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My Husband Isn't Attractive

I am a Christian who has served God faithfully for many years. I always hoped He would pick a man for me to marry. He did. The trouble is, I always imagined He would send me someone that I found attractive and actually liked. I can't stand being around this man. Why did God send me someone like this?

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that wasnt god if you donty feel content sometimes the devil jumps the gun and does things like this just be honest and break up...
---juan on 4/27/12


Take a deeper look into the mirror at yourself, perhaps others cannot stand being around you either. And stop blaming God for your own cold heart.
---Eloy on 4/26/12


Obviously God didnt send him to you. God knows what you like and what is good for you.


You jumped the gun.
---CraigA on 4/25/12


and by the way there is not one verse in Holy Scripture that STATES GOD sends/picks/manifests/appoints (or any other verb) husbands ...or wives for that matter
---Rhonda on 2/10/12

Old Testament ma'am. Rebecca was chosen for Isaac
---CraigA on 4/25/12


//Why did God send me someone like this?//

you have got to be kidding me?
---aka on 4/25/12




How do you know that God picked this man for you?
---Melanie on 4/25/12


We don't know if Asha married this man or not. She says God sent him to her to marry, yet she despises him and can't stand to be around him. PLEASE, PLEASE, do not marry this man because you will ruin his life. I don't believe God sent you someone that you despised or that is unattractive to you. He is not the man for you. Again, please do not lead him on nor marry him.
---Gena on 2/27/12


Perhaps God desires to punish your husband with you? Proverbs 14:1.
---Glenn on 2/27/12


Selfishness and discontentment says: "I always imagined He would send me someone that I found attractive and actually liked. I can't stand being around this man. Why did God send me someone like this?"
God says: 1Co 13:4-6 Charity suffereth long, [and] is kind, charity envieth not, charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil, Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth,
You have a choice. Believe God is right in His decisions and act accordingly: or grab that fruit, take a big bite, and offer some to your Adam.
---micha9344 on 2/27/12


If you married a man that you can't even stand being around, then you should not have married him to begin with. Although, as a true believer, one should not make a decision to marry another based on looks, at the same time, he/she should not be repulsed by that person. When God told Ezekiel that His wife was going to die, He referred to Ezekiel's wife as the "delight of his eyes". It's clear that Ezekiel found his wife to be attractive. Whether she was attractive in others' eyes is not what mattered. What matters is whether YOU find your spouse attractive. The key is not to judge solely on looks, but to realize that looks are just one factor that God uses for mutual attraction, but He then expects us to look deeper - into the ...
---louia7797 on 2/26/12




My hubby wasn't no Elvis Presley but Bwoy have we some beautiful, beautiful children... It aint about the looks babes, its about the heart does he serve God, is he a spiritual blood washed, saved by the grace, man of God and more important are you a woman of God with the same traits?.
---Carla on 2/26/12


My hubby wasn't no Elvis Presley but Bwoy have we some beautiful, beautiful children... It aint about the looks babes, its about the heart does he serve God, is he a spiritual blood washed, saved by the grace, man of God and more important are you a woman of God with the same traits?.
---Carla on 2/26/12


asher, I doubt if God sent you anyone. You are free to choose for yourself. why don't you look on the inside of a person instead of the superficial outside. Don't blame God for doing something you did to yourself.
---shira4368 on 2/23/12


God gives us exactly what we need. His attraction to you may not meet your needs(emotion, social, finance, honour, libido etc). If God gives you an attractive man that cannot meet your other needs, you will yell. God does not like complaining, grumbling and murmuring on what HE gives. Be careful. Accept him & pray that God shows you why he is the one chosen for you.
---Adetunji on 2/21/12


Could it be that you chose him all by yourself, without God?
---Eloy on 2/19/12


Asha, how do you know if that was the man God wanted you to marry? It could be you made another mistake and took matters into your own hands and not waited for God. Maybe this are the consequences of not waiting for Him? None of us know but God. Many times we are taught a big lesson. That does not mean you are not saved, but that He is chastening you for a better purpose. Look for the will of God in your life. We all have a purpose and that includes your husband who you say is not attractive. You married him, you must have thought he was ok when you did.
---Mark_V. on 2/19/12


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Psalms 37v4 says "Delight yourself in the Lord and he WILL give you the desires of your heart". There are many single women who are still waiting for their life partners. How do you know that the first person who came was God's choice? If you are sure that he is then God has a purpose. My advice to you is to go back to God and speak to him about it - also start understanding just how blessed you really are. God bless you!
---The_Believer on 2/17/12


Beauty for ashes . . . if you are proven to be reliable at knowing God's will, be very appreciative of this, and get wise to whatever about you makes you not like him. I understand God gives us someone so we can find out how to love. I've gotten the impression that people do not know each other, really-really, before they get married. So . . . you "likely" do not have a clue about him, but God has more than a "clue" (c: So, a godly man you can trust to talk about this, if he is your "head" (Ephesians 5:23). So, get into loving each other by trusting each other with your personal things.
---Bill_willa6989 on 2/12/12


. There is not one verse in Holy Scripture that STATES GOD sends/picks/manifests/appoints (or any other verb) husbands or wives...

