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Keep Her Marriage Commitment

Someone here wrote:
"Husband 21 years older then me. I am in my prime now and he is old and worn out. Trapped in sexless marriage. What can I do?"

What should she do,
1. dump him?
2. find someone to please her and not tell him?
3. keep her marriage commitment?

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 ---Mark_V. on 3/4/12
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---kathr4453 on 3/18/12---Amen.
---aka on 3/18/12--Amen.

1Cor 2,3 (all)[...]But let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon. For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ.

1Tim4:9-10 (all) [...] Acceptation[...] we trust in the living God, who is the Savior of all men, specially of those that believe.

Lk 24:45-47Then opened he their understanding, that they might understand the scriptures, And said unto them, Thus it is written, and thus it behooved Christ to suffer, and to rise from the dead the third day: And that repentance and remission of sins should be preached in His Name among all nations, beginning at Jerusalem.


I Stand in agreement.
---char on 3/19/12


1 Corinthians 2:2
For I determined not to know any thing among you, save Jesus Christ, and him crucified.

Galatians 6:14
14But God forbid that I should glory, save in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom the world is crucified unto me, and I unto the world.

We know that speaking FOR GOD on issues we are not asked to speak for is taking God's name in vain. Some think that means cussing, it really means Speaking for God what He never spoke or asked us to speak.Breaking the seconc commandment!

However the CROSS is why were here and wha we are to Glory in and PREACH!!
---kathr4453 on 3/18/12


thank you, mark. in your last comment to me, you provided a great example of the best of you. there are so many things that i could say, but i don't think it will matter to you and most everybody else here already sees it. The only important thing i need to address is that God is the only good teacher. even jesus said so. teaching is exactly like salvation. it is not because of ANYONE (including the elect and the "elect') but God. God works through people despite that person. He works with righteousness and contrast. thank you for showing us God's ways through being tinkling brass.
---aka on 3/18/12


Jn3(all)
For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through him might be saved.
He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.

1Tim4:9-10This is a faithful saying and worthy of all [acceptation].

For therefore we both labour and suffer reproach, because we trust in the living God, who is the Savior of [all men], [specially of those that believe.]

All Glory to God and Savior, anointed, living , written and spoken Word of God, Yshua-Jesus Christ, Son of God.
---char on 3/18/12


Aka, I don't argue with 'free willers" as you say. I give them the Truth right from God's Word. I'm commanded to do that by God. That is what we all should be doing. I do my part, I study before I answer so that I can do the will of God.
There is no cows here but the Word of God. If you think discussing the word of God hurts your feelings then why are you on line? You don't like to hear it, then you should not answer. As Leon said once, if you don't like the questions don't answer. There is lonely hearts questions that you can go to. This way you won't get your feelings hurt by the Truth.
---Mark_V. on 3/18/12




---aka on 3/17/12

Blessing to you brother.
---char on 3/18/12


You ask me because I speak for God's sovereign right to save whom He wills to save---MarkV

UNLESS....its Gods sovereign will so save people on the basis of whether or not they show FAITH in what He has done or promised He will do. (Romans 4:18-25)
---JackB on 3/18/12


//Aka, if you didn't have a problem//

you love to argue and key on minor points...a stance that you freely accepted and hold onto.

//We do make a choice, when we are made willing to choose Christ by God...If you had the ability to choose Christ, // markv

no kidding. markv, you go round and round to beat the cow for milk when you just need to pull its teets. i do not think anybody would argue with that. you go on arguing with free willers and they can argue with you. in the end,it does not matter what YOU teach. Even jesus said there is but one good teacher.

//whatever choice she makes will give evidence whether she was one of the elect or not from the foundation of the World.//

your logic is dizzying.
---aka on 3/17/12


Romans 8:7 Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.

The entire human race is enmity (an enemy to) God and are not subject to (required to obey) His Laws. Wicked do not live for God or obey His Laws would tell women to act on her carnal mind to dump him or commit adultery.

Those who are in the Spirit are given strength to submit and live for and obey all of Gods Laws (10 Laws including obeying law to not commit adultery). The women is weak seeking permission to disobey God. Followers of Christ would advise this women to honor her marriage commitment.

