him, becoming that New Creature.

Isaiah 51:16
And I have put my words in thy mouth, and I have covered thee in the shadow of mine hand, that I may plant the heavens, and lay the foundations of the earth, and say unto Zion, Thou art my people.

---kathr4453 on 10/21/11

Christian, God never said that he was going to save everyone. His WILL is that all be saved and none parish, he never said this would come to pass, as he does not force his will one people. 2 Peter is clearly referring to all men of the world, not an elect. Read the entire chapter instead of taking it out of context and pairing it with a verse from a completely different book. I could pick differnt verses from all over the bible and put them together and create a whole new bible story. That's not how it works. You need to read each verse in its own chapter in context.
---Jed on 10/20/11

//While you think it is not useful to explain what death is,//

my very first response on this question...

dead does not only mean physically dead.
---aka on 10/18/11

again, i am not reading what others are. one insisted that dead meant physically dead. the other said that it has more meaning. then, the first ridiculed the other one and then asserted that dead was also spiritual as the other was trying to establish.

the gospel truth? those claiming to be a teacher of perfection is held to perfected standards. be careful.
---aka on 10/20/11

Ok so in other words... you cannot explain why David was fearful of losing Gods Spirit in his life.

Our covenants with God ALL have conditions. Maybe you should go back and read them again some time.

It IS indeed grace that saves us, because none of us deserve forgiveness. "Faith" is NOT just a simple belief. The devils believe and tremble with fear.

God has pleaded with man over and over and over and over again. Repent and return to me and I will forgive.
---CraigA on 10/20/11

CraigA: mocking election is denying God's glory. Through Paul's epistles, it is clearly taught that those who are going to heaven, are elected through grace in Jesus Christ and this election was already done "before the foundations of the world".

JED: I do not deny 2 Peter 3:9 "not willing that any should perish", but this reference clearly pertains to only "All that the Father giveth me shall come to me, and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out." John 6:37. Only the elect are given to Christ.

And if God wants to everyone, indeed all will be save but multitudes are already in Hades. What kind of god claims he will save everyone and can't keep that promise?
---christan on 10/20/11

Dear Peggy6854,

I've just come to realize that I've been so insensitive to your blog post and to discuss matters that does not pertain to your very issue of midlife crisis. Please forgive me, I got carried away replying to other bloggers.
---christan on 10/20/11

How many times in the Bible do we see phrases like "choose life" or "choose who you will serve" or "choose your master". Why would God tell us to choose something if the choice is not ours to make? How could God command us to choose if we were not created with a free-will choice?

Christian, 2 Peter 3:9 tells us that God's will is for all to be saved, and for none to perish. If man's salvation was not by choice, but through being elected by God, then all would be saved as that is God's will. Sadly, most will not be saved because they choose not to accept God's free gift. This verse proves that God does not force his will on man, but allows us to choose our destiny.
---Jed on 10/20/11

Christan, maybe you can explain why David was fearful of it after his sin with Bathsheeba (being an elect and all).

Psalm 51:11,12 Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me

As far as God not loving Saul..

2 Samuel 7:15
But my love will never be taken away from him, as I took it away from Saul, whom I removed from before you.

You cant use the doctrine of election thing on me Christan. You forget I dont believe in that. I believe in repentance from sin and faith in Christ, just like the word of God teaches.

God is not mocked
---CraigA on 10/20/11

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Aka, thank you for making it clear what you were trying to say. I understand now why you were answering the way you did. While you think it is not useful to explain what death is, it is very useful for anyone who is preaching the gospel Truth. And the Truth is, that every descendant of Adam is spiritually dead and need to be born again, of the Spirit. While we will one day see the results, we now live by faith in the promises of God.
---Mark_V. on 10/20/11

CraigA, I have bad news for you. Every leader from the beginning of time till now are "anointed" by God. But here's the secret will of God, being "anointed" king or president does not make one save in Jesus Christ. Only the elect "anointed" in Christ will be save.

