Son Has Been Deceived
My daughter-in-Law deceived our son, by giving impression she's a Christian. We now know that she's extremely controlling, manipulative, physically abusive, uses God's Name in vain, belittle my son when he reads his Bible and refuses to go to Church. Her act was very convincing. She's destroying my son! What should he do?
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---kayki on 11/3/12
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you do nothing!!!
let me repeat that for emphasis you do nothing!!!
because you are not married to your son.
---Follower_of_Christ on 11/9/12|
I would suggest that your son follows God no matter what his wife does. Remember, as the head of the house your son takes all of the spiritual responsibility. No matter what she does he needs to focus so God can continue to show mercy and blessing to his home. If she does not go to Church, he makes sure he goes to Church. Whatever she does wrong should no effect what he does in the name of the Lord. God will deal with her. Type in "OnePlace" and in your search bar and look up "Tony Evans" podcast and look in months September and October. The "Kingdom Family" series I believe will be helpful.
---MD on 11/9/12|
hello' Karen.have had 2 mother - n - laws. They the husbands both deceased. Smile..now I am not nervous no more, excellant cook! Ha ha! Last nite made my first homemade pizza. Now I really miss the last one. I had been crying for at least 12 years..thankyou.
---ELENA on 11/8/12|
Thank God I never had trouble with mother in laws.God bless all.
---ELENA on 11/8/12
Elena....How many mothers in laws have you had?
---KarenD on 11/8/12|
\\So many of you are so ready to judge Kayki's daughter in law without even hearing from her or her son.\\
It's not the daughter-in-law. It's kayki who has revealed so much about herself.
I'd find it interesting to hear both from kayki's on and his wife on this matter. Wouldn't you?
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/8/12|
Bro.Mark, you give good advice, but my own daughter tried do to me, muslim husband told her get my personal accounts/ more. they call me / the bank and other agencies.same to her dad. No harm give them to be carefull..usuaslly the people live close / family friend / relative.Sad be the ones you trust, had taken a landlord to court he open door & steal my id they put gas & elec. / I had to struggle..my own family not help me and my husband left me. I know it sound believe like she not lying.However no harm be. Carefull. I told my daughter wait... next day marry him..for $$. hope these people be alright.Nothing wrong be cautious. Thank God I never had trouble with mother in laws.God bless all.
---ELENA on 11/8/12|
You are right, ELENA, they are theives, but this daughter in law is even worse than that (a special breed of evil person). This kind of person is so self-centered that they believe that the world is their own for them to plunder and that everyone is to be used and tormented by them (they are like a 'succubus', they suck the life out of everything).
Moving is useless in order to escape them, they now have the son's and mother's social security number and other information. Research her name (and aliases), addresses, and phone #'s (landline and cell), it's not "SPYING" on them, it's called "due diligence" like employers do...in prison, they will be LESS of a threat to you.
---more_excellent_way on 11/8/12|
So many of you are so ready to judge Kayki's daughter in law without even hearing from her or her son. It is not right to even conclude a judgment without the person having a right to speak for herself. I have seen many cases where the mother never liked the choice the son makes. An hate them always. The person the son chooses is never good enough. Lets not condemn this woman with so call names. It is not right. Lets just say, "if what you are saying is true" then, tells your son to close his credit cards. I know that is good advice.
---Mark_V. on 11/8/12|
More excellant way.
.this is ELENA very much can understand what you say and you know why? I agree the people who got all of us to pay for " healing supplements" we got dupped ...found the same vitamins now way cheapet same things ..at local RiteAid
They stole. Alot.from me with.cancer and others aids patient diabetic. Slick talk..fast moving with our $
Very polite and all.
Thieves. Just like any but proper words..God will take care of them! He will repay vengence.
Thankyou..from experience you got what we call " mother witt".
---ELENA on 11/7/12|
\\ she is an EXTREME narcissist, very wreckless/evil, spiteful, cunning, treacherous, conniving, and manipulative, lying and deceiving to EVERYONE....\\
Rather interesting that you can say such things about a woman you never met, and couldn't pick out in a crowd.
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/7/12|
I have had the unfortunate experience of knowing someone like your daughter in law. Be very careful and watch your credit records for identity theft/fraud, tell your son to do the same (take my words VERY seriously, she is an EXTREME narcissist, very wreckless/evil, spiteful, cunning, treacherous, conniving, and manipulative, lying and deceiving to EVERYONE....and with a big SMILE/GRIN on her face to cover her schemes/scams and cons).
Take my words VERY seriously!!
---more_excellent_way on 11/7/12|
At this point, pray for her. (That is you only choice.) He married her, and it will be up to him what action he might take, if any.
