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Took A Vow Of Celibacy

After some abuse, I promised God I would never get married. It was to protect me from any future hurt, but now, years later, I totally regret it. Does God ever release someone form a vow of celibacy?

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Hello,excellant post! follower of Christ 4/6/12....really well written & thankyou! we are a huge family,welcome! Love of Jesus! ELENA.
---ELENA on 4/6/12

Imperfect people make vows and break them. Vows require human will power some have will power to keep vow celibacy. Others keep celibacy because they have little or no sexual urges. Imperfect people say and do things when they are experiencing emotional turmoil. No man or women on this earth who is perfect. Apostle Peter broke his vow. It is not God who will release you from speaking in anger and hurt. It is you! Release yourself from punishment you have inflicted upon yourself and rejoice that God has mercy. Seek Gods promises not your own. Your vow of celibacy is released when you marry.

~humble follower of the Rock and lover of The Eternals truth (KJV) Matt 16:18, Corin 10:4, 2 Thess 2:10 1 Pet 2:21
---Follower_of_Christ on 4/6/12

If you take a vow of celibacy because you were hurt, and now regret the vow . . . because you feel this has hurt you . . . may be you are acting too much because of what hurts . . . instead of first being with God in His peace and discovering what He does with you.

I would say not to let wrong things decide what you do and where your attention goes.

"'Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.'" (Matthew 11:29)

Discover Christians more real than you are . . . so you have better love than how you can be with someone more your own maturity level, Bethany (c: What you're doing to yourself is possibly what a partner would do, too.
---willie_c: on 4/4/12

Zec_8:17 And let none of you imagine evil in your hearts against his neighbor, and love no false oath: for all these are things that I hate, saith the LORD.

Mat 5:34 But I say to you, Do not take an oath at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God,
Mat 5:35 or by the earth, for it is his footstool, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King.
Mat 5:36 And do not take an oath by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black.
Mat 5:37 Let what you say be simply 'Yes' or 'No', anything more than this comes from evil.

Your guilt is over evil not God. let go of the smokescreen that is keeping you from relationship with the Lord.
---aka on 4/4/12

Bethany, A-men. Then in prayer ask Jesus to revoke or dissolve your vow of celibacy.
---Eloy on 4/4/12

Yes, I am a Christian.
---Bethany on 4/3/12

Jed, A-men. I learn. When I trust someone and they betray me, I do not offer them a second opportunity to commit their evil against me again. I will not put my pearls in front of swine. There is an old saying: "Hurt me once, shame on you: hurt me twice, shame on me."
---Eloy on 4/3/12

Bethany, May I ask you, Are you a born-again Christian? Or are you into a religion? Swearing to God to remain single because you do not wnat to get hurt, is not a sin. And having thoughts about desiring a mate and to be married, is also not a sin, inspite of the vow you pledged to God. Let me suggest, first, if you are not a born-again Christian, to first go to Jesus in prayer and ask him to make you a real born-again Christian. Afterward, after you are saved and Jesus Almighty lives inside of you and your heart and life is converted, then ask him to revoke or dissolve your vow of celebacy. But think, would be happier being married? or would you be happier being single? or would it even matter, one way or the other?
---Eloy on 4/3/12

Bethany, Talk personally with the LORD about this. GOD is ONE Who always keeps HIS Vows and Promises, and HE expects us to do the same. But, the thing IS is that GOD knows your heart. HE knows why you made the vow in the first place. And the hurt that influenced you to make such a vow. GOD is very Kind and Merciful. HE will certainly forgive you of this vow and will set you free. But, just be sure to speak with HIM, ONE-on-one, about this, and respect and fear HIM as ONE Who takes Promises seriously. HE wants our "Yes" to be YES and our "No" to be NO. Nevertheless, HE will free you in this! :-)
---Gordon on 4/3/12

bethany, your afraid...and that is the sin. all the other stuff is a smokescreen.

talk with God about your fear. then, go from there.
---aka on 4/3/12

In response to... everyone. I took the vow to protect myself, not at all out of love for God. I took it, honestly, to kind of circumvent God's will. I figured He'd probably want me to get married one day, but I also knew that you're not allowed to break a vow to Him.

So I vowed that I wouldn't get married, meaning that He could never tell me to get married because that would now be a sin for me. So, in a way, the vow itself was a sin.

