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47 And Still Single

I was spending almost all my life to asking God for my soul mate, but He never answered me till now. Now I'm going on 47, do I still have chance to get my soul mate? I think I started boring to wait His answer, so now I'm asking Him to encourage me to learn to be alone in rest of my life ...sad:(

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Many people believe that God is in complete control of their lives at all times when He's not. There is a thing called "Free Will" that trumps the theory of predestination every time.

Everyday you have a choice to please God or not to please God. The choice is yours. God is not up there making these choices for us.

If you choose to be married that is your choice. If you don't find someone to marry that is also your choice.

Stop asking God to send you a mate and start asking God to help you become the person that He wants you to be. If you do that you will become more attractive to someone who is asking God for the same thing. Rev. Tom Zegan CCHt.
---Tom_Zegan_CCHt. on 10/23/12


To some respect you sound like me when I talk to Jesus, Except, I am not looking looking for a husband. I would wait on God even if it meant the rest of my life, especially, when it comes to marriage blissfulness. You don't know what hell is, if you pick the wrong person to marry.
---pat on 10/18/12


Rena, there is many woman and man who marry outside the will of God. They are in a hurry, they are in need of a helper, they don't want to be alone, or they just need a man, and God permits this to happen.
Where ever you find youself right now, it is the will of God. If God wanted you to have someone at twenty or thirty He would have put someone in your path.
You ever notice that many Christians give thanks to God for the good husband they got, while others don't give thanks for who they got. God wants us to thank Him in everything. Sometimes tribulations increases our faith, and makes us stronger Christians. God main concern is our eternal future.
---Mark_V. on 10/10/12


Rina God is faithful listen to him in the written word.

Hebrews 11:6 But without faith it is impossible to please him... and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.

Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

Matthew 9:29 "... saying, According to your faith be it unto you".

1 Thessalonians 5:18 In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

John 9:31 "... but if any man be a worshipper of God, and doeth his will, him he heareth."

John 11:22 But I know, that even now, whatsoever thou wilt ask of God, God will give it thee.
---Follower_of_Christ on 10/8/12


Follower, you seem to suggest with the passages you gave that God will answer prayer every time you pray. But what you forget is the word faith. All those who have faith as Jesus quotes, do the will of God. And they know that when they pray. If they pray for something, they will get what they pray if their prayer includes the will of God.
We know it does because having faith is believing in the will of God. If it is God's will you will receive what you ask, otherwise you don't. That is what having even the smallest faith as a mustered seed means (Matt. 17:20).
---Mark_V. on 10/8/12




\\If you do you are sick and you are not practicing anything other than some new-age voodoo clunyism religion.
---Follower_of_Christ on 10/3/12\\

Better than the satanic followerofchristism religion.

Now, FoC, tell me EXACTLY what I've said that's new age--or apologize.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 10/7/12


aka:

Thanks! I'm currently without 24/7 internet access, so my time on these blogs has been somewhat more sporadic in recent months. I've noticed Eloy also seems to have abruptly stopped posting in recent months.
---StrongAxe on 10/5/12


Rina, listen to God who tells you he will answer your prayers when you do his will.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

Matthew 21:22 And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.

Hebrews 11:6 But without faith it is impossible to please him... and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.

While your waiting for God to answer your prayer if you truly want a mate then study and be prepared now about how to be a good wife. 1 Peter 3 and proverbs 31. then enjoy your life doing things you like to do to find someone compatible.
---Follower_of_Christ on 10/4/12

AMEN
---jj_in_USA on 10/5/12


strongaxe, good to see you back along with rod4him and even sinless haz27.

you are addressing an industrial strength poopsey there...have fun!
---aka on 10/4/12


Follower_of_Christ:

I am an adult, and able to grasp simple (not simpleton) things. While you may not have ACTUALLY claimed you were quoting Cluny, is such an assumption false? If so, why did you use the term "cluny-religion"? As far as having a weak argument (only one 'e'), I was not commenting on things I inferred from what you wrote, but based on things you ACTUALLY wrote - I quoted them, and then addressed them.

You cricitize my post for not quoting scripture - yet your own post didn't do so either - pot, kettle, black.

Finally, I don't care that that idea isn't in scripture. I never claimed it was, and neither did Cluny. You are the only one who mentioning it (and then blaming others for believing it).
---StrongAxe on 10/4/12




Rina, listen to God who tells you he will answer your prayers when you do his will.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

Matthew 21:22 And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.

Hebrews 11:6 But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.