Prov,19,14
Prov19,22,


YOU DO UNDERSTAND NOTHING from ANY of the verses you chose state the spouse is picked or appointed by GOD correct?
---Rhonda on 2/12/12


IF this is a Godly man, really were you saved when you married him? when I see people I see them from the inside out. Maybe God choose if " that's what you believe " so you would not marry that handsome man that would of killed you.. most of your talking seems like that what the bible speaks of a double minded man unstable in all his ways.. You need to pray..prayer changes things and situations, Maybe you will come up a changed person ..Love in Christ..
Jeanette & #9829,.
---Jeanette on 2/12/12


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God will never send you someone you despise. Wow, maybe you are disgusting to him. Have you ever thought about that. If you have a Godly man, thank God for him. I doubt if God picked your spouse..the devil probably sent him so he could see another family destroyed.
---shira4368 on 2/11/12


Something here doesn't "compute." God states in the Bible that He will give us "the desires of our heart" Here you have a husband that you can't stand, or like but married anyway. Why? Now you are blaming God. If God did plan on you marrying him, maybe your husband has a quality you haven't noticed. Or maybe you decided to answer your own prayer and just marry someone and then when things aren't as you imagined, are just blaming God. Regardless, he is now your husband and you should honor him as such and try to look at his positive qualities. Another thing I know, God does NOT make mistakes.
---wivv on 2/11/12


. There is not one verse in Holy Scripture that STATES GOD sends/picks/manifests/appoints (or any other verb) husbands or wives...

Prov,19,14 Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord. Prov19,22, He who finds a wife finds what is good, and receives favor from the Lord. I believe that our spouses are gifts and that the Lords the giver of all good gifts. The way we respond to our spouses is in our hands and we can cultivate the relationship, or help destroy it. The Savior is our great example of somebody who redeems relationships, bringing beauty out of ugliness and He calls us to do the same. Marriage isnt a cakewalk, but neither was Calvary.
---Poppa_Bear on 2/10/12


God says that He will treat you as you treat the least of His.

it took me a while to get it.
---aka on 2/10/12


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If this is your husband, start respecting him like Jesus says. If you have not married him, please don't ruin his life. Let someone else enjoy this Godly man.
---KarenD on 2/10/12


asha, how did God reveal to you to marry a repulsive partner?
---anonymous on 2/10/12


Your situation sounds exactly like what a woman named Priscilla went through.

Priscilla met, and married, Elvis Presley. He was probably the most attractive, sexiest man alive. With girls screaming and falling all over him. Everywhere.

Elvis & Priscilla divorced after about 6 1/2 years of marriage. Why?

There were reports about Elvis' sexual unfaithfulness. Others about the marriage being FORCED upon him. Both are a recipe for divorce.

I would accept your husband for WHO HE IS. Not for who you wish HIM TO BE. That will only cause marital strife. You might want to see a counselor about this.

You don't want to end up like Priscilla Presley did.
---Sag on 2/10/12


Asha

you cannot be a "christian" because you DO NOT practice the instructions FROM GOD that a faithful married women would do in proverbs 31 or from Apostle Peter

by trashing your husband after YOU WILLINGLY and OPENLY said YES to your vows then you are either drowning in a christian cult or your own self-absorption

and by the way there is not one verse in Holy Scripture that STATES GOD sends/picks/manifests/appoints (or any other verb) husbands ...or wives for that matter
---Rhonda on 2/10/12


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The only beauty we possess ourselves is Christ in us. Maybe He allowed you to marry him to teach you how to love the unlovely. Its easy to love the attractive. The Bible teaches that love isnt a feeling, its a verb, an action. So it can often be work, sometimes easy, natural, but sometimes hard and very uncomfortable, like Jesus hanging on a cross for us, who were all at one time enemies to the Cross and His love. Try to love with not only your actions, but your attitude, IE, with faith that God will honor your desire to love the unlovely, and hold on to your marriage covenant with Him and your husband for dear life. Worldly attraction isnt worth your testimony.
---Poppa_Bear on 2/10/12


Oh , boo the hoo.

What makes you think that YOU are love's young dream, lady?

Why did you marry someone you didn't like to start with? Was God holding a gun to your head?

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 2/10/12


God did not send him, you picked him Asha so don't blame God for your poor choices.
---Blogger9211 on 2/10/12


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