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Can I Date A Non-Christian

I am turning 20 this year. Will dating someone (not a Christian but he's open to listen to God's Word) at my age prevent me from serving God?

Moderator - Christians don't date non-Christians unless you want to risk becoming divorced and/or losing your faith. Of course Christians date to move toward marriage.

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 ---Ann on 6/12/12
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"The Encounter" film makes it plain that the non-believer has to come to understand Jesus on their own terms - love God unconditionally
The film also shows that the believer must always love Jesus more than any person
I married a man I thought was Christian but was not. I was so miserable that I left after 13 years when our son was 5
Please pray and heed God - His Word, in the Bible and directly to your heart
Of course you'll continue to pray and love this man because he is God's creation. Let's pray that he becomes a Christian - not due to wanting to wed you but through a loving personal relationship with Jesus
Ruth Bell Graham prayed over 3 young men before meeting, then marrying Billy Graham - a good model to follow
---Fleur on 8/3/12


His reaction to the break up is not your responsibility. Your responsibility is to obey the Lord, and trust Him for your soon-to-be-ex's reaction to the break-up.

If you truly trust the Lord, you will turn your boyfriend over to the Lord, and pray for him. Give the Lord the job for being concerned for him. He can handle the job.
---Trish on 6/16/12


I know I have to let go of him. And I'm willing to do it. But what I'm worrying about right now is him. I'm afraid that he might get very miserable and will end up hating God for this. I can bear the pain that this will bring to me. The problem is I care so much about him that I know that I can't bear to see him in deep pain and misery when i leave him.
---Ann on 6/16/12


How can it possibly be a good thing that two people who care for each other must not proceed together through life because of the interpretation by some of a piece of scripture?

Think again before trashing a relationship that clearly means much to you and your friend.
---atheist on 6/14/12

Why indeed, who would/could argue against farseeing logic, of a blind man.

Most assuredly not the proven historical facts and multiple witness provided openly by prophets of the "only" GOD.

One would have to embrace our pet atheist has negated the scripture he's never read,researched..... apparently afraid of, will not stand his up to his overwhelming lacafacts. Being equally fearful of truth,facts and lazy.
---trav on 6/15/12


Deu 21:11 And seest among the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a desire unto her, that thou wouldest have her to thy wife,... thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife.
2Co 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
Different people, different covenants, different commands...Same God
---micha9344 on 6/15/12




atheist: I understand it will sound strange, but I'll do my best to explain. It may take two posts.....

I will assume what the moderator said, and assume the two people are to get married

To have a relationship, two people have to have a number of 'base' things that are the same, one which you case base that relationship.

All relationships need to have a base.

In the case of Christians, the base is our belief in God. So we can have friends who are not Christians, but for it to go deeper, there has to be a base
---Peter on 6/15/12


There is nothing is the Bible that says a believer should not mary a non-believer.
There are too many devout jews** who married Gentiles for that to be true:

Then there is this scripture:
Deuteronomy 21:10 When thou goest forth to war against thine enemies, and the LORD thy God hath delivered them into thine hands, and thou hast taken them captive,

Deuteronomy 21:11 And seest among the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a desire unto her, that thou wouldest have her to thy wife,... thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife.

If it was acceptable to the devout Jews** why is it not acceptable for devout christians?
---francis on 6/15/12


Atheist: I understand that the separation of believers from unbelievers in a dating/marriage relationship seems unreasonable to you. Unfortunately, Scripture says that believers should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Also, it says that we are to train up our children according to the Scriptures. A marriage with an unbeliever creates a conflict in child rearing. Also, I have heard of unbelieving husbands insisting that their wives not attend church, and not allowing the children to attend church.
---Trish on 6/15/12


It is sad enough that people use their religion and gods to set themselves from one another,---sometimes to the point of killing and war.

How can it possibly be a good thing that two people who care for each other must not proceed together through life because of the interpretation by some of a piece of scripture?

Think again before trashing a relationship that clearly means much to you and your friend.
---atheist on 6/14/12


Hi, Ann (c: So . . . he's in love with you, but not in love with Jesus? What if you become more like Jesus?
---willie_c: on 6/14/12




Thank you for your responses. I (quite) expected what I would hear.

I know I have to let go. But it's very hard. We've been together for almost 2years now and I can say that he's really head over heels in love with me. And one more thing, our families know about us.

And one more thing, I don't want him to hate God if I would just give the reason that I can't date him because he's not like me. 'Cause you see, if that's the reason I'm going to tell on why I should leave him, it would be so unfair on his part.
---Ann on 6/14/12


Since 1967 I've been doing both premarital and marital counseling and only ONCE in all the cases I've been involved with, have I seen a Christian and non-Christian marriage work. (This one couple had no children at the time and had only been married a couple of years, so what there situation is now, I don't know.) In the other cases the Christian puts there beliefs on "hold" and in most cases end up getting a divorce. Those really hurt are the children who usually reject any religion. Since you are just turning 20 and have plenty of time, let him become a Christian first, then talk about dating. By the way, (to answer your question), your ability of serve God will be very limited.
---wivv on 6/13/12


The moderator is only partially right. Consider that dating was not even a fathomable custom to the writers of scripture. So dating is not even addressed

If your aim is marriage, then you should date only believers because you should not marry an unbeliever. You don't want to get into an "accidental" marriage where you are unequally yoked

BUT,

if your goal is simply to date, with no plans of marriage, then there is nothing in scriprue which says it is wrong.

Even dating a believer can keep you from serving God. But it doesn't have to.
---James_L on 6/13/12


Be safe, date Christians. I sound like an ad for a TV commercial. But it's true, join with Christians and share a lot in common.
---Eloy on 6/12/12


I understand your rationale, and I am sure that you hope your example of Christ will eventually bring him to faith, but honestly things seldom work out that way. Keep praying for a Believer. The person you are considering now might meet a few of your criteria, but obviously not all.
---Richard on 6/12/12


Of course he's open to hear,as long as he has a chance at that Christian body of yours. Once he gets what he wants, I doubt that you'll be open to hear anymore...
---J.Cs_Youth on 6/12/12


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The Moderator is right. The Bible says that believers are not to be unevenly yoked with unbelievers.
---Trish on 6/12/12


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