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Dating the Ex for 2 Months

Me and my ex were dating for 2 1/2 months. He told me he cared for me, had feelings for me, and was really starting to fall for me. He told me I told him I miss him to much and said that he is very busy with his career and said he didn't want to break up but I just wasn't a important priority right now. What do I do?

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If you aren't important to him now, you won't be in the future either ... break up before it's too late.
---wivv on 5/23/12

wivv, Praise God for you. That is exactly the point. Most people do not change when they are married. Being in a relationship gives you valuable insight to how the person really is before you say "I do" and it is up to decide whether or not you can live with the other persons irritations. You have to do what you think is right but if it was me - I would ask God in prayer and then take the next bus out of there. Life is too short to want to be with someone who does not have time for you. Your life partner should be like Jesus (who loves and wants to be with you all the time).
---The_Believer on 3/29/12

Your "ex" is an 'ex' for a reason. If he's too busy for you now, he'll be too busy for you later. Just "write him off the books" and move on.
---wivv on 3/22/12

That's my point.
---Cluny on 3/21/12

Thanks for clearing things up.

I was once in a Bible study group and mentioned the word WHOLE.

The Bible study leader ask if I was into the HOLISTIC healing bit. Which runs contrary to the Bible. Not sure what he meant. Did I say something bad?

Anyway, ever since that incident, I've be careful about my use of the word WHOLE.
---Sag on 3/22/12

\\Please define what you mean by the word WHOLE.\\

Good question. Happy to do so.

There's a children's book called THE MISSING PIECE in which a disk-shaped character with a slice missing tries to find what he needs to make himself a perfect round.

When he finally finds it, he rolls out of control until he crashes and breaks apart.

Too many people are looking for marriage to make them complete. If they are not happy with themselves, they won't be happy with a spouse, either.

That's my point.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/21/12


There is a meme I have heard going around the internet: "Don't make someone your priority if you're only their option".

In a marriage, each party gives all of themselves to the other. If one party is willing to do this, but the other is not, problems will ensue.

I suspect this is what Cluny meant by "whole people" - you must give all of yourself, not just a small part.
---StrongAxe on 3/21/12

Marriage will only work between two WHOLE people, and then it's difficult enough.
---Cluny on 3/20/12

Please define what you mean by the word WHOLE.

Many of us have been praying to be made WHOLE. Yet, there are some things that just don't change in people. My guess is that GOD wants us to remain that way.

For Example, we'll always be "Sinners" no matter how much we Pray, Repent, etc.

Nobody, except Jesus Christ, will ever be 100% WHOLE or Perfect!

---Sag on 3/20/12

Cluny that is an interesting idea. Right off hand I would say no I don't agree since its a very different view of the situation. However,I will have to check it out with the Bible to see how it applies in a case like this. I think it warrants more thought. God Bless
---Darlene_1 on 3/20/12

\\This is a very self centered person and is bad boyfriend material,he's totally selfish. Forget him and go to God in prayer for the true person God has for you.\\

This person may be God's plan for Ash--but maybe this is not God's TIME for them to be together.

There is that as well.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/20/12

If you aren't an important priority right now he doesn't really care about you or want a relationship with you. What you do is take the hint and drop him completely. Don't wait for a man to make time for you or decide now is the time he wants to be with you. A person who truly cares for someone would want to be with them no matter what else is going on in their life. This is a very self centered person and is bad boyfriend material,he's totally selfish. Forget him and go to God in prayer for the true person God has for you. Immerse yourself in loving and serving God. The man doesn't know how to treat a girlfriend,forget him. Get in church,meet new people,read your Bible daily,trust God.
---Darlene_1 on 3/20/12

What kind of ex- is he? Ex-boyfriend, ex-fiance, or ex-husband?

Something about men: they almost always identify their masculinity and even self with their career.

Women do not do this so much.

Now, if you want to give him time to get established so he can help provide for you better should you marry, you will know what you should do.

OTOH, if you don't want to be merely an option for someone else, then get on with your own life.

Hint--Marriage will only work between two WHOLE people, and then it's difficult enough.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/20/12

We can make someone an idol, and find out the person does not know how to love us. But we can be with God, instead, and have His honey (c:

"with honey from the rock I would have satisfied you," God says in Psalm 81:16.

And be Jesus' honey > "'Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.'" (Matthew 11:28-29)

If you want a special relationship, do what Mary did > Luke 10:38-42 > God bless you, beauty for ashes (c:
---willie_c: on 3/20/12

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