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My husband is pastor. We are going through divorce as a result of him committing adultery with another woman in our congregation. Few months later I had an affair. I stopped affair and repented. Do I need to ask my husband - soon to be ex for forgiveness? ( our divorce is final in December )

Moderator - Why not both repent and stop the divorce?

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 ---Pellerin on 10/31/12
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Gordon, no problem, I have done the same thing myself, answered the wrong person. I have even put the post on the wrong blog. Pat understood very well you did not mean her. peace
---Mark_V. on 11/24/12


Thank you, Mark V. :-) I just caught my error. You correctly discerned that I meant to address "Pellerine" and not "Pat". -----Sorry, Pat. You did nothing of the sort! :-)
---Gordon on 11/23/12


People people people... give the moderator a gold star, God is holy, but prefers mercy... and mercy applied to the fallen... check that you dont have a beam in your eye before you cast the first stone Hoe 6:6, Mat 9:13...
---DannyG on 11/9/12


Like Cluny, I agree with the moderator. Stop the sexual sinning and repent. Make God number one in your life's. Stop seeking your own pleasures, they only bring consquences that are very terrible just look at the life of David, and see what consquences he went through. If your husband is still a pastor, he should remove himself from pastoring any Church.
---Mark_V. on 11/8/12


To MarkV>>>I just couldn't figure that out. Thanks. You see, I am of the loyal type.
---pat on 11/5/12




Pat, I believe Gordon just make a simple mistake by writing your name instead of
"Pellerine" His advice was good, just to the wrong person. He must have just finished reading your answer and remembered your name first instead of the person who posted. Your answer to the blogger was also right on. Peace
---Mark_V. on 11/5/12


Adultery is not an option for Christians. However, I have found that people do what THEY want to do a lot. Not a sign of a Christian.
---KarenD on 11/1/12

True, but many Christians actually DO commit Adultery without even being aware of it. I don't know if they're in "Denial", or just "Ignorant", about what the Bible says.

How you ask? Because of marriages where a "Previous" Marriage, and Divorce, are involved. Jesus says so in the Bible.

Some churches have MOST of their members involved in: Affairs, Divorce, Remarriage, etc.

Paul sure knew what he was saying when he wrote that there IS "Sexual Immorality Among YOU". The Christian church.
---Sag on 11/2/12


Gordon, where does Pat say anything which makes you think that she committed adultery?
---Rita_H on 11/2/12


I was not aware that I did anything!
---pat on 11/1/12


Beloved, got to agree with our Moderator and Cluny,on this one. Seems like you two still have a probably, Love story to mend, you have a history,as we say,maybe you can repair,forgive and go on as a couple married, got some 'scars but,sounds like it's workable,I wish you every happiness! Hey,let us know! I love happy endings,smile, ELENA.
---ELENA on 11/1/12




Pat, Do you truly recognize that what you did (Adultery) was wrong and a sin? Do you really want to follow GOD? If so, then, YES, you should acknowledge your sin before GOD and then, before, your husband, regardless of whether you two divorce or not. Running from seeking forgiveness will only HURT YOU and your standing with GOD and man. Ask your husband for forgiveness, and whether he forgives you OR NOT, will not matter. It will be YOU doing what is right before GOD. And, then, you repent and "sin no more".
---Gordon on 11/1/12


Mark 11:25

Hi, Pellerin . . . God bless you! Jesus is the Lord of all, and He came to bless us with correction and to mature in God's love. So, if you repented, good. Make sure you really change from whatever had you do that. And your relationship with your husband is unique, so you two can discover with God what to do better. God bless you to.

In case this can help > you can be his example by asking his forgiveness, in order to encourage him to join you in doing better. Have you fed on 1 Peter 3:1-4? Be pleasing to God in His love's "incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." (in 1 Peter 3:4)

Trust in Jesus, if you haven't, so you can do this.
---willie_c: on 11/1/12


\\Well, I just flat don't understamd! The God that I serve is a holy God. He expects His people to be holy as He is holy. I suspect these two people do not really belong to God.\\

You don't understand that people are still sinners?

Of course, I realize that YOU have never sinned yourself.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/1/12


AMEN PAT!!!!! Temptation is very recognizable. Adultery is not an option for Christians. However, I have found that people do what THEY want to do a lot. Not a sign of a Christian.
---KarenD on 11/1/12


Well, I just flat don't understamd! The God that I serve is a holy God. He expects His people to be holy as He is holy. I suspect these two people do not really belong to God. Many are called only a few are chosen. You know the Scripture. And, not only that, God is powerful. You can see His power in the storms. If God really loves you, He can keep you from such goings ons.
---pat on 10/31/12


I think the moderator hit the nail right on the head.
---Jed on 10/31/12


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Pellerin...Is your husband still a pastor?
---KarenD on 10/31/12


I agree with the Moderator.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 10/31/12


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