As for King Saul, now with the completion of the Scriptures and with the help of the epistles, we know that King Saul was not a beloved of God like David was. Remember the doctrine of election? Jacob have I loved and Esau have I hated?

What you are proclaiming is that when one is born of the Holy Spirit by the will of God, it can be removed from him - which is impossible. God does not back track His promise to Christ to whom He will save.
---christan on 10/19/11

markv, the only one that can hurt my feelings is me...if i let them be hurt. i said nothing about salvation. i was talking about the use of the word dead.

let me tell you my thoughts on salvation...if you are saved, you are saved. if you are not, you are not. and it will all come clearer on that day. no matter how many parts that you post, no matter anyone's pounding on the "truth", no matter what i think, salvation is in Jesus Christ and we will find out for sure one day.
---aka on 10/19/11

I hate to break this to you, Christan, but there were people in the old days who HAD the Spirit of God and grieved him and He was taken away. Saul is a perfect example. He was annointed by God to be king and sinned greatly and God repented he chose him as king. He took his HOLY spirit away and sent Saul an evil spirit to torment him.

Even Israel was guilty of rebelling against and grieving the Holy Spirit. SO many instances of people doing the exact thing that you and MarkV claim man cannot do: resist the Holy Ghost.
---CraigA on 10/19/11

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Aka, if you do not understand and do not read all the post why do you answer? Did you answer to get an explanation? What is it that you do not understand? Maybe if you ask you would know. And then again maybe not. But you can try. Notice how I'm asking in a kind manner so that you do not get your feelings hurt. What is it that you don't like or don't understand about salvation? That God chooses whom He wills to choose? That descendants of Adam are spiritually dead, that the flesh will die, Or what? This way someone can answer you.
---Mark_V. on 10/19/11

i do not have time to read all of these posts, but it seems that christan is now saying what craig said long ago. christan started out with dead is only physically dead and now she is saying it means more than that which craig said all along. and now markv is chiming in with what craig already said and telling him he is wrong.

//Afterall, you believe that you're not spiritually "dead" but actually spiritually "unconscious".// i did not read any of that. did i miss something?
---aka on 10/19/11

"For this my son was dead, and is alive again..." is the same when Paul in Ephesians declared, "And you hath He quickened, who were dead in trespasses and sins...", ie being alive in Jesus Christ is the sole work of the Holy Spirit since we're declared "DEAD"!

Everyone when born into this world, though "alive" in flesh and blood are "dead" in the spirit towards God's word according to Ephesians 2:1 until God's Holy Spirit comes and regenerates him.

Your understanding mocks at the very work of the Holy Spirit in salvation. Afterall, you believe that you're not spiritually "dead" but actually spiritually "unconscious". How unbiblical.
---christan on 10/19/11

Craig, You fail to understand the parable of the prodical son. The father considered him dead because he was no where to be found. Yet he was alive physically someplace indulging himself. He was spiritually dead to his father, because spiritual death means, "Separation from God" The son was separated from his father. He got so hungry, conviction came to his heart, he had sinned against his father, and sinned against heaven. The father was waiting and looking for his return. This is a magnificient attribute of God that sets Him apart from all other gods invented by men. God rejoices when a sinner repents. The Father poured out His love for him, while the other son, like the Pharisee did not recognize his sin and repent.
---Mark_V. on 10/19/11

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Craig 2: In comparing the parable to those who are lost, the son of God are the Elect from the foundation of the world. When they are born they are lost, like the prodigal son. Separated from God their Father. And when they are convicted by the Spirit, they will repent and come into the Household of God. They were born separated from God (spiritually dead), lost, but God rejoices when they come to Christ. It is a very simple parable understood by believers only. For Jesus said,
"To you it has been given to know the mysteries of the kingdom of God, but to the rest it is given in parables, that Seeing they may not see, And hearing they may not understand" understanding the parables is a big problem to many.
---Mark_V. on 10/19/11

And when he came to himself, he said, How many hired servants of my father's have bread enough and to spare, and I perish with hunger! I will arise and go to my father, and will say unto him, Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before thee...

the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet: And bring hither the fatted calf, and kill it, and let us eat, and be merry: For this my son was dead, and is alive again, he was lost, and is found. And they began to be merry.

