I Resent My New Husband
I've been supporting my husband forever. Just married and wondering if it's a mistake. He doesn't want to work because he's a preacher, but hasn't preached either. I lost my job and don't know how we're going to pay the rent. I spent my money on our wedding which he did not contribute to. I resent him.
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---Raciv on 12/2/11
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\\The Bible clearly says we are to know them by their fruits.\\
---KarenD on 12/8/11
We'll know WHO by their fruits? Are you talking about THESE verses?
Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheeps clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits."
That seems to CLEARLY say that Jesus was talking about knowing FALSE TEACHERS by their fruits.
There isn't anything, anywhere, in any scripture which says that we will know a CHRISTIAN by anything other than a "confession" of faith
---James_L on 12/8/11|
Peter...The Bible clearly says we are to know them by their fruits. A woman who "has been supporting my husband forever" and who now "resents" him could not possibly know the Lord. If they just got married and she has been supporting him "forever" this is not Biblical and appears as if they were probably living together prior to marriage. This woman's primary emphasis on this post was MONEY, not Jesus.
---KarenD on 12/8/11|
KarenD: 'You need to get saved!!!!!'
Karen, HOW do you know she is not?
We have a tendency to believe (incorrectly, and against the Bible) that anyone who disagrees with us must NOT be a Christian.
But that is also against the Bible, which give VERY CLEAR rules about when we can even treat someone like he/she is not a Christian
Read those up, Karen
---Peter on 12/6/11|
i ignored the apparent and married the blind. life event happens that exposes the truth [about him...of course.) now, poor me.
stand in line.
---aka on 12/6/11|
sorrowed to hear this,be thankful You are not married to me....
---kevin5443 on 12/6/11|
You need to get saved!!!!!
---KarenD on 12/3/11|
Don't you mean you spent God's money on your wedding? How did God feel about that? or did you even consult Him first?
If God gave you the go-ahead to spend His money on your wedding, then where do you find room to throw it in your husband's face that he didn't contribute?
If you didn't first consult with God about spending His money, then maybe you got sum 'splainin to do too
Also, read all the previous replies. Good stuff in all of them.
---James_L on 12/3/11|
How long have you really been supporting your husband? How long have you been married? Why did you spend all of your money on your wedding? Why did you marry a man who would not work?
It sounds like you knew what you were getting into, but don't like it now that you lost your job.
Your alternatives are to seek marital therapy, move out and file for divorce, OR get another job and go back to supporting him. You can't change him.
---Trish on 12/3/11|
Well, you chose to do this. So, maybe in a way you really are resenting your choice that you have been married to. I mean in you you have been married with how you are and how you make choices. So . . . forgive yourself and him. And right now you can be with God and do what is good that He will satisfy you to do and have you satisfied (c: Or you can stay married to what in yourself has you doing otherwise. Please don't do that !
---Bill_willa6989 on 12/3/11|
why are you here whining about your husband on a Christian blog? were you living together before marriage how could you support a man prior to marriage and wasn't THAT YOUR first clue to not get married?
YOU chose to use all of your money on YOUR wedding and you are unable to see the wedding was about YOU not your new life together as man and wife
YOUR money is gone on a self centered attention getting one-day event and now you boo-hoo because the man you married did not instantaneously change into a responsible adult? YET YOUR irresponsibility with your own money has left you penniless??
you are both self centered and irresponsible get counseling to learn to become responsible married adults
---Rhonda on 12/3/11|
The Bible, 2 Thessalonians 3:10 If a man shall not work he shall not eat. Put him out,God doesn't expect you to support a bum. Tell him when he is either preaching and making a living at that or has a regular job for at least six months you will consider taking him back and make him show pay stubs to prove he is. 1 Timothy 5:8 If a man doesn't provide for his family he has denied the faith,and is worse than an unbeliever. As for you pray and ask God to help you overcome your anger and resentment even though you have good reason you must rid yourself of it to draw closer to God. Pray for your husband.
---Darlene_1 on 12/3/11|
Bible says if he doesn't want to work, neither let him eat!
Even Paul resorted to tent making to earn a few shekels!
Sounds like he has delusions of grandeur, someone inviting him to be a pastor in a big church with a big salary.
If he's that lazy how would he cope with congregational problems??
Sounds like your 1st mistake was a biggie!
Just married and alredy resent him??
I can just see you at the marriage couselers saying "Lord knows I tried!"
---1st_cliff on 12/3/11|
This sounds like something I've heard before on these blogs.
However, if you're only just married, how have you been supporting your husband "forever"?
Why did you marry a shiftless bum you resented to start with? Did you think he would suddenly become industrious just because he had a wedding ring on his finger?
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 12/3/11|