~humble follower of the Rock and lover of The Eternals truth (KJV) Matt 16:18, 1 Corin 10:4, 2 Thess 2:10
---Follower_of_Christ on 3/17/12


:)
---char on 3/16/12

smile with character speaks words with charisma.

good to see you again.
---aka on 3/17/12




Aka, if you didn't have a problem you would not have said, "On which side of the fence do you stand?"
You ask me because I speak for God's sovereign right to save whom He wills to save.
We do make a choice, when we are made willing to choose Christ by God. Faith comes from hearing and the lost don't have spiritual ears to hear. God says, "the carnal mind is enmity against God, for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be. So then, those who are of the flesh cannot please God." (Rom. 8:7,8). If you had the ability to choose Christ, it would not say those of the flesh cannot please God. God has to quicken the heart of the unbeliever to make him willing. The gospel Truth.
---Mark_V. on 3/17/12


1 Corinthians 1:17
For Christ sent me not to baptize, but to preach the gospel: not with wisdom of words, lest the cross of Christ should be made of none effect.

Galatians 5:11
And I, brethren, if I yet preach circumcision ((OR ELECTION)), why do I yet suffer persecution? then is the offence of the cross ceased. EXACTLY!The old bate and switch

Galatians 6:12
As many as desire to make a fair shew in the flesh, they constrain you to be circumcised...or constrain you with the doctrine of election, only lest they should suffer persecution for the cross of Christ.

I see nowhere Paul was ever persecuted for any teaching on election or predestination.
---kathr4453 on 3/17/12


//Aka, there is only one true gospel of Christ.// markv

very true.

2Co_11:4 For if someone comes and proclaims another Jesus than the one we proclaimed, or if you receive a different spirit from the one you received, or if you accept a different gospel from the one you accepted, you put up with it readily enough.

you still insist that i have a problem with predestination and i do not. i also read in scriptures that we have to accept the true gospel.
---aka on 3/16/12


//Aka, there is only one true gospel of Christ.//

Revealed by the ascended Lord to our apostle Paul.
---michael_e on 3/16/12


Kathr, again you are wrong. We do not hate the preaching of the Cross, we just love it, for without it, we would still be lost. What we do hate is you bringing accusations because you have nothing from Scripture only your mouth to defend you. We present the Word of God, you present nothing but insults. When you get saved, if you ever will, then you might be able to discuss godly matters. Until then, you will continue to be a thorn on the side. Just like the one Paul had. Guess what? God gave him that thorn, just as He gave us you. But we know what He told Paul,
"My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness." (2 Cor. 12:9).
Praise God.
---Mark_V. on 3/16/12


"We know that all things work together for good to them that Love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose" (Rom. 8:28). Only those who love God, who are the called "according to His purpose"
Christ came here to carry into effect God's sovereign purpose of election, to save people already "His" (Matt. 1:21) by covenant settlement. There are a people whom God hath "From the beginning chosen unto salvation" ( 2 Thess. 2:13).
---Mark_V. on 3/16/12


I was not predestined to believe in predestination/election. God's PURPOSE is/was to conform us to the image of Jesus Christ Through the blood of the EVERLASTING COVENANT Hebrews 13:20-21 state that fact!
---kathr4453 on 3/16/12


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Kathr, says,

"Paul was hated because he preached THE CROSS, not predestination or election or God's Sovereignty."

The fact is that Paul preached predestination and election. The children of the flesh don't understand that fact.

---You lady, cannot stand the Truth. That is why you hate us.
---Mark_V. on 3/15/12


The Real issue with MarkV, christan and Leej is this. THEY hate teh preaching of the Cross. All teh whole I preach the cross and teh blood, all they do is twist and curse me..WHY? Because it is teh Preaching of teh Cross that is the POWER UNTO SALVATION. Not the preaching of predestination.
---kathr4453 on 3/16/12


Aka 3, You also asked me to think and you said,

"please, stop and think...with what you believe, if the woman is predestined "elect" or not what does it matter what she chooses now?"