While his son was living riotously, his father considered him... DEAD! (ie as good as dead)
---CraigA on 10/18/11

//go spend time with trusted friends and family.//

millions do not have. and those with who assume everybody does just adds salt to the wounds.
---aka on 10/18/11

dead does not only mean physically dead.
---aka on 10/18/11

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CraigA, again and again you use verses in the Scriptures to "justify your precious free-will". Where in those verses does it say that the man has the "free-will" or when declared "dead" to be " who was "lost" didnt lose his ability to reason"?

Did Lazarus raised himself from the dead after four days rotting away in the tomb? That is the definition of dead! And that was referring to physical death - not to mention a Christian spiritually dead before God gave him life. So, according to your doctrine of death, Lazarus was not really dead when Christ called him in the tomb, right? Because, since he was not dead he could respond to Christ, right?
---christan on 10/17/11

CraigA, "Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin, and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned." Are you saying that death here does not imply death? You had better recommend Oxford change their definition of death or better still, God.

How does one use Scripture like, "If ye be willing and obedient" to mean it's the definition of "free-will"? And one more thing, if indeed you have "free-will", then the Lord's prayer would have no meaning to you. For Jesus taught me, "Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven."

It doesn't say "Thy man's will be done in earth". For you, it does.
---christan on 10/17/11

Mid life crisis is a very serious matter. Or the change of life. Many, not all, woman go through some real hard times during this period. Husbands who love their wives should be very understanding on this matter. I'm sorry Peggy, your life has not had many problems. God speaks to us through His Word and if you read it, He has a lot to say. Not everyone has a perfect life. Many have lost sons or daughters, other husbands or wifes. Many have been abused as children. This world is full of sin, and we should be grateful we are not only born here in the states, but have what so many don't around the world. You are blessed in the Lord, believe it by faith. You will get through this time in your life. Hold on to Christ with your dear life. Peace to you
---Mark_V. on 10/18/11

I have been where you are, and at the same time, my children all moved away to pursue their adult lives, and my husband filed for divorce. I went back to school and studied something I always wanted to, and began a second, part time career in Social Work.

If you pray and seek the Lord, you will learn His iwll for your life.
---Trish on 10/17/11

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Luke 3:7_10 "Then said he to the multitude that came forth to be baptized of him, O generation of vipers, who hath warned you to flee from the wrath to come?
Bring forth therefore fruits worthy of repentance, and begin not to say within yourselves, We have Abraham to our father: for I say unto you, That God is able of these stones to raise up children unto Abraham.
And now also the axe is laid unto the root of the trees: every tree therefore which bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire.
And the people asked him, saying, What shall we do then?"

Bad and lost, yes. But they were definitely not dead.
"What shall we do then?" Knock!
---Nana on 10/17/11

Ma'am, its not MY parable. Its Christ.

What youre ignoring is the man came to himself WHILE he was DEAD! This "dead" man who was "lost" didnt lose his ability to reason.

Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow, though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.

If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land:

But if ye refuse and rebel, ye shall be devoured with the sword: for the mouth of the LORD hath spoken it.
---CraigA on 10/17/11

"midlife crisis" > Peggy, the first thing I think of is how I realized that women old enough to get married were young enough to be my daughters! . . . and I had my midlife chuckle (c:

rest rest rest . . . start fresh now. You can hear God by being quiet, and in quietness also we have communication deeper than words, in His peace sensitive. But we're not perfect. So, this is not going to work very well, except we keep at it and keep growing. A child needs to grow before a child can know a thing or two and relate well with even parents who love the child. God loves us, but we need to grow and develop in His love and His loving of all people (Matthew 5:46), caring as much about others as ourselves.
---Bill_willa6989 on 10/17/11

CraigA, your understanding of "dead" is beyond absurd and foolish. Are you to tell me that dead does not mean one has no life in him?

