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Is it okay for a christian husband to go to a bar by himself? My husband bought a harley and likes to go on rides in the evening. He has started to stop at a bar on the way home. We minister together in prisons and are in leadership. I told him it is wrong for him to do this and he became angry.

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Hello,This ELENA...while young yes,can truthfully,tell you the one person who always kept his wits & respect and really influencial gett'm me bk to church lived upstate New York that time.he was a catholic priest who of all things witness'for Jesus...in a bar! He never ask for a dime,he wud sit and he would pray & counsel people all kinds of people,they would even during the day cut off jukebox and the owner of the restaurant had a real love & respect for this brother! I started giving $ to his parish,truly believe God used him miraculously! Get many of us back to church! He was a really spiritual brother,he did not drink alcohol..coffee or juice & his talk was only "what jesus can do in your life!"
---ELENA on 5/18/12


Viv Make arrangements with a babysitter,if you have children,to sit on short notice,then get yourself all dolled up and ride behind your husband. Where ever he goes in the evening you go too. He probably won't have quite so strong an urge to ride every night when he knows he can't go alone. If he won't let you go with him,get in the car and follow him. One time our really good friends were visiting us and the men thought how funny to go off without us so my husband took the car key. After they left I hotwired the car and we left too making it a point to stay away long enough for them to get back. Boy were they surprised,we all had a good laugh and everything was fine. We usually went everywhere with them and we knew it was a joke.
---Darlene_1 on 5/11/12


"for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God." (James 1:20)

The problem is deeper. You need to give yourself to God, about this, and do what He has you doing. It is in question that he is qualified to be a leader > "nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3) So, he needs to be evaluated, not kept a secret. And if he tries to lord it over you to stop being evaluated, this is your proof. Leaders need to be examples.
---willie_c: on 5/11/12


1 Peter3:1 says that I'd the husband does not believe the Word, he will be won over without a word from the wife.
---Trish on 5/11/12


Viv: His change of lifestyle does not look positive to someone reading what you have written. You must pray and use godly wisdom. May the good Lord help you out.
---Adetunji on 5/11/12




KarenD:

It should depend on whether he leaves the bar drunk or sober. The Bible always condemns drunkeness, but sometimes recommends wine and strong drink.

Jesus appealed to the masses because he was human as the rest of us. He drank wine. This DID damage his reputation - but only to self-righteous Pharisees.

Many say they don't trust perfect people (who never curse or drink or show human failings), because they MUST have failings, so their perfection must be a facade, so they aren't honest.

Preachers who demonstrate human traits everyone else shares are much more believable by their audience. (I'm not saying they should sin - but the idea "all drinking is sin" comes from the Abolitioninsts, not the Bible).
---StrongAxe on 5/10/12


//I do not believe it is a wife's job to tell her husband that it is wrong. That is the Holy Spirit's job.//

the Holy Spirit's works through people like a wife. However, it should be handled in a prudent matter.

//BTW, Viv, is this YOUR husband or another woman's husband?//

"My husband bought a harley and likes to go on rides in the evening. He has started to stop at a bar on the way home. "

Viv, it sounds like the start of a problem. Just because he ministers and is in leadership does not mean he is living it himself. the fact that he became angry is a big clue.
---aka on 5/10/12


\\Problem with this is that WHEN the husband meets one of the ex-felons to whom he has ministered in prison in that bar, his Christian witness is shot.\\

Is it?

And not all people in prisons are felons.

Christ is risen!
---Cluny on 5/10/12


Problem with this is that WHEN the husband meets one of the ex-felons to whom he has ministered in prison in that bar, his Christian witness is shot. Trish's notion that a wife isn't supposed to tell her husband when something he is doing is wrong is just not right. A husband and wife need to help each other out when one is straying. Cluny is single and his denomination has no doctrine against drinking alcohol so nobody cares if he goes to bars.
---KarenD on 5/10/12


So why don't you go with him?

I know a lot of couples who do that. It would be a good opportunity to expand your ministry
---Nurserobert on 5/10/12




BTW, Viv, is this YOUR husband or another woman's husband?

If it's not your husband, MYOB.

Christ is risen!
---Cluny on 5/10/12


This sounds like a question asked here before about a husband going to the bars with his friends without his wife.

For all you know your husband is just drinking soda or Arizona tea. That's what I usually get at a bar.

However, this sounds ultimately like a problem with the marriage that he wants to go places without you.

Christ is risen!
---Cluny on 5/10/12


Usually if someone is going to a bar alone, it is a sign of a problem. It's not that it's not okay, it's that it is unhealthy.

However, I do not believe it is a wife's job to tell her husband that it is wrong. That is the Holy Spirit's job. Pray for your husband, and see what God can do.
---Trish on 5/10/12


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