If the woman is predestine she will come to Christ. It doesn't matter what she chooses now, God's timing to give her faith might be at a later time. But whatever choice she makes will give evidence whether she was one of the elect or not from the foundation of the World. The same was true of Saul of Tarsus, he had no clue, when he was killing Christians, that one day he too would be one of the chosen ones from the foundation of the world. "Thy people shall be willing in the day of Thy power" (Ps.110:3).
---Mark_V. on 3/16/12


Leon, that answer was for you on other blog, not this one. I'm sorry you did not like it. Thanks for your answer.
---Mark_V. on 3/16/12


"Leon, if you are testing the people who answer to see how much they know about the word of God, then it is a good reason, for iron sharpens iron. But give people a chance to answer you. Don't jump on anyone. Later you can tell everyone what Scripture you know, that answers your question. Then, after seeing your answer, they can go ahead and read Scripture to make sure what you answered was from the Word of God.
---Mark_V. on 3/13/12"


Since I didn't made any prior comment(s) to this foolish blog, why are you falsely accusing me of something I didn't do?! You really need to get a grip! Furthermore, this Dear Abbie style blog really isn't for me, so bye! :)
---Leon on 3/16/12


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// if the woman is predestined "elect" or not what does it matter what she chooses now? ---aka on 3/16/12//

I like the way you put this aka.

:)
---char on 3/16/12


Aka, there is only one true gospel of Christ.
All humanity is condemned through the fall of Adam. All are in need of Christ as their Savior. But God graciously gave up His Son to die for His people. And His people only. "We know that all things work together for good to them that Love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose" (Rom. 8:28). Only those who love God, who are the called "according to His purpose"
Christ came here to carry into effect God's sovereign purpose of election, to save people already "His" (Matt. 1:21) by covenant settlement. There are a people whom God hath "From the beginning chosen unto salvation" ( 2 Thess. 2:13).
---Mark_V. on 3/16/12


markv, i am not speaking against you. i agree that free will is not scriptural and neither is calvinism. the scripture talks of God's will AND predestination.

//Nowhere does God say man first has to choose Him.//

i know it does not say "choose Him. but it does say "accept a different gospel from the one you accepted".

please, stop and think...with what you believe, if the woman is predestined "elect" or not what does it matter what she chooses now?

what does it matter if she knows "God's ways." To you, God's way is God's decision from the start without regard for our acceptance of the true gospel.

the really important question is what gospel does she accept.
---aka on 3/16/12


There is an "Israel after the flesh" (unbelieving Israel) And there is an "Israel of God"(believing Israel, Peter,James and John etc) Then there is the BoC, led by our Apostle by revelation from the risen Christ, made up of Jew and Gentile alike.
What is believing Israel looking for?
Luke 1:67-73 Acts 1:6,7
Matt. 19:28 Luke 22:30
---michael_e on 3/15/12


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Michael e, the only people going to be saved by God are the elect. Those chosen by God. No one else whether from Israel or not from Israel. All who are saved make up the Church, spiritually baptized into One Body in Christ. There is no other group going to heaven without faith in Jesus Christ,

"For as the Father raises the dead and gives life to them, even so the Son gives life to whom He will" (John 5:21).

There is an "Israel after the flesh" ( 1 Cor. 10:18) that is not going to heaven. And there is an "Israel of God" (Gal. 6:16) made up of Jewish people and Gentiles who believe in the Messiah. It is God's spiritaul Israel.
---Mark_V. on 3/15/12


Acts 13:43 "Now when the congregation was broken up, many of the Jews and religious proselytes followed Paul and Barnabas: who, speaking to them, persuaded them to continue in the grace of God."

1 Corinthians 10:33 "Even as I please all men in all things, not seeking mine own profit, but the profit of many, that they may be saved."

No, there is no mention of 'predestination and election' in those verses.
Rather a concern for their fellow man, "that they may be saved.".
---Nana on 3/15/12


Kathr, says,

"Paul was hated because he preached THE CROSS, not predestination or election or God's Sovereignty."

The fact is that Paul preached predestination and election. The children of the flesh don't understand that fact.