As for your understanding of the prodigal son in the Scripture, he represented the elect and when you're an elect of God, there's no way that God will not call you to return to Him and that's because from eternity God has chosen the "prodigal son" (the elect) to be in Christ.

As for Pharaoh heart, Exodus 3:19 was to come is simply because God declared to Moses, "but I will harden his heart, that he shall not let the people go." Exodus 4:21, "And He hardened Pharaoh's heart, that he hearkened not unto them, as the LORD had said." Exodus 7:13
---christan on 10/17/11

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(from Baptismal Regeneration)
--The answer to your question is simple. To demonstrate that we are unable to obey His commands because of our sin nature.--

No ma'am! Scripture declares that is the purpose of the LAW! The Law proves us guilty and unable to please God. The SPIRIT leads us to Jesus Christ for the forgiveness and power we need to fulfill the law. He fulfilled the law PERFECTLY for us and shed his blood for us (so we could receive forgiveness), but we still have to follow Him. Even Christ taught this. You cant throw it out for some fantasy doctrine that nullifies 75% of what Jesus Christ our God taught!
---CraigA on 10/17/11

When I start to feel restless, I ask God to help me find contentment in my daily-duties, sometimes I say that prayer for many days. Also, a lot of times we become discontent because we are overwhelmed with a disorganized lifestyle, leaving us with the idea that if we were somewhere new, or just had stuff like new house-spouse, money we'd be happier. God knows where we need to be, but many times we arent carrying out the duties in that place, it makes us restless and unhappy. Try to honor Him in everything you do, the dishes, going to the store for groceries, give your time-thoughts to Him every minute, fall in love with His word, start memorizing scriptures related to the hope/joy/provision we have in Him and I think you may find some sunshine.
---Poppa_Bear on 10/17/11

Christan (from "Baptismal Regeneration")

You make yourself Holy by accepting Jesus Christ into your heart and following his ways by the power of his Spirit! He makes us holy, but you must call upon his name! It is our WILL and Gods POWER! It has always been that way.

The son who was deemed "dead" by his father in the parable of the prodigal son STILL HAD THE ABILITY to come to his sense and return to his father! Dead apparently does not mean what you think it does, or what you have been TAUGHT it does.

God already knew Pharoah would RESIST his command to let Israel go.(Exodus 3:19). Like a rebellious child, the judgements sent by God simply angered Pharoah more and hardened him more.
---CraigA on 10/17/11

Depression is one of Satan's most powerful tools. But Remember God's faithfulness in past provisions. Also sometimes God allows you to go through a difficult time so that you can be stronger. Depression can be the influence of two things a struggle with sin or a tiredness of current lifestyle, sometimes you need a break from normal routine. The President takes a break so should you. The world will not fall apart.
---Scott1 on 10/17/11

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Peggy, if anybody today tells you that God speaks to them directly - I would suggest you run very far away from that person. Why? Because Scripture tells us in Hebrews 1:1,2

"God, who at sundry times and in divers manners spake in time past unto the fathers by the prophets, Hath in these last days spoken unto us by his Son, whom he hath appointed heir of all things, by whom also he made the worlds,"

That is, He now speaks to us through His Holy Bible by the guidance of His Holy Spirit. All our answers to our problems are found in the Holy Scripture. It's because of SIN that we have so much problem with God, and don't by those who tell you otherwise.
---christan on 10/17/11

Peggy, join the club. It happens to most of us. Pray, and go spend time with trusted friends and family. Talk to them. It will help. It will pass eventually. :) on 10/17/11

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