While your waiting for God to answer your prayer if you truly want a mate then study and be prepared now about how to be a good wife. 1 Peter 3 and proverbs 31. then enjoy your life doing things you like to do to find someone compatible.
---Follower_of_Christ on 10/4/12



Where do you get this stuff? Cluny never said anything like that. This is known as a straw man argument. Saying someone is sick if they ever suggest something is totally meaningless if they never did, in fact, ever suggest such a thing in the first place.


honestly are you an adult or a child?? or are you unable to grasp the meaning of simpleton things? I never made a claim I was ever quoting cluny and it is amusing you suggested. making you the person who has the weak arguement not I, and again more wordy words and opinion and not one word from holy scripture that states just pray and take no action. You will have trouble locating that idea because it is not found in holy scripture.
---Follower_of_Christ on 10/4/12


//God created man and women to be together // foc

true

//anything less is from Satan// foc

rina, read mattew 19:10-12. and , jesus is not of satan.
---aka on 10/4/12


Follower_of_Christ:

You said: Does your cluny-religion tell them to just pray that God will keep them healthy and if God doesn't answer their prayer for better health while they continue to keep eating wrong never exercising (cuz you told them to just pray) it was just Gods will they became sicker or died?? If you do you are sick and you are not practicing anything other than some new-age voodoo clunyism religion.

Where do you get this stuff? Cluny never said anything like that. This is known as a straw man argument. Saying someone is sick if they ever suggest something is totally meaningless if they never did, in fact, ever suggest such a thing in the first place.
---StrongAxe on 10/4/12


Cluny...I am still laughing at FofC who obviously thinks you are some kind of "unorthodox" minister.
---KarenD on 10/4/12


If someone is sick with certain heart conditions and they are told by a Doctor that eating fried food and fatty food like bacon, pork, and salami for example would hurt their recovery and future health and they must start to excerise. Does your cluny-religion tell them to just pray that God will keep them healthy and if God doesn't answer their prayer for better health while they continue to keep eating wrong never exercising (cuz you told them to just pray) it was just Gods will they became sicker or died?? If you do you are sick and you are not practicing anything other than some new-age voodoo clunyism religion.
---Follower_of_Christ on 10/3/12


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FoC, I marvel that you know what God's will is for people that you have not even met and wouldn't even know if you saw them on the street.


I marvel more that you have implied that by instructing people to take action you believe I am claiming I know Gods will!! cluny are you hitting the bottle again!!

From scripture show me where you pray to God then do absolutely nothing and wait around endlessly for him to personally answer you. So if someone is unemployed and requires financial assistance do you instruct them to just sit around and pray all day for money to fall from the sky to pay their mortgage and put food on the table!! you practice voodoo and teach it by not telling people to take action and just pray.
---Follower_of_Christ on 10/3/12


\\Rina, Gods will is not that you pray, sit around, do nothing as it appears most are suggesting here with their misunderstanding of Gods will.\\

FoC, I marvel that you know what God's will is for people that you have not even met and wouldn't even know if you saw them on the street.

How do you bear this knowledge?

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 10/3/12


The word that drives 1 cor. 7:8-9 is better. We must be careful about putting our beliefs off on others which is what Paul initially did. He appears to be fine with his singleness and encouraged others to remain as he. In the final analysis he had to admit that marriage is the better alternative for those who desire intimacy and relationship because of the struggles that go along with being single.
---pg1 on 10/3/12


"There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the LORD, that she may be holy (strive to be holy and pure from hence forward) both in body and in spirit..." I CORINTHIANS 7:34a
---Gordon on 10/2/12


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Follower_of_Christ the BIBLE says in I Corinthians 7:8-9

"I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn."

Nothing here about MUST MARRY!!!!!
---KarenD on 10/2/12


Rina, Gods will is not that you pray, sit around, do nothing as it appears most are suggesting here with their misunderstanding of Gods will. Prayer has always required action God created man and women to be together anything less is from Satan, and it is Satans will you are following if you give up on your desire to have a mate! Do not let down on your prayer for a mate, pray and get busy with action (going out socially through hobbies etc) to allow God to answer you. problem with most women today is they have no patience marrying first man who pays attention to them or pursue the wrong man until they get him, it would be much better to find the right mate at 50, then to have spent 25 years with the wrong one..
---Follower_of_Christ on 10/2/12


Companionship is a need and God given desire. After God created Adam He said that it was not good for him to be alone. Singleness will be a struggle for most unless God removes the desire for companionship and helps you by his grace to be content with being alone.
---pg1 on 10/2/12


Rina...Waiting upon God is sometimes very hard. I know people who have been married for the first time in their 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s. It would be nice if you would join in our conversation here. You might listen to Cluny as he is a minister who is also single. Also, ask for God's will in this instead of your own will.
---KarenD on 10/1/12