"And not only this, but when Rebecca also had conceived by one man, even by our father Isaac (for the children not yet being born, nor having done any good or evil, that the purpose of of God according to election might stand," not of works but of Him who calls, it was said to her The older shall serve the younger, as it is written Jacob I have loved, but Isaau I have hated"

You lady, cannot stand the Truth. That is why you hate us.
---Mark_V. on 3/15/12


//what was for Israel is now for us//

Many believe when one is saved he becomes a member of Israel, not the real Israel. But a spiritual Israel. Is God finished with Israel of the OT?
spiritual Israel is created from failure to understand the shift from Gods dealing with Israel to the BoC. Many who subscribe to the idea of spiritual Israel, generally teach Israel was an allegory for the church today, referred to as the true Israel.
Teaching a separate spiritual Israel isn't Biblical. To press it into the scripture, we must do three things:
Deny fulfillment of prophecy given to Israel,
Reject Gods separation of Israel from the Gentiles.
Ignore the teaching of Jesus Christ according to the revelation of the mystery
---michael_e on 3/14/12


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I understand that if I speak for the Soverign will of God, I will have many who will hate me. BLA BAL BLA BLA BLA BLA .
---Mark_V. on 3/14/12


Paul was hated because he preached THE CROSS, not predestination or election or God's Sovereignty.

So markv, what you may be experiencing is hatred brought about by your SELF RIGHTEOUS attitude towards others.

God know's He's God, and never asked me to defend His Godhood. He did however ask me to defent theGOSPEL AKA the Preaching OF THE CROSS.

You all will do and say anything to get people to take their eyes OFF OF JESUS CHRIST.....like Satan would so!
---kathr4453 on 3/14/12


Aka, there was an option, "Keeping her marriage committment." I was looking for answers how to keep that marriage committment after they chose option 3.
I'm used to hearing others speak against me. But never from you. I understand that if I speak for the Soverign will of God, I will have many who will hate me.
It is not calvinism are free will. It is predestination and free will. Free will is not supported by Scripture. The whole of Scripture supports the Election of God. It is our responsibility to teach the Truth of God, not the truth of man.
Read the New Covenant (Ezekiel 36:24-27) what was for Israel is now for us. Nowhere does God say man first has to choose Him. Only what He is going to do.
---Mark_V. on 3/14/12


calvinistic type messages are different than Calvinism.

we are all pretty similar from a different angle. i have supported some of your posts in the past. some i have not. there is no one here that i am of, and i don't want anybody here to be of me.

Accusation is different than observation. please do not try the extremist tactic to deflect the topic. God knows our heart.

even though you ignore it, again i will say that i believe in predestination AND God's will. (The cannot exist without each other.) and not calvinism or "free will." neither are totally supported in scripture.

knowing God's ways, with what you teach, why wasn't nothing and option in your original question?
---aka on 3/13/12


Leon, if you are testing the people who answer to see how much they know about the word of God, then it is a good reason, for iron sharpens iron. But give people a chance to answer you. Don't jump on anyone. Later you can tell everyone what Scripture you know, that answers your question. Then, after seeing your answer, they can go ahead and read Scripture to make sure what you answered was from the Word of God.
---Mark_V. on 3/13/12


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Aka, where is the evidence of calvinism? You accuse me of, presenting Calvinism, when did I present the words of Calvin? Second you accuse me as a person, with no reason. I'm sorry for thinking you were different then the others.
You don't want to believe in predestination, its your right. God said, not Calvin,
"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed "us" (believers) with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ: According as He hath chosen us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him. In Love He predestined us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to Himself according to the good pleasure of His will"
---Mark_V. on 3/13/12


wait a minute mark. if i have met your definition of "throwing darts", you must stop to look in the mirror.

on one hand, you preach calvinistic type messages, saying we have no choice in anything we do. yet, you did not give that as an option. i do not understand. yet, i do understand.

let's not use the art of deflection. how come the choice of 'nothing' given given the things that you believe from the bible?

edify is not double talk presenting yourself as one who knows the ways of God.

how is this post edifying? someone asked this months ago and there is no evidence of her existence here.