1 Corinthians 7:12-13 (NASB)
12 But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her.
---wivv on 11/6/12|
Big AMEN, Cluny.
---Trish on 11/5/12|
Something tells me that you yourself, kayki, taught your son how to live with controlling women.
If he wants to know what to do, he can seek help himself.
What YOU should do is MYOB and simply pray.
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/5/12|
What your son should do in this type of situation is to pray. During your son's prayer session, his wife must not be there because he need to mention her name and ask the Holy spirit to arrest her heart and bring her to the knowledge of Christ.Your son can also bind the evil spirit that is controlling her mind.The prayer must be in the morning and night until there is a visible change in her character.
God be with you and your son in Jesus name.
Rev.Noah Adetilewa (Baptist Minister)
---Rev.Noah_Adetilewa on 11/5/12|
There are many of these types of people. I never knew there were so many Christians, till I got saved. They seemed to come out of the wood-work. They are not fooling God or me, still they lie. I don't know the reason behind this, I can not figure it out. They are suffering from some-kind of something. It has to be some-kind of a demonic thing. Even the cops will lock up a prophet quoten Scriptures as they are slaming the cell door shut. A quoten Scriptures. Crazy world, man...... You are now stuck with this wwoman.
---pat on 11/5/12|
Kayki, it's almost impossible for someone to give your son good advice since it is you who is complaining, no one has heard your son or his wife complains. I'm sure because he is your son, you bring this up.
First of all it is his decision on what to do. And no matter what you say, nothing is going to stop him from doing what he wants to do. You can talk to him all you want, but you can never make him think, believe, see what you see, feel what you feel. He is responsible for his own actions, and only God can change his or her heart. What you should do is pray to God for their marriage. Trust in God and leave it to Him. Let God work in them His own purpose. I know you want the best for your son, that is why we turn them over to God.
---Mark_V. on 11/5/12|
Here are some things the real Christ said: Matthew 10:34-36 Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword.For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.And a man's foes shall be they of his own household. Matthew 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
---J_Marc on 11/5/12|
I don't know you, of course. It is possible that you yourself might be a controlling person . . . somehow. People in controlling churches can have outward standards that they dictate are "Christian". But they discover that their superficial standards can be very easily imitated by con artists, even by pedophile predators! So, are your standards really Christian, if a blaspheming abuser can imitate them?
So, yes I can see that he needs to not be trying to deal with her, so much as he needs to submit to God for how he himself needs to get right . . . so he does not just keep on getting himself into problems like this, in other ways because of his own ways that got him here.
---willie_c: on 11/5/12|
What should he do?
Pray. Theres no hope for anything outside of the Lord. He is greater than her (or any other) deception. The LORD came to destroy the deceiver and free those ensnared.
---chria9396 on 11/5/12|
Beloved,Sad to hear it,had very similar experience. upon reading she gets physically abusive get counselng onvolved or separation because sometimes (not all) but women grab sympathy he will.be hit with fines & more.People like her are "Camillions" she acts very well
Alteady he did Not know she was 'playing a. Christian.May God grant you peace.
---ELENA on 11/4/12|
Realizing that it is impossible to be the Christ, it is nevertheless required that we put on the new humanity.
His only escape from this snare is to become unreservedly a servant to this woman, realizing his desparate position, and wait on God to judge her for her iniquity.
Throughout the suffering he endures til she is brought down low by God he will be formed and shaped by the Divine hand according to the earnestness of his heart in her behalf.
If he can submit to God, realizing he unable to change a thing apart from His intervention in her life, he will come out on top eventually.
There is no pleasant way out of this.
---Phil on 11/4/12|
Trish...I have suggested to several newly married couples that the best thing they could do was to move away from both families so they could establish their own family without interference.
---KarenD on 11/4/12|
KarenD is right. Your son needs to work on his marriage with his wife, not with you. He can seek marital therapy with, or without his wife. But, he has no hope of restoring his marriage with you interfering.
Finally, a person cannot be controlled by a controlling spouse unless they let it happen.
---Trish on 11/4/12|
Kayki....He should move as far away from you as he can. Then maybe he can work on his marriage without your interference. God hates divorce!!!!
---KarenD on 11/3/12|
Jesus says, "'Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.'" (John 7:24) So, I must not evaluate a woman by her outward acting and say-so. Also, Jesus says His sheep "know His voice." (John 10:1-31) So, I have Jesus' voice to guide me about if and who I marry.
So, - - if he did not make sure he obeyed the voice of Jesus for making his choice about marriage, why not? Plus, did Jesus lead the pastor to pronounce them? Does the pastor know Christ's voice??
If he and his pastor were not obeying Jesus Christ's voice, she is not the problem!
---willie_c: on 11/4/12|