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Tell My Wife Of Many Affairs

I've been married for 12 years. I cheated countless times through-out the years. Its eating at me like you wouldn't believe. I want to tell her but the consequences are hard to face.

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 ---Nathaniel on 12/31/11
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Well now you must first understand that you need fixing. but he will not let you out of your guilt until you do confess to your wife. well if your wife is not guilty of it but you soly are she has the right to leave. as jesus said exept for fornication.
---mason.s on 1/7/12


Jim,

Won't Nathaniel be tortured in Hell for all of eternity for the sin of adultery?

Or, has god forgiven him, and so it's okay dokey to lie to his wife by not telling her the truth?

Or, is it that she never directly asked him if he cheated on her and so in your mind he hasn't lied?

Or when she did ask, he lied, but god has forgiven him for that too.

Carry on Nathaniel. Just keep asking for forgiveness.
---atheist on 1/4/12


Don't worry about it. Everyone does it these days. Just try to forget about those other women and move on with your own marriage to your wife. There's no need for her to find out.
---Jim on 1/4/12


Do you keep a divorce attorney on permanent retainer? Do you have a iron clad prenuptial agreement. The answer to both questions had better be yes before you volunteer any personal dirty laundry on the Internet Nathaniel. The next person you should say anything to is your attorney not your wife. The next thing you should do is make an appointment and consult with every divorce attorney within a 50 mile radius of where you live to prevent your wife from being able to use any of them. In a legal brick fight as with anything else, preemption is always better than retaliatory.
---Blogger9211 on 1/4/12


So . . . about first making sure you have trusted in Jesus so you can do what is really right . . .

have you done this? We should understand that when we become forgiven, in God's way, He clears us of our past, and we are free of guilt, too.

Telling her can be just a way of hurting her more. You have already hurt her, by not being a man who loves her. Betraying is not loving. So, you already have been hurting her, somehow, by not being the loving person she needs. So, first you need Jesus and learn how to love > Matthew 11:28-30.
---Bill_willa6989 on 1/2/12




This is a very delicate situation and MUST NOT BE dealt with in the flesh. My advice to you is to confess to God (as it is probably the Holy Spirit convicting you anyway) and then WAIT and FOLLOW Gods direction. He knows both you and your wife but more importantly he knows "WHY" you are doing this. Ask God to give you the courage and words to tell your wife. You never know she may just suprise you. God Bless You!!!
---The_Believer on 1/1/12


Nate, Ask yourself "what would Tiger Woods do?"
---1st_cliff on 12/31/11


You need to clean up your act and confess your sins to God and sin no more.

While your wife may forgive you, any confession to her would at the least put a black mark on your marriage if not destroy it.
---lee1538 on 12/31/11


James 5:16 "Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much." The lies that are between you are already destroying, trust that the Father is able and will work things for the best, and He alone knows what that is.
---chria9396 on 12/31/11


Consequences may be hard to face, but you have no choice but to face them if you ever want to stop the, "eating at me". Tell her, but in the proper setting, (if at home, which is the best place, make sure you have lots of uninterrupted time. Take the phone off the hook.) Tell her you want to finish what you have to say before she makes any comments, but make sure you give her time to comment. It's best to find our from you than some other source - although she may already suspect you have been cheating.
---wivv on 12/31/11




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