Pro_26:12 Do you see a man who is wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.
---aka on 3/12/12


Aka, I did not find anything in the question concerning Calvinism. How in all creation did you come out with that? If you don't like the blog, don't answer. It's as simple as that." Why throw darts" Have I done something to you? Is it because I speak for God and not man? I never tell you what to blog. What do you gain by throwing darts at me? Redemption?
Why not edify another who is going through the same things? If you cannot edify anyone here, then edify someone on another blog. Find blogs that suit where you do want to help. I didn't stop to think I needed any advice from you on what to blog. If my post irritates you, you are allowing sin to enter your heart.
---Mark_V. on 3/12/12


aka, i agree with your post on 3/8.

i just do not understand why nobody especially the originator of this post and other calvinists-like people will address your post.
---aka on 3/9/12


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oh boo hoo hoo my husband is (fill in the blank) just another women bashing her husband I guess "in the name of christ"??

for a True Believer this question is absurd there is no multiple choice in marriage options later in marriage when one spouse becomes tired of their spouse ....at least for those who choose to FOLLOW Christ

because the women is not a christian and lives for the world and its ways she was a foolish girl when she married him now she is a self absorbed and VERY selfish women today ...if the question is really being asked for someone else she is only hoping enough "christians" choose the road of irresponsibility and will side with her to go out and live her life in her prime
---Rhonda on 3/8/12


//What should she do,//

according to some here,

4. she has no choice.

(whatever she does is not decided by her, so i do not see the logic of the question.)

//Someone here wrote: "...What can I do?" //

Nothing (per Calvinism).

Why was that not an option?

//Christians who understand the ways of God can bring forth Truth//

On which side of the fence do you stand?

I am fortunate to be a nothing.
---aka on 3/8/12


Keep your marriage commitment. You knew he was 21 years older when you married him and should have known this age difference would be an issue at some day in the future.
---wivv on 3/7/12


The Bible does say the two became one flesh. Paul also says that the husband's body belongs to the wife and the wife's belong to the husbands.

Trish - If she does not know scripture she should ask not somebody else.
- If she does not care then you are talking down to her and probably without her knowledge therefore gossip.
---Scott1 on 3/6/12


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Scott 1, this are questions posted by many on line, supposely Christians and Christians who understand the ways of God can bring forth Truth so that others who are in a similar position can understand what God wants from us as married couples. Many have great answers that can help someone who is in a similar position. It had a good intention, peace
---Mark_V. on 3/6/12


She could start burning the candle at both ends, and also give her husband daily formaldehyde baths...I jest.
---Eloy on 3/5/12


What should she do?
The person this question refers to (Bambi), seems to have chosen the selfish "dump him" option, according to her last post.

This decision on her part reflects where she is at in her walk. IF she is a Christian, God will discipline her. She will not profit by such selfish actions.

Sadly, her decision is typical of the selfish culture we live in. Many justify divorce for ANY reason these days.
She would do better to follow God's ways instead of the worldly ways she follows now.
---Haz27 on 3/6/12


I feel the woman and her husband should discuss the problem. They should look for possible solutions e.g. herbal treatment for the husband. If no known human solution works, then the two should take the problem to God in prayer and wait on God for a solution. God can solve ALL human problems.
---Adetunji on 3/6/12


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Anyone who posts this kind of question DOES NOT CARE WHAT GOD THINKS or what anyone else thinks.
---KarenD on 3/5/12


Scott: Just as there is a "Finish it here February 2012" for when a blog question reaches 75 replies, this is to allow people to continue the discussion. I'm not sure anyone addressed the issue of obedience to God's Word on this question before. It's not gossip. It's continuing the discussion that got started before.

From Bambi's last post on her own question, it was clear she either does not know what Scripture says about marriage and divorce, or she does not care. If she does not know Scripture on the question, she should learn it. If she chooses to disobey what God says about divorce, then she will reap the consequences.
---Trish on 3/5/12


She should obey God and stay in her marriage. To leave would be to rebel against God's will as it says in 1 Corinthians 7.
---Trish on 3/5/12


Why are you bring up this question? This question was asked by this person some time ago. The posting of this question by a third party (aka you) is and can be called gossip.
---Scott1 on 3/5/12


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