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Living With A Non Christian

I am living with a non Christian (not married). Does God want us to live a lonely life? I am widowed and very lonely and I feel God is not supplying my needs.

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 ---karin on 11/26/11
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She did not say she was living with a man as a lover, just a non-christian. She didn't even say it was a man.

What about this? If a widow was lonely and a family member (such as a son/nephew/niece, uncle, brother) who had sin in his/her life asked her to come live with him because he loved her and wanted to care for her in her old age, would she be sinning then for living with a sinner? Would she be compromising? I am not asking this in argument, but truly wanting an answer.
---Carra3637 on 4/10/12

Moderator permit- Sometimes, we so,busy look'n o'er else where so,disturbed in stead (blame myself,too be true) we are driven by our own concupiscence,.However,while we yet live his mercy still.. best love,pray,give God our service!Rom.12:2Do not be conform any longer to the pattern of this world,be transformed by the renewing of your mind.Then you will be able testand approve what God's will is_his good, pleasing and perfect will.
---ELENA on 4/9/12

dear sister,(maybe she's gone) theme current!my point is yes,many have made the same exp.Satan works on the mind,If he can get your mind "loneliness" complaint he can keep miserable,weak Cuz your soul at stake... God is good! He wants to give you the best! I find outmyself,the lord do not want to be 2nd He must be 1. !!! He is worthy! Jer.17:9the heart is deceitfull above all things.Pro.9:11for through me your days will be many,and years will be added to your life. God is forgiving,mercifull.My life so much better now. I don't focus on having a man in my life now,God must be first!You be faithfull to God He will give you the desires of your heart.Ps.37:4
---ELENA on 4/9/12

Start living on your own, and stop fornicating. Then, start attending a Women's Bible Study, and learn God's Will for your life. Ask a mature woman to disciple you, and show you how to be a mature, Christian woman, and to be content in your relationship with the Lord.

My husband left me over ten years ago. I felt lonely, and thought I needed a man in my life. Now, I am content by myself. I have my needs met, over and above what I can imagine.
---Trish on 11/30/11

Get to know Jesus as your Husband and God as your Father. Jesus said I'll never leave you nor forsake you.

God may not be supplying your needs because they're YOUR needs, not His needs.

You are called to Fellowship with the Lord and to fulfill HIS WILL for your you know what that is? Seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be opened...ask Father God what HIS will is for your life because it's HIS perfect will for you. You may think you need a man, well Jesus said, I am the vine, my Father is the Husbandman and Isaiah 54 says For your maker is your Husband, the Lord of Hosts is His name. Get to know Jesus as your Husband, for you are His Bride and He is looking for you!
---anon on 11/28/11

With God's love I say to you. Put God before your natural desires. Seek someone who loves God and will not lead you into sin, I am not saying you are living a sinful life.Put God first. Much love in Christ.
---Freddie on 11/27/11

Karin, Saying "does God want us to live a lonely life" indicates that you are not well grounded in the Christian faith!
Some on here will verbally stone you, not realizing that to argue with emotion is a futile endeavor!
I suggest that you "learn" what God expects from you by study and association.
Perhaps you and your partner can both enjoy a relationship with God and Christ Jesus!
Then you will see what your course of action to take!
---1st_cliff on 11/27/11

Why should God supply any need of yours when you have totally rejected HIS will for you by living in sin with an unbeliever? It takes a lot of nerve to expect a Holy God to answer your prayers when you rebelliously fornicate and defy 1 Corinthians 6.

Get out of your sinful relationship, and learn what holiness and purity in Christ are.
---Trish on 11/27/11

My Dear Sister,
The very fact that you have even written this blog tells you that deep down you know what you are doing is not correct with God. Please believe me when I say that I understand that life gets lonely but think of what you a missing out on by settling for "your choice" and not "Gods choice". Like you, I am single and waiting on the Lord but I have dated unbelievers which has ended in me almost having a breakdown. Gods way is the only way - take it from someone who has been there. We all learn through each others experiences. God has someone great for you - please do not miss out - Wait and delight yourself in the Lord and he will truly give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37v4) May God bless you
---The_Believer on 11/27/11

Well, you have not said you are doing anything immoral. But a non-Christian person can not help you to live God's love which keeps us from being lonely. Jesus says, "For if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" (in Matthew 5:46) Picky and choosy love is not God's all-loving love, and while we are busy living God's love for all people we do not get lonely or bored! (c: But there are judgmental people who pick and choose who is worth their attention, and this degrades a selfishly loving person so the person can break down into arguing and complaining in the forms of boredom and loneliness and depression and guilt etc. But God's love is beautifully wonderful, and He is not boring (c:
---Bill_willa6989 on 11/27/11


You are assuming this sequence of events:

1) She moved in with this man
2) God stopped supplying all her needs

Perhaps it was the other way around? The blog topic does not say either way.

Besides, there is precedent for God seemingly leaving totally righteous people in the lurch. Just look at most of the book of Job.
---StrongAxe on 11/27/11

It's too bad that you don't think God supplys ALL your needs as the Bible says. God does not want us to live a lonely life and as long as we live for HIM, we will never be lonely. God certainly does not want us to live in sin. He also does not want us to be unequally yoked. But, since you so easily live with someone to whom you are not married, you must not be a Christian yourself.
---KarenD on 11/27/11

Living (without other actions) is not a sin in itself. But it is not really what God would like you to do.

If you are lonely, it is much better to remarry a Christian than be in a relationship that is only filling a 'worldly' need (meaning the need to be with another person, but not with a person who will be your soulfellow).

remarriage would be better
---Peter on 11/27/11

Well, don't think your concubinus will supply your needs, either.

He has no legal responsibilities or obligation towards you at all.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/27/11

When you decided to live with a man without marriage,you broke your relationship with God. God doesn't promise to give the sinner a thing but forgiveness for sins and salvation if they continue living for God the rest of their lives. You cannot lay anything to God's fault when he treats you like the rest of the sinners,you put yourself in a position away from God when you did not adhere to his standard of holiness given to us in the Bible,Jesus said be you holy as I am holy. You turned your back on God when you were led away by your own lusts to have a physical relationship. The Bible says to avoid every appearence of evil instead you are living in it. God owes you nothing. If you want God's help get rid of the man,repent of sin,and serve God.
---Darlene_1 on 11/26/11

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