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Family,it is just beautifull, the way everyone here comments about marriage,and agree with bro.Cluny Trish, and others.
Trish I think you said it best God promised give us our needs. All these years alone,not want to every get married again. I had more problema married.,and I don't have the patience,now, I get lonely but,I can real with loneliness,marrige takes two people who want to both be part of it together.Many of you make very good points on these bloggs,the way marriage should go. Love of JESUS
---ELENA on 10/1/12


rina, please read the blog "Husband's secret females" and see how marriage will NOT make you a complete person or bring you automatic happiness.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 10/1/12


Rina,
Jed is right. I prayed for a husband for years and God showed me exactly who he had for me. I rejected God's choice even though I knew I loved him. Now he is married to someone else. I spent years blaming God for my singleness but I finally had to accept that it was my own fault. If I had accepted God's choice and obeyed the Lord I would be married. Divine Intervention is not the norm. If we are going to be in God's will most times it will require faith and action on our part. So be open to His movement and obey if He tells you to act. Regret is a terrible thing!
---pg1 on 10/1/12


Rina: I pray for you that God shall speak or contact you in the way you will understand clearly without doubts on this issue in Jesus' name. I pray God will make any that mock or jest you to confess and ask for forgiveness. We are not always able to explain all happening to us in life. Just hold on to God(remember Abraham & Sarah).
---Adetunji on 10/1/12


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Rina, I don't think you should blame the fact that you don't have a mate on God. Perhaps there have been suitable companions in your life that you have overlooks or perhaps you have been too picky? Or perhaps you haven't taken the initiative to put forth the effort in finding a mate? You know, many people will join social groups, sports teams, activity groups, church groups, etc. for the opportunities to meet new people, and possibly a mate. Have you tried those things? God is not just going to plop a man in your lap. Is there something about yourself like your personality or something that would cause men not to be attracted to you, because that could be something you need to work on.
---Jed on 9/30/12


\\Why would you ask in prayer to be encouraged to be alone if that is not what you want?\\

FoC, the purpose of prayer is not to get what we want, but to put our will in tune with God and find out what HE wants for us.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 10/1/12


Why would you ask in prayer to be encouraged to be alone if that is not what you want? The purpose of prayer is not that you will always get exactly what you want but that you will go out and act in faith that you already have what you are asking for!!! too many believe all they have to do is pray for something, sit back and wait, (essentially doing nothing!!) and then if they don't get what they asked for (I guess expecting it will fall out of the sky) it was not Gods will which is a cop out for doing nothing and blaming it on God and his supposed "will" for your life.

if you didn't receive what you were asking for you were not taking action. prayer requires action on your part.
---Follower_of_Christ on 9/30/12


rina, have you not seen how many women on this site are UNhappily married and/or complain about their husbands?

If you're looking for marriage to make you happy and complete, you've got it backwards.

Marriage works ONLY between two complete people, and God knows (not being profane here) it's difficult even then.

As far as being alone for the rest of your life, many women die alone as widows. Have you thought of that?

What you should be praying for is that God will lead you always according to His will--and that you will have the faith to accept it.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 9/30/12


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First of all, God did answer your prayer. He answered you with either a "Not yet," or a "No."

What I have learned in my life is that I used to pray wrong. After my divorce, I asked God for another relationship, so I wouldn't be alone. I've since learned I prayed the wrong prayer. I learned to pray for God's will. If it is His will, He'll allow me another relationship. Since praying that prayer I've become extremely content to be alone. After my divorce, I never dreamed I'd be content alone.

God doesn't promise us soul mates. He promises to meet ALL of our needs.
---Trish on 9/30/12


Rena,You are like so many others who believe that God is in the "lonely hearts"business.
I have a friend who is 64 and still waiting, this is no more than superstition,if you want a mate go out and find one!
Do some home work.Right here on CN there are Christian singles!
---1st_cliff on 9/30/12


You haven't broken the record. I'm 65 and still single, and I know a lady who was a nurse and never got married and she's in her eighties. And she is sweet. She, I think, would be a fine lady to share with in marriage. I think ladies who have grown in Jesus all their lives can be much more sweet and sensitive and beautiful than young beauty-queen greenies!

Soul mate to me means how we can be with Jesus. We can be deeper with Him than with any human > "But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him." (1 Corinthians 6:17) And as I get more with God in His love, I am finding myself in soul mate sharing with more and more other people who are living in this love (Romans 5:5).

So . . . God bless you (c:
---willie_c: on 9/30/12


rina, have you not seen how many women on these blogs complain about their husbands and marriages and how unhappy they are?

If you are looking for another person to make you complete and happy, you've got it backwards. Marriage works only with two whole, happy, people who are complete in themselves with Christ. Otherwise, you are just multiplying unhappiness and incompleteness by two.

There are many things worse than being unmarried. Most of them are being married to the wrong person.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 9/30/12


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