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Should Dad pay for wedding if the Step-Dad is walking her down the isle and giving her away?

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\\Well, in case her mother has influenced her to dishonor her own father, it says to honor our father and mother. \\

Doubtless, there is more going on here than has been told in the original post.

So let's not talk about who has influenced whom or who is not honoring whom.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 2/18/12


Hi PoppaBear, you sound as sweet and adorable as your name! :D God bless you :)
---Mary on 2/18/12


Well, in case her mother has influenced her to dishonor her own father, it says to honor our father and mother. If she is a disobedient person who does not honor her father, I possibly would not encourage someone to marry her. So, why would I pay for her wedding or want to give her away?

If he is trying to buy favor with her, that is not good.

But if he really has done her great wrong . . . I also would not accept his money being involved if he has not changed from his evil that she knows about.

So, do you know what really is going on?
---Bill_willa6989 on 2/18/12


Just my two pennies worth, if I had the money to I would. Even if I couldn't, or wasn't picked to walk her down the path of bliss, LOL. I like giving gifts even when I feel put out, I think that is the best time, it helps me to remember that the gift is the small thing, my act of love is the big thing, and it is for God, between me and Him. I do it by faith, even when it looks foolish to others and I have yet to regret it.
In His grip
---Poppa_Bear on 2/18/12


It should be all the parties responsiblility, the father, & mother & stepfather. Why? because the daughter is still the fathers daughter, but yet the stepfather stepped in & is married to the mother, so teh money is tied together. Also it is tradition for the brides parent to pay for the wedding, it doesn't have to be an expensive one either.
---Candice on 2/17/12




There was a time that the father of the bride was expected to pay for most of the expenses of the ceremony and the reception.

This was when females lived at home until they were married and never worked outside the home, either old or new.

Things are different now. Usually BOTH families, as well as the couple themselves share the expenses.

Glory o JEsus Christ!
---Cluny on 2/16/12


The dad should be the first choice in walking the daughter down the isle. If he doesn't do this, than he shouldn't have to pay, the step-dad has to pay.
---wivv on 2/16/12


Why are the parents expected to pay for the weddings in the first place? It's the grown children that are getting married, not the parents. IF the parents want to pay, that's one thing. But, even then, there should not be any hidden strings attached. Like those paying parents trying to run the grown children's marriage because their financial support somehow "entitles" them. Nor should the children take financial advantage of their parents. NO. A gift should be a gift FREELY given.
---Gordon on 2/16/12


I think you already have your answer.
It is up to Dad!
How does step-dad feel about paying?
He is taking the place of the father, is he not?
All I can say is try some milk of kindness.
Like half and half, one on the left and one on the right.
Make a great picture, God like.
But its up to dad!
---TheSeg on 2/16/12


The bride should pay for the wedding, and if the father wants to help her, that is between those two parties.
---Trish on 2/16/12




More info needed. Why is she asking step-dad and not dad? Are you the reason the parents were divorced?
---KarenD on 2/16/12


what an insult!

is this the spoiled daughter who expects her biological father to throw money at her for purpose of "wedding"?

or is this the biological father who would prefer to not pay for the wedding?

the daughter is giving the honors of being walked down the isle to a man she has no relation with other than her mother married him

if this adult women expects her biological father to pay and is giving the honors of being given away to some other guy shame on her!

no parent is under any obligation to PAY for anything for their adult children ...those who do do so out their own generosity
---Rhonda on 2/16/12


No, the bride should not be so selfish as to want a big wedding that she herself can not afford. She and the groom should step up to pay for their own wedding and keep it simple. Many girls today want a wedding more than a marriage. It doesn't have to be a big show.
---Jed on 2/16/12


More info needed. What is the relationship between Dad and daughter, when was the step-dad brought in to picture, what is the relationship like between step-dad and daughter. Are you trying to avoid financial burden of wedding? When you remarried him, he became leader of household so I say step-dad.
---Scott1 on 2/16/12


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