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Spanking Teenagers Today

Is spanking right in this day and age, I have 3 kids and I am a widowed dad. I have 2 sons aged 17 and 13 and a daughter aged 9. I do believe very much in spanking but I would like some feedback about how other parents integrate spanking into today's society in regard to rearing their children.

Moderator - Your kids are too old for spankings.

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 ---graha7944 on 4/15/12
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Wow! Graha... yes,got to say I agree with you...I have only one good eye & having trouble...but,now I read Cluny response.... first one,I ever read him talk'n like that! I am shock'd.. sorry,you be alright trust 'n God.
---ELENA on 4/18/12

\\..aside from "cluny", who seems, out of everyone who responded, to have a perverted mind..\\

Too bad you don't recognize satire when you see it.

Christ is risen!
---Cluny on 4/18/12

Hello everyone,,well thankyou so much for the continued comments and advice,and jsut to let you all know,,i dealt with my daughter today,,by sending her ot bed 3 hours earlier than normal..and it seemed to work,,so thankyou once again and GOD bless you all
---graha7944 on 4/18/12

hello,family,well Graha..hope spell'correctly..we just lost here well respected leader 'n our community..he seem been most likely spanking teenage son..It got lethal...So,actually teens are way too big 'n rough for spanking! Some bigger than parents..Pray ask the Lord how best to communicate,be specific the holy spirit teach you,spiritually/read bible! counseling would not hurt...pastor or socialwrkr /perhaps after school projects! Sports, outdoor dad & son! Go fishing? don't give up! Best to you! Love of Jesus!
---ELENA on 4/18/12

I thankyou for your answers and responses and advice, and i will certainly follow the advice of those who have been gracious enough to post a respectable reply..aside from "cluny", who seems, out of everyone who responded, to have a perverted thankyou everyone and i will definitely try the non spanking ideas, thankyou,,,
---graha7944 on 4/17/12

I think your attention needs to be to your own example, and not to what to do about your children being wrong. Stay with good example, relating with them, drawing them to what is good.

And while you are being gentle and humble and helping them find out how to relate in relationships, deal with whatever problems there are as they come.

If they get pain for wrong things, they can learn to think that by punishing themselves after a pleasure sin, this can pay God off so they can do it, again. I don't think pain can teach them how to love.
---willie_c: on 4/17/12

The Moderator is right. You should use more appropriate modes of discipline, like grounding or barring from going outdoors for a period of time, or curtailing pleasurable activities, et cetera.
---Eloy on 4/16/12

Why is it if a spouse hits another, it's abuse, but if a parent hits a child, it's discipline?

Spanking adolescents, or those on the cusp of puberty, as your children are, is to train them to associate pain in a private area with sexual stimulation--in other words, to turn them into sado-masochistic perverts.

Now, whipping is another matter, as long as it's a new, freshly-oiled whip laid across their backs in clean even rhythmic strokes and a little blood wells up in the gashes. That should teach your rebellious sickies some decency. Is that the kind of feedback you want, playing into your fantasies?

Christ is risen!
---Cluny on 4/16/12

The woman who washed Jesus's feet had a heart of FLESH and understood the SENTIMENT of GENUINE love (she had 'tears of sorrow', not forced/artificial 'compassion').....God desires us to have "living water" baptism/consecration.

Ezekiel 36:26 "and give you a heart of flesh".

John 7:38 "Out of his heart shall flow rivers".

Romans 8:16 "the Spirit himself bearing witness".

Ephesians 3:16 "in the inner man".

1 John 5:8 "these three agree".

Be assured that God's Spirit agrees with your spirit of "living water" tears. He will see you through this, but since the human mind is fragile, it might be best to see a marriage counselor for CLOSURE.
---more_excellent_way on 4/16/12

Your children are to old for spankings,however if sone correctly there is nothing wrong with spankings. I have a 3 1/2 yr old a 7 1/2 yr old & an 11 yr old. My younger children if they get out of line & do not listen I use spankings as a last result.They do work.however there is an age limit & that is when they're over 10.
---Candice on 4/16/12

Spanking is an archaic, sloppy, and wreckless way of disciplining children.

Humanity resents/hates itself and spanking has always been seen as an acceptable recreation/activity/treatment of each other.

At any of those ages you mentioned, ALL of your children are beyond the age limit for spanking as traditional discipline.

The most important consideration is why you, after so many years, desire to be violent. Are you taking your frustrations out on your children?. Do you long for an intimate bond with your wife and think that "spanking" will fulfill that familial need?. Maybe a counselor could help you deal more gently and peacefully with your loss.
---more_excellent_way on 4/16/12

I must agree with the Moderator.

Spanking is for small (5 yr old and less) children. Your children are way too old, even your daughter.

Using spanking on older children makes them MORE rebellious not less.

Many cultures consider your two sons adult aged. As adults, your two sons have the right to make decisions for themselves and they may not agree with your values.

Think of your children as young adults trying to make decisions for themselves without all the facts. Helping them with the facts is your job. Getting them to make right decisions is becoming less your job and more God's.
---Mark_Eaton on 4/16/12

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