But heres the thing I know God forgives, but theres a difference between falling into sin and willfully sinning. If I marry someone, I will be willfully breaking this vow.
---Bethany on 4/2/12

Family,excellant posts!aka,willieC. & Sag... yes,if we were to be held to all the vows,promises,etc...wud not see glory!aka you are right! bro.willieC. ...agree best get satisfied' with Him first" ..1.God should be our main priority... I thank it is good that bro.Eloy has been so focus 'n serve the Lord. have a friend who really a neighbor he was a priest! Was not able to remain celebate... left the order. Last Sag..Your post "God will help" ... wonderfull...may God bless everyone! ELENA
---ELENA on 4/2/12

Eloy, I find it no surprise at all that you haven't been with a woman in 30 years.
---Jed on 4/2/12


you have a good heart.

---aka on 4/2/12

i take responsibility for the abuse that i allowed in my life. i can't protect myself by avoiding human contact. i can't protect myself from my own bad decisions. it is hard.
---aka on 4/1/12

We can't control what trials we'll encounter in this imperfect world. Nor can we always prevent other people from hurting us.

I've found this to be true in every church I've visited. People are imperfect and knowingly, or unknowingly, spew hurtful remarks.

We can DECIDE to learn from those difficult experiences and grow from it all. Easier said than done. However, it can make us a more effective witness for GOD.

GOD just might use YOU to witness to someone else who is going through the same difficult times.
---Sag on 4/2/12

Yes, but why would you regret not being hurt by another person because you remained single? Myself and two children were destroyed because of a woman, and so I remained single for over 30 years, and even up to this day there still have been no reparations made at all. But I have good news for all of you good saints that have been abused by sinners: God Almighty will have the last word for us, his own children, and not the sinners.
---Eloy on 4/2/12

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//Does God ever release someone form a vow of celibacy?//

if we were held to all the vows, promises, and oaths that we make as humans, we would never see the other side of glory. likewise, our performance (or lack thereof) of our vows do not determine our worth to God.

nevertheless, you did not make a vow of celibacy for/to God. you made a vow to never get hurt again, and in the end, since you regret it, did it really do what was intended?

i take responsibility for the abuse that i allowed in my life. i can't protect myself by avoiding human contact. i can't protect myself from my own bad decisions. it is hard.
---aka on 4/1/12

You made the vow because of what happened to you. And now possibly you are regretting . . . but maybe only because of what is happening to you, Bethany.

Possibly, like ones are sharing, you need to get with God more. I have made the mistake of trying to get comfort and fulfillment from a person. You're human, too. We can get more with God "and you will find rest for your souls." (in Matthew 11:29)

We can trust God about this. Get satisfied with Him, first, then see how we see things once we are communicating with Him and clear in His peace. He'll give us better than whatever we may feel we are missing (c:
---willie_c: on 4/1/12

Did you promise God not to get married for love of Him, or to protect yourself?

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 4/1/12

For once, I totally agree with Trish.
---Jed on 4/1/12

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I am not an expert, but I do know a similar story from the Gospels. Before Jesus was arrested, He told Peter that he would deny Him three times before the next morning. Peter promised he wouldn't do such a thing. Yet, he did. When the rooster crowed, he saw Jesus, and wept. The Lord forgave him, and after the Resurrection, told him to feed His sheep.

If you haven't already done so, I suggest you get some professional help with the past abuse. Also, find a mature believer, and ask her to mentor you in your faith. She should be able to strengthen your relationship with the Lord, and also further help you heal from the abuse.
---Trish on 4/1/12

I believe that GOD's plan is for EVERYONE to remain Celibate until marriage. Most of the people in the world seem to have lost sight of GOD's plan for EVERYONE. :<(

YOUR body, and all the Gifts / Blessings that flow from YOUR body, belong to GOD. That includes the Gift of Celibacy. :<)

I believe that your promise to GOD about "Never Getting Married" was actually a promise to "Keep Yourself PURE For Your Future Marriage Partner". GOD couldn't be happier that you've done just that! :<)

It sounds like GOD is now "Releasing" you into a Holy Matrimony relationship.

Pray that GOD would help you heal from any remaining wounds from the abuse.
---Sag on 4/1/12

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